So, most p*rties
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Is the censored word drags?
It's drfucks
No, it’s clearly drfuckgs.
You left out the G. It’s very important, helps give insight to the word’s etymology, history, and context.
Why is drugs considered a more upsetting word than rape? Like literally what the fuck
ragebait repost from corporate social media: it's quite common there to censor random letters and words, or make some deliberate grammar mistakes, so people will comment about it and will boost the post organically. I hate that it appears here as well, because people just mindlessly repost it with the builtin bait
If this is genuine: it’s drugs. This is about the cornell rape.
Mom always ruined my birthdays 😔
Hey, I'd just be excited to have a cool new friend to do drugs with, and if I take off my clothes it's not sexual, it's purely about being on the same mental level
For me it’s more likely to be “Jesus fuck how is it so hot all of a sudden?”
Some people see the naked girl railing lines on the couch and think, "oh dear I hope she's SAFE, I hope she learns self control". I see someone that I can sit there on molly with for the next hour while she trauma dumps and I'm like "damn girl that is seriously crazy you've been through so much, damn, that's life though right??"
I've always been a total wierdo, but even at sixteen, when I was a desperate, frustrated incel, if a girl (in this case, a peer) had to get sloshed to be into me, it'd freak me out.
Pretty much through my entire romantic career, meeting at a bar instead of a café was a red flag. Sex always seemed like a sober activity. Or more exactly, sex supplies its own drugs. Morover, once someone was not coherent enough to do crosswords, it was clear they weren't clear headed enough to consent to fluid exchange.
Granted, there are two factors that inform this attitude: One is my parents were sloppy drunks and went to sloppy-drunk parties. And I never wanted to be like that. The other is I made my way into the kink community in my twenties, and mixing drugs or booze with kink was geberallt generally known to be dangerous like mixing drugs and booze with motor vehicles or guns. (At least in my corner of the kink community. Also breath-control was a no-no and kids seem to be choking each other all over the place, nowadays.)
But then, I've never been a frat dude, or even the kind of guy who'd ever be sponsored to join a Greek house.
Kinda same. Even in my most incel times my most fucked up fantasies there the other party was getting totally ravaged, the reason it was sexy was because they consented, because they wanted it, because they were feeling pleasure from it. It was sexy because I was able to empathize with the imaginary other.
I guess fantasy me doesn't really care about hammered sex, but real me would never be that hammered and would instantly be worried if the OP happened, can't get aroused if I'm worried. Crazy how some guys are.
I want to live in a world where all women feel completely safe running around stark naked.
mhm mhm
but also do not show up naked to a party unless it's a nude party cause otherwise thats literally sexual harassment
Don't do it if you're a man. If you're a woman, it's not really going to bother anyone.
Hard disagree. Don't be like that, enforce equality.
Women are simply inherently less scary to see naked.
It's so strange to me that the argument of she was drunk and / or on drugs so strange.
These are reasons that she could never consent. Therefore any sexual act with her would be assault
It feels so weird to me that they think this is some kind of "gotcha".
Does it make more sense if it's presented as
If a woman goes to a party, she won't be raped unless there's a rapist there.
This holds true even if she's on drugs and naked.
Because the drugs aren't the point
Its the typical shaming. The attempt to blame the victim. Always so wrong but seems for a lot of people legit.
It's victim blaming. He didn't do anything wrong. She was naked and drunk. She was asking for it.
Is there a handy rhyme (like with snakes) to help the average so-and-so spot these rapists in the wild?
Collar touches shoulder, be a little bolder. Collar touches ears, believe your fears.
Is this supposed to make no sense?
I think the implication is that a simple collar, like a dog collar or a lock collar implies someone who is a sub who may appreciate being approached.
If they have a full latex suit or something that goes from their clavicle all the way up their neck to their ears, maybe you want to be wary they are a dominatrix about to beat your ass.
Lmao 🤣. my understanding was that it was about shirt collars. Frat boys trend to pop their shirt collars where as normal guys just wear their shirts normally.
