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[–] 70 points 8 months ago (15 children)

If you can't find a comfortable temperature when you're sleeping under blankets, just stick one foot, and maybe part of your lower leg, out from under of the blankets. It acts like a radiator, and will release much of your excess heat.

A kid showed this to me at a childhood slumber party, and it's been a useful tip ever since.

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  • [–] 72 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    I'm not taking advice from an obvious night monster.

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  • [–] 18 points 8 months ago (4 children)

    But then the monsters might eat my foot!

    Really though: I have a visceral aversion to having my feet exposed like that. If I’m lying down or even sitting on the couch, my feet must be covered. I could have no other blankets, except on my feet.

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  • [–] 11 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    Yeah, you have a different issue.

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago* (1 child)

    Nah, it’s that I would love to be able to use it as a radiator like you suggested, but I have a sensory problem with exposing my feet like that. It’s really annoying actually, because I have some chronic conditions that make me more heat sensitive now, and even though I know it would help a ton, I still can’t stand the feeling of my feet being exposed.

    So, same problem, but sadly can’t use your solution.

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

    Idk how much it would help you, but if you can source some fairly common stuff and do some mild DIY, you can make a cold pack/pad that “freezes” at room temp and lasts a super long time. It isn’t cold, more like cool water that stays cool. You could even make socks out of it, if you want. They would be weird and squishy and probably trigger some sort of sensory thing, but you COULD :p

    https://youtube.com/watch?v=Nqxjfp4Gi0k

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  • [–] 4 points 8 months ago

    That's noob tier. I'm a blanket junkie for some reason, so I have to compromise in any weather. The blanket could be covering any part of my body, from neck-to-toe to just the legs, to one vertical half, to part of the torso, to just a corner being on me.

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago

    It's not just that it acts like a radiator. Feet are also not very sensitive, so if they're a little cold it won't bother you. You could obviously get rid of a lot more heat by exposing your torso, but it will feel cold much sooner.

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    [+] 36 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (3 children)
  • [–] 23 points 8 months ago (5 children)

    If you have a song stuck in your head, and it's driving you a bit mad: listen to it. Something about your mind trying to fill things in (it's been many years since I've read this bit of advice, and unsure entirely on why).

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    And if you always seem to have music stuck in your head, go research ADHD symptoms, as that is one of many. And if you DO have ADHD, things like ritalin can silence the music. (One of several things I still remember from my first ritalin)

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    [–] 23 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    cook bacon in water. 

    don't drown it, but add just enough to render out the fat without the bacon being in direct contact with the pan, preventing sticking and burning. then once the water steams out the bacon is left to fry in its own juice, giving perfectly crispy bacon every time. 

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    [–] 22 points 8 months ago* (3 children)

    This is cooking advice.

    If you struggle with cooking or find that you mess up often, try preparing all of the individual ingredients before you start cooking. Eg. measure, wash, cut every ingredient. Apparently this practice is called mise en place.

    If you ever watch a cooking video and it looks so effortless this is probably why. It was a game changer back when I was learning to cook. Suddenly it felt like I could make every recipe with ease.

    This practice has drawbacks as it could dirty more dishes and increase cook times but it allows you to tackle most dishes at your own pace. I definitely recommend it whenever you make something new for the first time.

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  • [–] 6 points 8 months ago

    Mise en place is essential in my mind and one of the most important skills I learned early on in culinary school. At home if you don't want to dirty a ton of dishes, you can organize ingredients (veggie ones anyway, still need bowls for spices/liquids) into small piles on your cutting board. Then just grab a bench scraper or the side of your knife and toss the ingredients in as needed.

    Also, get a kitchen scale. You won't need it all the time but it's so much easier to just stick a pot on top of a scale and add 500 ml of chicken stock than it is to have to measure 2 cups in a separate container. This is especially good if you're looking to blanche/simmer something in a flavorful liquid like stock or broth

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago

    Also read the whole recipe including the method and notes; some love to just slip things in that aren't in the ingredients list (something to grease a pan, etc.) and knowing times and temps is very useful.

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago

    I don't particularly struggle with cooking and like to think I'm quite good at it, but I've started doing this, because I realised that every time I messed up, it was because I left something on for too long while prepping the next bit to go in the pan.

    Having everything chopped, measured, and ready means you can pay full attention to what's currently going, so you're not rushed and panicking.

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  • [–] 21 points 8 months ago (17 children)

    If you get that feeling where you need to sneeze but it's not quite enough for a full sneeze, say the word grapefruit. 60% of the time it works every time

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  • [–] 27 points 8 months ago (7 children)

    For me it's just looking at something bright.

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  • [–] 4 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    Wait, are you saying you can look at a bright light to suppress a sneeze? I used to work with a guy who said bright light sometimes made him sneeze.

