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[–] 48 points 6 months ago

I once quit a well-paying job on the spot.

I was asked to write nuclear reactor safety specifications that I did not feel remotely qualified to write.

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  • [–] 45 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    I would never take a job at Palantir, United Healthcare, Nestle, Lockheed martin DeBeers. I don't give a fuck if they offered me million, but I'm Neurodivergent with a strong sense of justice while lacking the mental ability to act on it.

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  • [–] 42 points 6 months ago

    It depends on how dispersed the consequences are. Definitely no single human life is ruined.

    I'd steal a dollar from a 100k people.

    I'd not steal 100k from one person if they're not a multimillionaire at least.

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  • [–] 72 points 6 months ago* (8 children)

    This question really highlights how this is by design.

    The system becomes more and more expensive to exist in, forcing people to choose money over morals every day just to survive.

    Because if you're living paycheck to paycheck, of course you'll work for raytheon.

    Of course youll take that 50k cash for joining the ICE gestapo.

    Of course you'll only ever buy the cheapest shit from amazon and temu despite then using slave labour and killing factory workers.

    Of course you'll give up your morals to not have to live like everyone else that's been made into the impoverished 90% of the population, on the astronomical chance you'll get a taste of the 1% life.

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  • [–] 21 points 6 months ago*

    Buying less is the closest thing you can do to an ethical choice. So I have started to grow some of my own food and encourage friends to come round mine instead of going to a restaurant, plus I can make better food and brew my own mead.

    How many people working at Auschwitz were justifying it by needing the money, what did they need the money for?

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  • [–] -4 points 6 months ago* (6 children)

    nobody working for raytheon is working paycheck to paycheck. their starting salaries are over 100K for entry level jobs.

    not to mention they make a lot more they weapons. they make radars and sensors.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    You misread my comment. I said "If you're living paycheck to paycheck, of course you'll work for raytheon" meaning that someone who is living on the edge of homelessness will give up their morals and take the job at raytheon, because of the money.

    Radars and sensors for what, schoolbuses? Hospitals?

    A company making military hardware doesn't need to make explosives for them to be making weapons.

    The same way these AI companies don't have to pull the trigger, they just provide server space to run their 'target acquisition' software and let the jackbooted thugs do the rest.

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  • [–] -1 points 6 months ago* (2 children)

    someone living on the edge of homelessness won't ever be hired by them. Their workforce is upper middle class professionals.

    for aviation and boats and civilian applications. they also make navigation systems, autopilots, etc.

    I have friends who work for Raytheon, last time I checked they were just nerdy engineers, not jackbooted thugs.

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  • [–] 10 points 6 months ago

    When you're in a wilful misrepresentation competition and your opponent is an online commenter...

    I didn't say your friends were jackbooted thugs. I am talking about the people and governments that these companies supply.

    I would, however, say your friends are working for a company that is actively arming and supporting ethnic cleansing and genocide.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    Im an out of work professional who could conveivably work at raytheon and it kinda depends on what you mean by edge but eventually if something does not happen myself and my wife will be homeless. Savings run out.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago (1 child)

    Salary level has nothing to do with "living paycheck to paycheck." I've met plenty of well paid people that fit that description. Either because of cost of living or just because they're dumb and can't live below their means.

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  • [–] 23 points 6 months ago

    Did not and still would not.

    Hell, I even got fired from a nursing job for telling doctors they did a poor job with a patient to their face. While being the main income, with two kids.

    You adapt, find something else.

    No regrets, would even say it's a building moment for oneself. If you fold at the first pression, you'll always fold. My moral compass is too important for me to sell it.

    Can't find ? Change job, change region, change country. Most of the time, you have a choice.

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  • [–] 22 points 6 months ago

    I wouldn't work for Palantir for any amount of money under any circumstance I can imagine.

    I wouldn't be able to live with myself.

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  • [–] 21 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I "sold out" i was desperate and took a job with Burson-Marsteller a major crisis response public relations company. I got fired after 4 months for making fun of a client to a co-worker. I saw some shit that made me never go against my morals after that. The worst thing (that I can talk about since it was leaked to the press already) was Mars candy company lobbying congress to make sugar based snacks part of school lunches.