Interesting interpretation, but the original question was asking how to spot rapists.
I've been in the leather scene for nearly my entire adult life and I've never heard anything like this before
Collar touches ears, you need a tailor. Or maybe a cosmetic surgeon 😂
Fyi it takes 5 seconds to edit the words back in...or just rewrite this yourself. It's text on white background.
Took my brain 0 seconds to auto correct though. Hardly seems worth the effort.
It's a principal thing. Censorship on corporate social media trains people how to think and what's okay or not okay to talk about. Importing that shit here I think it's harmful. I care, you don't. Okie dokie.
Posting an image of text without an alt attribute is the epitome of not giving a shit about other people.
Seeing people defend the Cornell 7 has made me want a fucking matriarchy
I wanted one since long before then. I am a bit worried we'll end up with a strongly conservative matriarchy that won't look severely different than what we have now, but I think the only chance we have to swing left of 'left' is to shake up the patriarchy.
Admittedly I'm worried if we put women in charge, they'll be TERFs
Changing the boot rarely helps. Anarchy would be the true change.
Anarchy sounds nice until you have a task big enough to require people to work together, or to do shitty work no one wants to do, or to deal with outside aggressors, or to resolve conflict.
There's probably something in between anarchy, dictatorship, republic, communism that works, but we haven't found it yet.
This has been solved many many times. Kropotkin addresses this in Mutual Aid. You form confederations, and call regular meetings to form pacts and mutual trade.
Ironically anarchy doesn't mean no governance, it means no state and government. A good anarchist society would have plenty of agreed upon rules and expectations, they just wouldn't be enforced by a body of monopolistic violence.
Villages of quisi to fully anarchist peoples operated for centuries and millennia in this form of communal structure until the nation-state was born in the late medieval ages and spread abroad through European colonialism.
The outside aggressors are a legitimate problem, but anarchist societies (e.g. Catalonia) have dealt with the others just fine.
One might argue that a 3-year test just post civil war wasn't a solid shakedown cruise.
I'm fairly certain the US would just devolve into internal armed conflict and a return to slavery.
Alternatively, one could argue that they accomplished quite a lot in the context of wartime shortages of resources, betrayals, etc. Just as one example, they expanded bus service all over Barcelona while also making it free and more frequent, by having the bus workers run everything democratically.
Perhaps, but since just about every other system has already devolved into internal armed conflict and slavery at various points, it seems like a good idea to try the one that hasn't yet.
I feel the rave/techno scene is like that (at least in Europe)…. And among all my friends that got raped/SA I didn’t heard yet a single one that got raped at a rave/techno party. Not saying it doesn’t happen but it feels much less than “socially respectable” parties, ex boyfriends, friends of friends, etc.
I wonder if it is because people that are attracted by that scene are in a certain way or the community has a strong culture of consent or something else.
But I would love to read if there is any statistical study on correlation between certain “scenes” and sexual abuse… and if there is a rational explanation on the causation
If someone shows up drunk and naked and starts taking drugs you should stay away from them no mater which sex they are. I mean stay away forever.
If both people show up drunk and take drugs, who is the rapist? both? neither? o.O
it me i'm the woman who would do this
okay maybe not stark naked but definitely at least tits out
I had a man apologize to my husband once because he saw my tits.
I fumed. My husband doesn't own my tits. Those are my tits! I'll show 'em if I fucking wanna.
I get the notion of this but in college if someone shows up at my party sloshed, does drugs, and passes out. They're getting raped in a different way; the EMS and hospital bill. Sorry, no one wants to deal with that shit.
And then their parents would be getting the explanation of benefits. At least that was the concern I heard when I was in college. Didn't matter we still has the ambulance come.
If someone is high on drugs and/or drunk, does that also mean I can rob them without consequences, or the rule only applies for rape?
If they're naked they're not going to have a lot of possessions :(
I've heard you can get good money for a kidney.


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