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    Ha, for me it's the opposite. I have to cover my eyes, not just close them because I can still feel the brightness through my eyelids, so I have to physically cover them with my hands.

    Also, if people talk I can't sneeze either. So if I'm around people I'm comfortable around, they know I'm about to sneeze and stop talking. That's very sweet of them.

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    I imagine this looking really adorable. Talking to someone who then suddenly covers their eyes and sneezes.

    I often sneeze two times but when someone's bless you comes between them, my second sneeze is cancelled most of the times. So most people who know me will wait in anticipation wether I sneeze a second time.

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago

    Haha, it gets annoying real fast!

    Yeah, it's good to sneeze around people who know you well enough to not disrupt your sneezing, because there's nothing more frustrating than not being able to sneeze.

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  • [–] 40 points 8 months ago (8 children)

    In a financial negotiation, avoid saying a number first, even if it seems like you're being rude, just say stuff like "what's your budget" instead. This trick sounds really stupid but somehow it is extremely effective.

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  • [–] 4 points 8 months ago

    This is why I have doubts about Macklemore's business acumen:

    I went to the moped store, said "Fuck it"

    And salesman's like "What up, what's your budget?"

    And I'm like "Honestly, I don't know nothing about mopeds"

    (Macklemore - Downtown)

    I suppose at least he doesn't immediately answer about the budget, but it still seems like a less than stellar negotiating technique.

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    I took a community college class on business negotiations. I learned about BATNA (best alternative to a negotiated agreement) and it's been extremely helpful as a tool for negotiations. It's setting a baseline and reduces any emotional toll.

    Tl;Dr: define your BATNA before any negotiation. For example: say you know your salary industry standard is at $80k. You receive an offer for $70k, politely see if they have wiggle room for more, based on industry standard. If they come back with $75k, your plan is clear. In this negotiation, your BATNA is to walk away - no hard feelings.

    When I sold my car, I set my BATNA to $9k, and put it for sale at $11k. The guy immediately tried to haggle and offered $10k. I shook his hand immediately and sold it.

    It doesn't have to be a hard number either. Like comparing benefits or perks.

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago

    I guess that could make sense if there is such a narrow range of possible outcomes and everyone has some clear objective idea of a baseline, but I've gotten freelance gigs where I would have been willing to do it for say $X, but was offered like $3X and was very happy to have kept my mouth shut and not talked numbers at all before that point. If I hadn't I think I might not have gotten the job at all because the price being lower than the expectation would have made the client worried about the quality of the work, and even if I did get it that would have made them less satisfied with the deal.

    As for your other comment, it's not always true that combativeness will make people less satisfied with a transaction. I remember a particular situation where I was negotiating with another freelancer who was obviously also purposely avoiding saying a number, and I ended up caving when it got truly absurd and cited some past payments to use as a reference point. I was personally more satisfied with the deal because he did that, because it increased my respect for him; we were going to be working together and it was nice to feel that I could trust him to not be a pushover in general.

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  • [–] 40 points 8 months ago* (5 children)

    If you can't sleep. Get up. Get out of your bed for a while.

    Staying awake while laying in bed often changes the association of sleep with the bed. Removing sleep conditioning effects.

    Also as someone who has had insomnia since I was a child. I can tell you if I lay in bed. Unable to sleep. And Stay there. Rolling around. I won't ever fall asleep.

    But if I force myself to get up. Maybe have something to drink. Walk around a bit. Stare out the window for a bit. Then go back , I'm more likely to fall asleep.

    And if I'm having really bad insomnia. I go for a walk. At this point I'm my life I can tell if it's going to require a walk or just getting up and moving around the apartment/house for a bit.

    Even a 15-20 min walk can do wonders. But I typically do 30 to 1 hour walk. It depends on how I'm feeling.

    You would think exercising in the middle of the night would wake you up more. But nope.

    9/10 times I go for a short walk. I get back and fall to sleep almost immediately.

    It's hard to force yourself to get up when you are exhausted and just want to sleep. But it's do the walk or not sleep at all.

    Also. Going out at 2 or 3 am on a week day is kinda of an interesting experience. Depending where you live, you might be the only person around.

    It's eirie and surreal. Subliminal spaces.

    I quite like it. That also helps motivate me to do the insomnia walk. (Sometimes I ride my bike instead which is really nice as there are minimum cars. -make sure you are in light clothes and have lights and reflectors on your bike).

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  • [–] 10 points 8 months ago* (4 children)

    Yep. Doctors and randos alike will keep telling you to just try harder. Fuck that.

    Read a book. Work some more on your project. Go for a run. Don't try to sleep.