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  • [–] 20 points 6 months ago (9 children)

    I've turned down jobs because I thought they would make the world worse.

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  • [–] 12 points 6 months ago (7 children)

    I've literally said "people like you are the reason the world sucks" to peoples faces.

    It's unlikely to change anyone, but someone has to tell them. Otherwise, the ones that try to lie to themselves about what they're doing, might succeed.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    I've found it's better to focus on people's actions, rather than the people themselves. i.e. if I tell someone they as a person are a problem, that's very hard for them to change. If I tell them their action is a problem, that's a lot easier.

    ofc it may still be tough to change their action, but at least it makes them consider why they are commiting that action, and it may even lead to the realization that (often) the problem is systemic.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    That line is always said in direct response to something they do.

    If you focus on the action, you allow a lot of people to take comfort in the illusion that they are a good person, despite their actions.

    That's not how it works. If you do evil, then you are part of the problem. That only changes once you stop.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    If you do evil, then you are part of the problem. That only changes once you stop.

    I think we fundamentally agree, and are now just debating tactics. Personally I've found that telling someone they're evil makes it easy for them to dismiss my opinion completely.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    Yes.

    And that's not what I do. Participating in evil is evil. I remind people of that. It's so normal that it's easy to forget.

    If a person isn't evil, they should want to stop as soon as possible. The ones that care can easily forget to endeavor to do so. Me included.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    can't exactly say this but I have refused to sign bs contracts and lost severance and also put up enough stipulations to not get something that was morally questionable. basically they could have me with a certain set of ground rules.

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  • [–] 18 points 6 months ago

    You're pricing yourself too cheaply. My soul is easily worth seven figures...

    Seriously, if you're willing to do immoral things for money you need to take a hard look at yourself and your views about what is moral and why. And are you willing to do things that will make anonymous strangers suffer? How about your friends? Research strongly suggests that a willingness to put the good of the community above our own needs is probably why humans as a species are still around. What kind of person do you want to see in the mirror every morning?

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  • [–] 18 points 6 months ago

    More than I'd probably care to admit to myself.

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  • [–] 18 points 6 months ago

    Everyone's a saint until the rent's due...

    I'm currently working on making a graceful exit from a position I'm no longer comfortable with, so it's hard to say what I'd do if offered a massive salary to put myself back into a similar situation.

    I suspect that there are few ethically pure jobs out there, and very few alternatives that don't feed into the orphan crushing machine somehow. So in my mind it comes down to striking a balance between what impact your position has, what level of control you exercise over what the company does, and what you can do outside of work to try and improve the system.

    Are you willing to campaign and vote against the interests of your employer even if it means the possibility of being laid off or fired? Does supporting yourself financially provide a benefit to marginalized people by making the scarce aid they can find more available to them? Are you designing products or processes to increase other's misery or just mopping the floor? If you quit, what impact would it have on the org as a whole?

    I don't think there's a simple answer to this, and I've long felt that we allow our occupations define our identites to an unhealthy degree, so I'd rather judge and be judged based on one's beliefs and actions outside of work than for participating in a system designed to force our participation.

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  • [–] 17 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Fun thought experiment, but I don’t think one can know without it truly on the table. I like to think I would not at all, but my responsibilities to loved ones may force me to in some situation.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Easy, just don't have so many loved ones. /s

    As someone who doesn't really have responsibilities to loved ones I don't really know what I would do with it if I suddenly got something like 3k a month (total). So a 300k yearly which is almost 9x more doesn't really appeal to me, unless the job itself is nice.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago

    its basically one of the reasons to not have kids. you see how people can be controlled in this way and at best these kids are going to be in your same position or worse as things have been going for the last 50 years. luckily older folk generally have done a bit better and you don't have to worry about them much.

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  • [–] 15 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I'm not comfortable with even mild compromise.

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  • [–] 13 points 6 months ago

    I'd rather live on the streets than work for palantir.

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  • [–] 12 points 6 months ago

    I was fortunate enough to grow up firmly middle class. My dad sold car chemicals for a pretty good income. He and my stepmom (who also made good money in project management) explained the concept of golden handcuffs to me in high school, that when you start making a lot of money and get used to that lifestyle it’s tough to take a pay cut that takes it away. They didn’t seem especially happy or content to me so having a lot of money has never been a priority for me. I just want enough to get by and save for the future.

