I'm a cis male and I believe in the importance of feminism, but I hesitate to call myself a feminist because it seems like there is a presumption of understanding women's experiences as if I was part of the Me Too movement. In some binary sense given how hateful and shitty men can be I'm absolutely a feminist, but I wouldn't declare myself to be one. What is your standpoint?

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[–] 44 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I was raised with Gloria Steinem's definition of feminism shaping my understanding, and have called myself a feminist since I was a child:

"A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men."

A more modern and inclusive version of that same idea, adopted by UN Women:

"Feminism is the belief that everyone, regardless of gender, should have equal rights and opportunities."

Feminism is a very complex grouping of movements and ideologies, but I think "membership" within them is very simple: if you believe in equality regardless of gender, you're a feminist.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    This raises the question whether feminist is the right word for those definitions. Humanist, maybe?

    I'm not trying to "all lives matter" the situation – the history of the treatment of women warrants specific advocacy. But I think of a feminist as someone who (regardless of gender) is actively an advocate for change, not just someone who believes in equality.

    That's the connotation I have for the word anyway. Clearly UN Women are a more authoritative source, and they specifically use the word "belief," so my connotation seems to be wrong.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    What's different to me is it's feminism not femalism, in that feminine doesn't tend to mean women specifically. I would actually argue it's mostly used as a modifier of explicit non-women, and is, in a roundabout way, directly about men and anything unassociated with women as well.

    As if to say "this isn't about women, it's about the opposition to non-manliness that exists in the world".

    Like a white person is not black, but a man can be feminine. That's not to say black issues aren't pertinent to white people in a similar way (if one of us is not free, none are free, nonblack people demeaned for cultural blackness, etc), but it's an identity that can be wholely intrinsic to a man.

    Oh, and another point you bring up I think is interesting is the distinction between holding the belief and directly or strongly acting on it, and should we consider a believer or passive actor as non-ideological? I think that comes down to a No True Scotsman sort of mindset.

    Kind of rambling and pedantic, but I like to think about the little details.

    Edit: Actually, the more I think about it, the more it kind of is the same as BLM, and I think even just holding the belief is important.

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  • [–] 18 points 1 month ago

    Yes 100% bc the literal definition of feminism is the equal treatment for all genders. I don't go around just telling people that. They can probably just tell I am bc I'm not shitty to a specific gender...

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  • [–] 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child)

    I hesitate to call myself a feminist because it seems like there is a presumption of understanding women’s experiences

    Being a woman is the only thing that gives someone access to women’s experiences, but being a woman doesn’t automatically make someone a feminist. Neither thing presumes the other.

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  • [–] 16 points 1 month ago*

    Of course I would and I do. I find the arguments that there are many branches of feminism to be a reason to not consider yourself a feminist to be kind of ridiculous. There are multiple branches of everything. Not all anarchists agree, not all socialists agree, not all communists agree. No group is a monolith with perfectly aligned values and thoughts.

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  • [–] 29 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

    Yes, absolutely.

    You don't have to understand a woman's experience so much as you have to not be a dick when she tells you her experience.

    Look at all the men that got butthurt over "bear vs rando man" and I'm gonna be honest, I'd choose the bear over many of them too. They refused to listen to what was actually being said by that statement.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Hit the nail on the head. Being cis white het doesn't make you automatically the enemy. Your actions do.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    There are dozens of us!

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    Seriously though when I hear reactionaries complain about the different movements condemning the white patriarchy, all I can think is "oh you thought they were mad at you? Well I guess they were right to be". It's really not that hard to recognize the injustice and violence inflicted in the past and to try to stop it from continuing. And most importantly it's not hard to know when to sit down, shut the fuck up, and listen

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  • [–] 13 points 1 month ago

    Feminism is a social movement, made up of the practical activity of people in solidarity with each other. While centering and amplifying the voices and experiences of women and other victims of chauvinism is absolutely essential, remember that there is an incredible need to organize. Movements need people to take notes, make phone calls, promote campaigns, educate, show up to events, share our own experiences where people we care about were victims of patriarchy, and much much more.

    Feminism isn't just an idea, and patriarchy victimizes men as well as women, though obviously in drastically different ways and to drastically different degrees. Ideas don't make up social movements, people do. Ideas help us name the world/the problem, which is the first step of revolution, but actual abolition of social structures takes work. Leaving all that work to the victims of patriarchy actually reinforces patriarchy.

