It's called being a normal person. Everyone is more sensitive to friends and family than random strangers....

This obsessive need to pathologize ordinary life expereinces is counter-productive to everyone. You're not special, you're just boring and average. Most online 'neurodivergents' are not autistic or adhd, they are just self-appointed obsessive jerks who can't own up to their social failings (which often aren't even really failings in real life, just in their own heads.)

Way too many online weirdos basically want to be mentally ill, because it gives them something to blame that isn't themselves and it absolves them of responsibility they are so desperately seeking to avoid.

What's funny is the internet blew up tomorrow most of these so called neurodivergent would be forced to mingle in real life with folks all their self-proclaimed issues would go away because they wouldn't have online spaces to bias confirm themselves into a neurotic fixation there is something 'wrong' with them. Or worse, try to convince others of their 'diagnosis' they are throwing random based on a few random internet comments. They also couldn't circlejerk themselves hours per day about what morally superior geniuses they are based on what flavor of linux they use.

it doesn't, but that's how internet weirdos use it almost exclusively because they are circle jerking about their self-diagnoses mostly.

Reminds of that tone time on reddit i got a mod warning about being misogynistic for not liking Jane Austen novels... it extends to even your preferences in media.

This person does not care about you. A lot of people in relationships don't care about their partners. You will be a lot happier alone than with a person who is nothing but an emotional drain on your life.

more popular, and more problems that come with popularity. like a continual slide in content quality.

What i notice the most the past year is a huge uptick in ragebait and doombait posting. some larger communities are like 95% nothing but click-farming headlines and users trying to one-up each other in how raging and hateful their comments are.

even a lot of the lighthearted stuff, like memes and showerthoughts, 90% of the posts are just doomerbait.

use piefed

No. They sit down next to you and they say hi to you.

Just go out. Go to bars, cafes, restaurants, movies, plays/concerts, etc and sometimes just hang out. Places also used to be open much later and they were much cheaper. I never got drunk.

I had many places I'd go out regularly. a lot of them closed and got replaces by much more expensive places that cater to a ultra snobby crowd I don't want to be around.

rage is the primary currency of the internet these days. it's what motivates people to interact, and repeatedly interact.

You ever notice how users who are irrationally angry with you will comment at you multiple times? yeah...

Mostly ignore people and go out into the woods in various ways.

Or read books.

I used to go out a lot but increasingly people IRL in my city are weird and hostile, like a lot of fediverse users, so it's just nicer to stay home than go outside and be harassed by a weirdo with a complex. Prior to '22 nobody ever came up to me looking to start a fight ever, since middle school. But basically every other month someone tries to start a fight with me on the street or at a restaurant now, it's insane. IME it feels like the insanity of online/social media rage/hostility is bleeding over into reality and people feel like they must tell random people they see IRL how much they hate them.

That's why you need to use the block button liberally here. It sucks, but once you block a few instances and a couple of dozen users, the content here is more moderate and less insane.

Sadly the small size of lemmy/fedi allows a few dozen users to basically dominate the content pool. And they are vicious towards anyone they regard as hostile to themselves.

Once I blocked .ml, blahj, and a few others, the content here got way more sane and less negative. The users in those instance have bully complexes.

I don't consider my self a paragon of moral virtue and intellectual genius based on my political opinions.

I also really enjoy my PS5 and my Switch 2. That's not allowed here.