    When I was scraping by on 28k a year slinging pizzas and delivering for the post office on Amazon Sundays I told my project manager uncle that if I made twice what I did at the time I would be fine. Now I do make 60k working IT for a school district where I can sometimes do some good, and like I had told my uncle I’m doing fine now. I have a pension, I can max out my Roth IRA, have a good down payment for my next car when mine kicks the bucket, and I’m lucky enough to rent a couple rooms relatively cheap from a friend who was lucky enough for their farmer parents to buy them most of a house, all owing me to save a few hundred a month for a house of my own. And I can still buy nice stuff for myself every now and then.

    Sometimes I think it would be nice to have an extra 10 or 20k for extra breathing room, but moving back to the private sector would suck, and I would probably just end up like my mother whose financial advisor literally tells her to spend more money. I feel very privileged to say this, but I just don’t think I could be bought at this point.

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  • [–] 11 points 6 months ago

    Itt, people build the Torment Nexus

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  • [–] 11 points 6 months ago*

    250k is SO LOW man. It's not that hard to get by and be happy on 60k a year if you use your money right. Your happiness and peace can't be quantified. Do you want to enjoy life, love people, and make the world better? Or just be another parasite who makes everyone's life just a bit worse every day

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  • [–] 10 points 6 months ago (5 children)

    Hard to say. The amount of money someone would have to pay me to murder someone, for example, would be in the tens of millions, but I have no use for that much money so risking it feels pointless.

    It would pretty much need to be so much that I could retire in a year or two - otherwise it's pretty meaningless. I'm already in the financial situation where I can afford almost anything I want, and what I want isn't that much. Most of it I already have.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    murder is a bit to far for me. maybe if it was a lot and they could convince me its a greater type of good. like not only are they bad but they can't be arrested and will continue to do bad things that must be prevented.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago (1 child)

    If it was up close and personal, then probably for me too no matter what the price is. However, if it was "press a button and someone somewhere dies and you get paid" then probably not if I'm being completely honest.

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  • [–] 9 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

    Not for a salary. My morals are holding out for some kind of corruption at least.

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  • [–] 9 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    There’s a recent Ezra Klein on “salaries are for suckers” as relates to our tax code and how the billionaires evade taxation.

    Income tax is set up to gouge us, working class, skilled and unskilled, from those working at Taco Bell to Doctors, while letting stock holder based income remain untouched.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    it drives me nuts to see doctors and such be so anti tax. its like your supposed to be smart. don't you see how the highest tax bracket pretty much ends with you?! You should be demanding a million dollar bracket and 10mil and so on.

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  • [–] 9 points 6 months ago

    I have a pretty strong adherence to my personal moral compass. So - a lot more than some. There are politicians who get caught taking 4 and 5 figure bribes or job offers with mid 6 figures (USD). I wouldn’t sell out my people - and risk being caught - for less than 7 figures. Money that makes me comfortable to disappear and not work.

    For a job, it needs to be fuck you money (buy a Japanese shit box and midsize home with enough left to live the rest of my life) within a tolerable period and that depends on the job, but I suspect seldom would it exceed 3 years.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    The older I get, the more I realise I am susceptible to moral injury. I can't do evil work without destroying myself. And I don't mean morally as in I feel a little guilty - I get increased stress, more depressed etc.

    But unfortunately, I need to keep a roof over my head and stay fed.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    the lucky thing is I have an ability to do incredible things and also do a half assed job. my motivation is a combination of extrinsinct factors like pay and instrinsinct factors like if what im doing is beneficial or harmful.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago

    Interesting question. I think it partially depends on how high up in the company I am, and how much I could damage them without being caught.

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  • [–] 8 points 6 months ago

    I’ve outright not even looked at opportunities working in certain companies eg Meta, gambling firms etc.

    Have worked for an ‘evil’ corpo before when I was very young and became disillusioned and jaded.

    It’s a major consideration for me now when looking at potential employers, as to how ethical it is and what it gives back to society.

    I don’t just want to make line go up for shareholders, I would like to make a difference, however naive that may sound.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago

    Well... I was 1/3 heir to a large apartment building that around that time was worth approximately 30 million dollars. It was not a family member of mine. But I had been performing most of the maintenance tasks in the building for about 4 years at that point.