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  • [–] 11 points 8 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

    Years of reading in bed late at night while exhausted have conditioned me to associate reading with falling asleep. I don't have insomnia much anymore, often the opposite. Any time I want to lay down and read my book before bed, I'm out like a light before I finish a single chapter. It could be a super power, but it also means it takes me months to finish a novel. Also not ideal when I occasionally need to read reports or training materials at work and get to the end and my head is on the desk and I can't keep my eyes open.

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago

    I have a very stubborn brain that will usually do the opposite of what I want.

    My method is to try and turn on a movie or something I really have to pay attention to. I'll start struggling to stay awake to keep track, and that will knock me out.

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  • [–] 19 points 8 months ago (1 child)

    So if you ever get a random headache that is just a pinching pain in a random spot then try breathing there. I don't mean breathe deep or breathe into that spot but actually concentrate super hard into that spot and imagine this is where your lungs are. Concentrate when you breathe and think about how the air goes exactly into that spot directly from your mouth cause this is where your lungs are now, and how you breathe out from there. Keep concentrating and breathing there.

    I don't know why it doesn't work if I just take deep breaths but this is legit the only way I can stop the pulsating stabs until they are gone. Concentrate hard tho because once you stop the pain returns unless the attack is over.

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    [–] 17 points 8 months ago* (3 children)

    Staying warm actually does ward off illness. Specifically, you need to keep your nose warm or else its local immune response becomes surprisingly ineffective.

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  • [–] 16 points 8 months ago (4 children)

    Rapid eye movement and looking at things, mentally noting them, acknowledge sounds and smells can help regulate moments of anxiety.

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago (1 child)

    Standard practice for interrupting an anxiety attack is to name 5 things you can see, 4things you can hear, 3 things you can smell, 2 things you can touch and 1 thing you can taste. I've never used it myself but I've used it to de-escalate people who are having a flipout

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  • [–] 1 point 8 months ago

    I've never understood that last one. Assuming I am otherwise physically healthy and don't have any foreign objects in my mouth, I can't really taste anything but neutrality. Technically I can probably taste saliva, but I think my brain filters that out and noting it doesn't seem like it would help anyway.

    Unless I'm misinterpreting and I'm supposed to go lick something during a panic attack. I know I've read that biting into a lemon can help.

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    [–] 31 points 8 months ago (5 children)

    When you sprain your ankle, DON'T MOVE. I used to try and walk it off because that's what everyone does and even coaches recommend it, but that's when the actual damage is done.

    Spraining is usually just your tendons/ligaments going into emergency mode (getting very short/tight). So if you try to walk while they are still tight, they will actually tear, doing damage that takes weeks to heal. If you instead just keep that ankle perfectly still for like 30 seconds to 2 min, the ankle will be completely fine.

    Trick is, you have to overcome the social pressure to hurry it along (i.e. on a hike at work, or on a sport field).

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  • [–] 7 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    I rolled my ankle, damaged the arch of my foot and rode my bike home because I couldn't walk. I didn't really have a good support system to say the least and had to rely on myself. I have a slight limp now. Definitely listen to this advice. Dr was facepalming so hard when I told him what I'd done.

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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    I broke my ankle, didn't realize it was broken, and tried to twist it back into place and stand on it. Twice.

    My doctors all had things to say about that, too. As well, like you, I have a pronounced limp after walking more than a few steps.

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    [–] 15 points 8 months ago* (2 children)

    Seeing a horizon can fix short-term balance issues, or temporarily relieve long-term issues like labyrinthitis/vertigo, because it feeds the secondary ocular-vestibulo brain bit and gets you back settled and leveled. Unless you're drunk or damaged, it's a neat trick.

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  • [+] [S] 3 points 8 months ago (1 child)
  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago*

    You don't have to see it clearly, just see it. And you can be fooled, too, by level lines that look like horizons: the corner between wall and ceiling in a room with slight contrast in paint colours can light the reflex and calm the spin. This is stone-age lizard-brain stuff so it doesn't have to be perfect.

    I think it's the same thing that lets a chicken or an eagle track a spot while turning.

    I caught a virus at college that was going around. They didn't try to trace it but like a dozen of us who met during treatment all suffered damage to our vestibular network in one or both ears and were staggering about until this secondary thing took over full-time. The damage is permanent but this reflex thing keeps us vertical. It's really astounding.

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  • [–] 15 points 8 months ago

    If you’re walking with an open container of liquid that’s filled so full it’ll spill, purposefully avert your gaze from the liquid sloshing as you’re walking.

    Getting nervous that you’ll spill, will cause you to spill.

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  • [+] 40 points 8 months ago (16 children)
  • [–] 10 points 8 months ago (3 children)

    Ya, and if you shop online put purchases in your shopping cart and let them sit for a few days.

