Pick a coworker you don't hate.

Ask if they want to join you for lunch.

If they agree, invite them again. Re-invite until it's expected. Have them bring coworkers they don't hate, or more likely they'll bring people to you. All of a sudden, you have a friend group.

Now, start talking about workplace grievances. When your friend group is agitated to the point of mobilizing, you have yourself a union organizing committee

Version updated for adults: "I have an Ibuprofen, wanna be friends?"

The friends you made as a kid were usually people you had to hang around with every single day. School, clubs, the neighborhood, etc.

Making friends as an adult is only harder because the only people you have to hang around with every day are at work, and that's not always the people you want to spend more time with outside of work.

So if you don't want to make friends with your coworkers, find another place to hang out with people on a regular basis. Volunteer, join a club, take classes, go to church, go to the gym, or do something that YOU find interesting. Make sure you go regularly and chat with the other people who are doing that activity regularly.

The most important thing is you don't join that activity only to make friends, but because you genuinely want to do it. If you want to be there, and the other people want to be there, then you already have a connection that you can build on.

The main thing to realize is that you don't have to spend money to make friends. You just have to figure out how to be in the same space as other people over and over again. That can be difficult for a lot of people, but it is possible.

HOLY SHIT, it's as easy as making friends when we were kids!

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I didn't have friends as a kid

This is so funny because that's what literally happened to me. When I was in first grade my parents sent me to a basketball academy. It was the first day. I went to the vending machine to get some gummy bears or whatever and for some reason the machine gave me 2 packets instead of 1. My dad told me to give one to some other kid. So I did and just like that we were best buds for the next couples of years until i stopped attending the academy. Sometimes it really is that simple.

Everybody likes the guy who offers them a stick of gum.

Friendships are hard in adulthood because of a myriad of reasons but its primarily that adults have a higher bar of trust needed so you need to build rapport slowly over time.

Its made extra bad today because everyone is working all the time but is too broke to visit social places weekly or more which is largely required for that rapport.

Can you be friendly by offering someone some gum and make them like you more in that moment? Sure. But try getting their contact information at the end of your social encounter and you'll find its more of a crapshoot if you get any, and even if you do whether you actually stay in regular contact anyway.

honestly, one of my best friends i've made as an adult, he was introducing himself at a meeting. he told an incredibly geeky linguistics joke about his name. i was probably the only person who laughed. after the meeting, i introduced myself and said "we should be friends". that's about all it took to start the relationship

The word 'friend' is practically useless. It can refer to a classmate you invited to your birthday party mostly just to get an extra present or it can refer to someone you've known for most of your life, love in a completely platonic sense, and would trust to help dispose of a body.

Relatable asf.

I've got my good bundle of silly autistic friends, and holy shit, they're lovely. 🥰

This could actually work. The first few times anyway.

I wonder how effective standing on a busy street corner wearing a sandwich board that says "wanna be friends?" would be. 🤔

Couldn't find another source than reddit, sorry about that.

Ok,on my part I would say pay her bill and boom you got her But only 20% stay for love others just want you to sort the bill for a long term And that's reality

Maaaan, constant bangers even after all these years. Love this one.

Alt version - You should mention that earlier, while I was getting the gum.

Anyway, I have a fox... is fox enough?