    I walked away from it over a couple things. The children of the owner were causing issues because I was entrusted with a lot of access and other things they didn't like, the owner had no concept of value of other people's time, and the owner had created a safety hazard in the building fire alarm system and ignored it even though i told him it needed to be fixed and was outside of my purview.

    A few years after I left the fire alarm panel still had the same issue. The battery charger was not working correctly and the batteries needed replaced/upgraded. The Fire Marshall walked into the building after an anonymous tip I made and the panel was in an audible fault condition.

    After I left my wife was sick and we were nearly homeless living in an old rv in a friend's driveway. It took us about 7 months to get back on our feet again.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago

    I wouldn't.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago

    I don't, and haven't, and I've lived in poverty before that the average person would find humiliating.

    That said, I can see I have a stronger sense of righteousness than the average person, probably due to some type of neurodivergence. I have dealt with plenty of bullying for it. So the pain that comes from it sometimes is something I'm used to and no longer afraid of.

    It's easier once you lose the fear. Fear is what pushes people to compromise their morals.

    It also helps that I'm relatively smart and can always find alternative options so far.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    I’d lie my way into a position that can run on autopilot for a few months, while I line up the next scam. The real skill would be maintaining the ruse across organizations, while actively working against the environments I would con my way into.

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    [–] 6 points 6 months ago

    Depends entirely on the moral and the money.

    Would I rip out a page from a hardcover book for a billion dollar? Probably.

    Would I kill a human being for any amount? Absolutely not.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago

    I'd need enough money to never have to worry about money ever again. And even then, it wouldn't be without hesitation.

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  • [–] 6 points 6 months ago

    Been there, done that - kept my morals/ethics. I am retiring this year. Not as well off as maybe I could have been but I can look myself in the mirror and I sleep well at night. I have enough. Not as much as others who put money above everything, but enough. I also never need to worry about someone stabbing me or shooting me because my business caused loss to them. I don't have to worry that my partner or children are toxic and only want my money which often happens to people who don't have ethics or morals and are only out for the money themselves - like attracts like?

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    I have no code of ethics, I will kill anyone, anywhere. Children, animals, old people. Doesn't matter! I just love money!

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago

    I guess perspective is important here. My personal morals are very important to me and I have been tested. Those don't bend even if it means going against the crowd or friends.

    At the same time I won't pretend that my personal set of morals is completely in line with what a majority would call normal.

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (4 children)

    Honestly, most people working at a large corporation are not that impactful. Just a cog in the machine. The worst part is being surrounded by people who lack any morals/values. So I guess I'd work anywhere until I feel like I'm adding too much value to a company and/or I get sick of the people I work with.

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (3 children)

    Honestly, most people working at a large corporation are not that impactful. Just a cog in the machine.

    Just like any soldier in Nazi Germany's army. Being a cog in the machine does not take away the guild from killing someone, or, if we are talking about "evil" companies, from denying someone treatment, or violating someone's privacy, or...

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

    Are we really going to equate someone who might be working in accounting for Facebook to a soldier in Nazi Germany...?

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  • [–] 5 points 6 months ago (1 child)

    Depends on how much do I need the money. Last time I was looking for work I wasn't stressed so I wasn't even considering offers from companies in fields I consider immoral like crypto or gambling. If I had to choose between working for Google or living with my parents I would work for Google.

    If I already had a job paying €50k and some evil company wanted to pouch me this is how much they would have to pay me:

    Google: €150k

    OpenAI: €200k

    Meta: €300k

    Amazon: € 500k

    Microsoft: €500k

    Palantir: never

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    At one point I had a job interview with a spam company, and I took it seriously. Luckily I failed

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    I get everything I need from my current salary, so right now it would be infinity dollars. More money won't make me happier and an eviler job would make me less happy.

    But if my family was in danger of becoming homeless, then I would do nearly anything to protect them. It's easy to say now, but I'd probably value their lives at significantly more than the lives I'd take. Especially if I felt the victims were deserving somehow.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    For a paycheck? Meh. I’ve lived comfortably on $35k or less for almost 30yrs, there’s no allure to a bigger check. If you gave me a scenario where I desperately needed the money, say to save my dog’s life, I’d still try and figure out a way to lie, cheat, steal, or kill some rich, conservative asshole to get the money rather than work for them.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago* (5 children)

    Interesting question.