    Patriarchy and other consequences of class hierarchy are defeated by the contradictions that they create in society. A man who devotes himself to the abolition of male dominant society is the embodiment of such a contradiction. That's what we are, don't over think it. Just roll up our sleeves, listen and take good notes, offer to help organize and always center the voices and experiences of the victims of patriarchy.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Woman here and we could use more male feminists

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  • [–] 10 points 1 month ago

    I understand what you are saying, but you don't need a lived female experience to be a feminist.

    I will declare you one. You are a feminist. Be proud.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 month ago

    Yes, of course. I don't feel the need to lead with it unprompted because that's not where I focus my attention in terms of advocacy, but:

    1. Anyone who isn't a male chauvinist is a feminist by process of elimination
    2. As a bicycling advocate, feminism comes with the territory because biking was a big part of the women's lib movement back in the Victorian era. (Quick explainer, deeper dive)
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  • [–] 9 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    In my humble enby opinion you can call yourself a feminist if you believe in equality between genders. There are many flavours of feminism and they often contradict each other. You will never be a perfect feminist in every feminists' eyes. And you shouldn't try to be.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Yes, I'm a cis man and I am a Marxist feminist. Feminism is not exclusionary to cis men, and Marxist feminism is critical as patriarchy is a secondary contradiction that rests upon the primary contradiction of class society. Attacking sexism attacks capitalism, and attacking capitalism attacks sexism. They are connected.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Thanks for saying this. There was a rather popular unpopular opinion a while ago about how the only struggle should be the class struggle, and feminism was getting in the way. People need to see that they're both part of the same fight.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago*

    Highly recommend reading Domenico Losurdo - Class struggle for more on this.

    It gets into how there's not just a single class struggle, i.e. working class versus bourgeoisie, but many different and related class struggles. Both Marx and Engels held this multivariate view of class struggle too, and it was only later that chauvinists, anti-feminists, and imperialists restricted its meaning to the workplace only.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago

    Yeah. I wouldn't bring it up as a non sequitur but it's pretty important.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago

    Absolutely.

    If you're a guy, you've heard guys talk about women when none are around. Maybe it's coworkers, maybe it's family, but the culture of misogyny is not some on-the-wane thing, it is alive and well.

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  • I'm a woman who calls myself a feminist because I don't want to let the transphobes known as TERFs (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminists) have the word. (Potentially useful to highlight that whilst not all transphobes are TERFs, all TERFs are transphobes)

    Some people are opposed to using the term TERF because of how misogynistic TERF ideology is β€” they don't just hurt trans women, but all women. Whilst I agree that their form of feminism is harmful to women everywhere and vehemently disagree with their views, there is no "Council of Feminists" who decree who gets to call themselves a feminist. So if I want to call myself a feminist, it means having to share the room with TERFs. I don't like that, but I'd rather do it than let them define what it means to be a feminist.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Absolutely would call myself a feminist and here's the reason. Calling yourself a feminist is a declaration that you aren't in performance for brownie points for men's sake and you aren't going to fade to the background the first second the going gets tough. Feminists don't "hate men" but the fact that their issues get sidelined the minute anybody's feelings about their personal masculinity gets hurt means most of the time any discussion about women's issues become about mincing around insecure men.

    Feminism is egalitarianism, it is strictly NOT female superiority. The issue with calling feminism egalitarianism is it tends to be a label summerizing the passive part of the movement that asks nothing of people.

    Systems that aren't artificially adjusted just end up replicating the same shit they always had over and over and the adjustments don't feel fair or equal to the people who have always benefitted before the change. Justice sometimes meaning giving up something to the party in need. Damn near everyone is up for equality in theory, but the moment they are asked to give up anything suddenly it's women's superiority. They don't look at being passed over for the promotion in favor of an equally deserving and more generally underrepresented woman as being just or needed when it's them who doesn't get chosen. They still in their heart of hearts believe that whenever a woman comes out on top it's not because she deserves to be there.

