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[–] 176 points 13 hours ago (20 children)

Pick a coworker you don't hate.

Ask if they want to join you for lunch.

If they agree, invite them again. Re-invite until it's expected. Have them bring coworkers they don't hate, or more likely they'll bring people to you. All of a sudden, you have a friend group.

Now, start talking about workplace grievances. When your friend group is agitated to the point of mobilizing, you have yourself a union organizing committee

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    Do you really hate all of your coworkers, or do you despise your job so much that any inconvenience is attributed to the messenger and not the boss

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  • [–] 20 points 12 hours ago (3 children)

    I did this once. It worked well, still talk to most of those people from time to time since ive left that job.

    My issue was the near daily expectation of going out for lunch. Like who's made of money like that? Not going for lunch allows me to save like $100 a week now.

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  • [–] 4 points 10 hours ago (2 children)

    This may be a local thing but grabbing something you can eat on the move and taking a walk with your coworkers is a good alternative to eating out every time.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 hours ago

    That's fine once in a while, but in general, please do try to sit down somewhere and eat without distractions if you can, especially if you already have weight issues. You will feel satiated sooner and are not as prone to overeating.

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  • [–] 15 points 11 hours ago

    Though if you do this, be careful not to shit talk about other coworkers or management because you never know when someone will turn on you to get ahead in their career. Or if you must complain about work stuff, at least try to keep it to things you'd be ok with the other parties hearing about. Which is a decent rule of thumb in general.

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  • [–] 13 points 12 hours ago (5 children)

    Nah that’s just work friends. Those aren’t real friends. You will lose them when you change jobs.

    Go to the same place every day. Become a part of the scenery. Eventually people will approach you because you are familiar. Invite them to take a seat. Friends.

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  • [–] 9 points 12 hours ago (1 child)

    Work friends become real friends once you turn the work-friend group into an organizing committee. I still have dozens of friends from my previous job, because we were organizing together

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  • [–] 6 points 12 hours ago

    Oh man, I have many life-long friends from previous jobs. Whether this happens to you totally depends on where you work and the culture there, as well as how open you are and how often you reach out to people to organize stuff

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  • [–] 4 points 10 hours ago

    Nah, I have made real friends at work. If I leave my current job, I will absolutely keep in touch with my coworker. We are fully remote, but I will make him game with me if we stop working together. He's too chill for me to lose touch with.

    Other people at work I considered friends I did eventually lose touch with, but I went to one of their weddings, and had a great time caught up with a lot of my old coworkers.

    I agree, coworkers aren't always friends, but you spend a good chunk of your life there. If you don't make friends with some of them, you're losing out and making things more difficult for yourself.

    Nobody is expected to make work friends, but if you don't t least have one or two, you'll be more miserable at work.

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