    I have (personal) ethics, I don't have any morals: I don't believe in good vs evil). My ethics help decide on a case by case situation what I should (not) do as there is no predefined rule in regards to earning money, nor on how to use said money once it's earned.

    I mean, would you consider it 'moral' to use, say, the million of dollars one may have earned speculating on Meta or Tesla stocks, or any other 'immoral' company like those, to support a 'moral' non-profit like the EFF, or the FSF?

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago (3 children)

    I'm gonna be a pedant here. I understand (I think) what you're trying to express and differentiate. It's just the words aren't perfectly accurate.

    "Personal" ethics are morals. Ethics are community based standards or principles, morals are personal standards. Some people equate morals to religious guidelines or principles, but morals don't have to be religious (nor do distinctions of good and evil, right and wrong). Personal understanding of what is right or wrong is a moral standing. It is possible to have morals (personal belief) based on ethics (community standard), but they are still morals.

    IMO, anyway.

    Morals can be principally driven, and often are even in people that don't understand the principle that underlies an ethical standard. For instance, a conscientious objector might still defend themselves or others from personal violence. In this case the underlying principle is one of, say, political neutrality, or perhaps political opposition, not pacifism. And yet the person themselves might not be able to put into words why is okay to use violence one on one, but not militarily. I'm rambling

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  • [–] 2 points 6 months ago* (2 children)

    I’m gonna be a pedant here. I understand (I think) what you’re trying to express and differentiate. It’s just the words aren’t perfectly accurate.

    English is obviously not my first language, but reading the good old Wikipedia it seems to me the two are rather different (like they're in my own native French, btw ;): ethics and moral

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago (1 child)

    Neat! I'm gonna come back to this once I've finished work. I was using the OED definitions and understanding:

    Ethics – Rules of conduct in a particular culture or group recognised by an external source or social system. For example, a medical code of ethics that medical professionals must follow.

    Morals – Principles or habits relating to right or wrong conduct, based on an individual’s own compass of right and wrong.

    But this idea of an Aristotelian understanding of ethics vs morals is fascinating. Thank you for the link :-D

    Also it is not obvious from your original comment that English is a secondary language for you <3 French is on my bucket list, but I want to learn basic German first. Both for etymological reasons primarily

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    But this idea of an Aristotelian understanding of ethics vs morals is fascinating. Thank you for the link :-D

    You're more than welcome.

    Also it is not obvious from your original comment that English is a secondary language for you <3

    Thx (here you might want to add a blushing emoji, if there is such a thing)

    French is on my bucket list, but I want to learn basic German first. Both for etymological reasons primarily

    This would make sense.

    Plus, ignoring any other consideration, German language has produced quite a few remarkable authors/poets/philosophers that are more than worth (re)reading. I would not want to have to decide between French and German (or English) but I can understand the desire to prioritize one above the others.

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  • [–] 1 point 6 months ago

    I would not invest in say crypto to fund EFF or FSF but I would be fine with like an SP500 investments doing so even though its likely there are all sorts of bad stuff in there. Honestly if I had that type of money I would likely spend more time deciding on how my investments were done to encourage the good while not losing money and then decide on what amount to put toward EFF and FSF.

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  • [–] 3 points 6 months ago

    Basically if there's no crimes against humanity and I'm jot directly harming anyone.

    I'd like to say my line is morals are more stringent than that, but I just don't have that option.

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago*

    How far would you swallow your morals for money?

    OP: Hell I’d work for Pаlаntir for a nice $250k

    I'm pretty sure OP went as far as they could...

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  • [–] 4 points 6 months ago

    I think it would depend on the price. I'll screw one annoying person over if I get paid maybe $1.5B, nothing less. The person needs to be very annoying.

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  • [–] 7 points 6 months ago

    Gross take. Call me a goody two shoes if you want, but I wouldn't, and I actively look down on people who do.

    The only way you'd get me to work for those kinds of companies is if I could actively sabotage them from the inside.

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