    And it's hard. It's hard to put justice first. It's hard to hire someone who isn't your close personal friend who looks just like you and instead choose someone who acts or looks different who you won't be as comfortable around. It's hard to change your culture to be mindful of needs you don't personally have to make someone else comfortable. The whole POINT is that it's hard. Everything that is hard for you is a comfort, a point without personal friction you have, a PRIVILEGE that you are purposefully choosing to not cash in on anymore because that privilege was never on the table for someone else.

    If you aren't willing to face the minor discomfort of being devisive and calling yourself a feminist and gaining the ire of other men what other comforts are you not going to give up?

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago* (1 child)

    Feminism is egalitarianism, it is strictly NOT female superiority

    Exactly, the latter is matriarchy and that's the one I really want to try out! I don't think it would be perfect but I am just curious how it would turn out? For science!

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  • [–] 0 points 1 month ago

    Honestly me too. And YES i am biased as hell here. I don't like people in general and my objective opinion is that power will attract the wrong people regardless of gender.

    BUUUT my subjective experience will not let me believe that women in charge would not change things for the better overall. From a purely curious place i would really like to see how it would work out, a failure would be just as interresting to me as a success.

    I want to add that i also believe the main problem of patriachy is not the oppression of women but the oppression of "female" coded traits. What i would really like to see is a society that favors empathy and collaboration, i don't need women in charge for that and i certainly don't base my support for anyone on their genitals, that would be crazy.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    Yes. I was raised by feminist parents and have always supported equal rights and equal pay, and stood against misogyny and sexism. You're right go not want to be presumptive, but the answer to that isn't to shy away from feminism, it's to listen.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 month ago

    Yes. Even in the most cynical light, standing with women is within my own self interest because my rights will surely erode alongside theirs. But also i like women and am disgusted with how they are treated socially and economically, and want that to change for the better. So a feminist i am.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 month ago

    Hard yes. If you believe in equality and justice what the fuck else would you be?

    Though, I suppose there are those that don't... They can fuck off

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago

    In the sense of "do women deserve equal treatment in society?" 100%!

    I idolized my grandmothers as a kid, and they did a better job raising me than my actual parents. Both sides of the family always seemed much more matriarchal to me.

    The one time I was ever in charge of anything was at a fairly sexist job and I repeatedly fought to get the ladies' pay more in line with the guys, I reported a few people to HR for making my staff uncomfortable, and I ensured the one employee got a private lactation area after she had a baby.

    Now I volunteer with animal rehab, and that is a field that is about 90% women, and they are all so badass, compassionate, they do every job, and come from every walk of life.

    To see all I've seen and to not think anyone deserves the same treatment as me because of their gender would be insane. I don't like labeling myself, because I'm always not going to fit someone's definition of that thing, they can call me whatever they want, but I like to see whoever is around me getting treated right.

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    yeah it's useful to call yourself a feminist and it doesn't cost much. you might be overthinking this, do not deprive yourself of future interactions with people who share your values

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    I don't have a gender (I lost it somewhere, sorry), and I still call myself feminist.

    I think feminism is something more related to the fight against a type of oppression rather than an identity thing.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    I prefer the term "egalitarian". Functionally the same, but firmly places the focus on equality regardless of gender, and creates distance from the toxic misandrists who have tried to co-opt the "feminist" label.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Most feminists I've talked to about it say they hate people who describe themselves as "egalitarian," essentially equating it to the "enlightened centrist" meme.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    And I hate the misandrists who describe themselves as "feminists", equating it with the "red pill" guys who turned a metaphor for radical systemic awareness into misogyny.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago

    True, but they seem to dominate every feminist space I've been in, so the definition of "feminist" is hard for me to work out; nicer people seem to think it's 1:1 with "egalitarian," but then why have two words for the same thing?

    So my conclusion has been that I'll just keep voting and speaking in the interests of making our world treat men and women equally, and just shrug my shoulders at the labels. As I said elsewhere, that's not enough for some feminists, so they'll just have to continue disliking me. Misogynists dislike me too, so I'm used to it.