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  • [–] 3 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    I have heard this can cause the retailer to email you a discount code/coupon, but that's never happened to me so I can't corroborate.

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  • [–] 7 points 8 months ago (6 children)

    As big as my Steam backlog is, it would be 100x bigger if not for the Wishlist. I try to limit myself to 100 games in the Wishlist and trim it every once in a while when a game has been sitting in it for more than a couple years. It's the same psychology here. Put it in a cart and let it sit there for a while. If you don't really want it put it back.

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  • [–] -2 points 8 months ago* (3 children)

    Why would you ever have a backlog in the first place? Why would you buy a game and then not play it?

    Put the games you want to play in the future on your wishlist. When you're ready to play a new game, pick one from your wishlist, buy it, play it.

    The games aren't going away, they're not going to run out of digital copies. Why would you ever buy it before you're ready to play it? It doesn't matter whether it's sitting in your wishlist or your hard drive, so let them sit in your wishlist, where it's a lot cheaper for them to sit.

    (Okay, sure, games go on sale on steam occasionally, and you might want to pick one up while it's on sale. Even then, though ... games tend to get cheaper over time as they get older. Just waiting and buying it later might ultimately be cheaper than the 'on sale' price.)

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  • [–] 4 points 8 months ago

    This is a black and white view on backlogs. Yes you can just not buy a game when you're not ready to play it. That's not usually how it always plays out. Yes I do buy games while they're on sale and have been out for 5+ years. I buy games with the intention to play them. That doesn't mean right away as soon as I buy it.

    Most games I buy I fire up at least once. For the rare handful of games that I bought and never tried it's not a big deal because I only paid a few bucks for these games. If it doesn't click right away but I want to keep trying it goes on the back burner. If it doesn't click at all, I refund it. If it's a game I started and liked but fell off of for something else it goes in the backlog. Sometimes I just want a game in my collection. I know I won't play it right now but if I have the means to buy it, I'm gonna get it so it's in my collection and I don't have to worry about it later. That's a more rare situation and most games like that will sit in my Wishlist for years, but it does happen.

    Sometimes games do go away. Command & Conquer wasn't on Steam for years and then all of a sudden the whole collection showed up. Same as Dino Crisis in the last couple days. I used to have physical copies of the games but they got lost to time, be it giving them away to friends who wanted to play them, or losing them in moves, or selling them. Some of my backlog is older generation games that have been freed from their console shackles. They just announced MGS4 for PS5 and PC. I last played that game almost 15 years ago on PS3. I would love to play it again in the future. Even if I wait for a sale, I know I want it in my collection.

    Games don't always get cheaper as they get older either. Most Japanese games stay above $35 these days when not on sale. Even classics that are multiple generations old at this point. If I think a game is worth it at full price, I will pay full price.

    Lastly my Wishlist isn't just a catch all for games I want to play in the future. If that was the case there would be thousands of games on it. It's a little bit more curated than that. It's mainly for smaller games I do wait for because they're in early access. Most big AAA games on my Wishlist are waiting for sales. The majority isn't released or I'm waiting for reviews to see the quality on. Yes there are games I'm interested in but are not 100% sure I would play. That's why I cull the list every few months or so.

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  • [–] 4 points 8 months ago

    Several reasons:

    • They came with a bundle
    • I bought them while I was still dual booting, and by the time Proton was released I didn't cared for them anymore.
    • I bought them to play with friends/partner and never got the chance
    • I played them (even for lots of hours) but haven't finish them and some other new shiny game took it's place
    • Game is essentially infinite
    • I bought it on sale while playing another thing, but when I finished the other game I was playing I went to play something else
    • I feel like playing a certain style of game so I buy a few on sale, but after playing a couple I want to play something different
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  • [–] 5 points 8 months ago (2 children)

    I kinda do this, except I don't pick it up. I'm just sick and tired of having useless junk lying around, so when I see something I want I consider if I'm actually going to use it or if it will just be relegated to a drawer somewhere. If I haven't been missing it (ie. it's an impulse purchase) I will almost always just leave it be and move on. I don't need all this junk.

    If it is something I decide I need, then I consider if it should be this thing, or if I should try to find a good quality version instead, since what I usually find is in the supermarket where it's almost universally cheap junk. That also grants me more time to decide that no, I don't need this thing after all.

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  • [–] 2 points 8 months ago*

    or if I should try to find a good quality version instead, since what I usually find is in the supermarket where it’s almost universally cheap junk

    Or take the opportunity to check the second-hand market for it! Craigslist/FB marketplace, thrift shops, ebay (used, private seller), garage sales, etc. Tends to be a lot cheaper, great for the environment (because less resources needed for new production and less stuff in landfills), and keeps your money away from evil corporations.

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