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  • My opinion as another cis dude: there are three things at play. (1) What is the definition of "feminism?" If you believe that women and men and everybody in between and beyond are equally worthy members of society and should not be discriminated against in any way, then you fit my definition and can call yourself a feminist. (2) I recognize that this is a hot button issue for some people unfortunately. I also see that other people may operate under a different definition. I give shit to anybody with opinions on the matter that go against (1). I don't necessarily use the word "feminist" in that context because some words - good words! - have a way of closing people off like an oyster. "Woke" and "feminism" are two examples. Worthy concepts behind both in my view but the mere mention makes some people stop listening. Especially those who would benefit from widening their horizons. Humans are capable of rational thought but we don't always do or behave that way. I'm dogmatic in my opinion but I'm not dogmatic in the language that I use so I try and adjust it to fit the situation. (3) Even among supposed allies you'll find oddballs. You don't want to be a self-professed feminist who mansplains feminism, just as an example.

    In this mixed minefield, I think I want to be judged more by my actions than the terms I use.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    I absolutely call myself a feminist even if the word isn't maybe entirely descriptive anymore.

    This is our fight too.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    Yes, I can support feminism without being a woman.

    "Not all men," yes, all men Need all men for what we're solvin' Can't be what it's been but we're evolvin' You see for yourself now get involved in

    • Dana Dan by Bloodywood
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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago*

    I would say yes, but the term is much less often used today than in the past and some people have very strange notions of what it means. I don't think I've ever had the need or opportunity to use it to describe myself, even though I would fit the reasonable definitions.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    I think the whole appeal of feminism for me, is the questioning and evaluation of rigid gender structures. I'm not sure if it's my place to call myself a feminist or not (since I'm non-binary). But I do think that feminism and queer issues are contiguous.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    I don't know.

    My concern was always about showing respect to others, regardless of gender. I want for others what I want for myself.

    I grew up surrounded by womens and, as a kid, I heard horrible stories about men behaviour but also heard countless dismissals from women to women about those same male behaviours.

    As a teen, I became so concerned of my existence as a man, I went so deep into neutral and non threatning territory I had girls telling me I was being flirted with because otherwise I wouldn't notice nor correspond. I was quick to point out bad attitude/behaviour from guys towards girls as well, which did not make me popular with my peers.

    As an adult, I started working under the supervision of women. No concern, no friction. I did became extremely aware how women would easily create and maintain terrible and damaging relations between them, for futile reasons. Even today, where I work at, where the majority of responsability roles are women, the way even polite conversations are held are laced with tension.

    I reached a point where I act in accordance to my conciousness. I loathe disrespect, I get revolted by hearing anyone talk less of others. And I am learning to call others on their words and actions, regardless of gender.

    I do recognize a lot of violence, of all kinds, is still enacted upon women because they are women, solely, but I am also aware a good deal is still dismissed and even abided by other women.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Feminism is about all genders having equal rights. Are any of your experiences with women reasons for them not to have rights? Their behavior as you've described it isn't really exclusive to women, nor does it seem like a reason to deny them rights.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    No and I don't think I've writen nothing that hinted in that sense.

    What I tried to convey is that a good part of what is holding back women to achieve equality are other women and that is unreasonable to me.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    No, never.
    Because I don't even understand what feminism is. There's so many conflicting opinions under that umbrella that the label doesn't even make much sense to me.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    "Feminism is the belief that everyone, regardless of gender, should have equal rights and opportunities."

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    Probably more egalitarian than feminist, just because of the bad branding over the years. Same principles still apply, though. Equal rights, equal pay, full maternity/paternity leave, equal draft laws, equal dress/beachwear, etc.

    Having differences between genders has always rubbed me the wrong way. People are just people.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    I think in the purest sense yes, a general platform of equality for genders.

    However I'm growing increasingly cynical and wary of continuing to advocate more in this direction. Not that it's inherently wrong, it's that the movement has been co-opted by the capitalists. Very swift to make sure women still bear all of their responsibilities, now also must enter the workforce in order to make a combined living family income. Yet no additional social supports. Men's gender roles changing in society, but absolutely no future planning or accommodation for what men are supposed to change into, or what role to take.

    We are slaves and I think it's always important to remember that. We get the scraps we're allowed. And all of the forward progress isn't as forward as we want to self-smugly believe. We are still being played as the underclass.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago*

    Yes and if someone had a knee jerk reaction to that that gives me valuable info about them. If they want to know more about it they’re free to ask, or make assumptions, doesn’t matter to me how other people feel about the word.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    Yes, because I view it as part of being a socialist. Uniting the working class means uniting ALL of the working class, and we can only do that through mutual respect and acknowledging and trying to remedy existing biases.

    Unfortunately liberal feminism co-opted the movement at the mainstream level and has used it to legitimize the status quo. The fact that there are TERFs or people who call themselves feminists but support capitalism, which impoverishes women, and imperialism, which kills women around the world is insane. It clearly shows that those people don't actually understand or care about bigotry. At best they want to make their own lives better and at worst they use it as cover to justify those things.

    So yeah. I'm more than happy to associate myself with anyone willing to fight for equality, not so much girlboss "feminists."

    EDIT: Also on a personal level, I think something people misunderstand about feminism is that it's not JUST for women. Men are also hurt by the patriarchy. The flip-side of the societal expectations for women to be passive, emotional, and attractive homemakers is for men to have the pressure of working outside the home, exposing themselves to violence in wars, suppressing emotions and self expression because those are associated with being feminine and if women are lesser, then that also makes them lesser, hence transphobia and less extreme versions of gender policing.

    Feminism is good for men too. It's good for trans people. It's good for non-binary people. It's good for anyone who doesn't fit the rigid expectations society has burdened them with since birth. Even if you consider yourself to be a heterosexual cis man, do you never feel stifled by people not taking your emotions seriously or looking down on you for having them? Do you not wish that you could stay home and see your kids more?

    Even for purely selfish reasons men should want to be feminists.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    No. I think every sane person is against sexual harassment. Term has become so broad and there are many things under that label that I disagree with. And because its so broad and popular it has attracted all sorts of slimy politicians to it.

    My eyes roll 720 degrees when I see prolific feminists addressing EU parliament and taking photos with all sorts of celebrities and politicians. At the same time there is loud silence when the most high profile sexual scandal comes out that involves one of the top politicians in the country. And the rest of "feminist" nomenclature just rolls with it domestically and internationally. Bunch of spineless politicians.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (6 children)

    No I’m not a feminist.

    Feminism has had several waves with varying ideology behind it and I definitely don’t agree with all of the ideals espoused by feminists.

    I’m a humanist egalitarian which better describes my position.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (5 children)

    What ideals don't you agree with?

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    I somewhat recognize my own position in the message above and to me it's not so much about not being a feminist, as it is that I've seen too many people calling themselves feminist while proceeding to do things like: call all men pigs, be transphobic, generally try to push down others in an attempt to rise themselves. If by feminist you mean "for equality between men and women (and all others)", then sure I can agree to that, but I'm not sure that's the best way to describe that position anymore

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (3 children)

    Well TERFs are feminists.

    Humanist egalitarianism is a (I hope) clear stance on human rights for all and social measures to address inequality for anyone based on their individual circumstances.

    It’s not a view that is clear from feminism where you for example have liberal feminism, libertarian feminism and egalitarian feminism.

    There are deacdes of ideology built up within different feminist beliefs that require nuance to differentiate, and misteps associated with some of those movements that I don’t feel the need to associate with.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    I don't think TERFs are feminists try as they like to say they are. They are literally against some women have rights.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    No True Scotsman isn’t a great way to address the existence of TERFs and isn’t likely to change how I describe my beliefs.

    I thought you might respond with something more interesting to be honest.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    I mean it's the only part of what you said that I disagree with. I don't have much else to say beyond you shouldn't let weirdo freaks take labels for themselves and we should proudly claim to be feminists because capitulating these things to bigots just entrenches them in the conversation further.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (7 children)

    If Feminism is equality between genders, then yes, I am a feminist.
    But if Feminism is unconditional trust towards women, then no, I'm not a feminist.

    In my experience people who call themselves feminists often put women above men, and will deny any criticism towards them because they're women, and women never do anything bad.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Was going to say essentially this. It can really feel like the most outspoken feminists have a 'women good, men bad' mentality (of course many men are equally deranged).

    The injustice towards women is absolutely greater, but look at health and happiness metrics and it looks like men are much worse off, and those two points are very much intertwined, a lot of cause and effect both ways (just my opinion and how I've made sense of everything). I think there's probably no such thing as womens problems or mens problems. Only human problems that bounce around and affect everyone.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago* (1 child)

    I think there's probably no such thing as womens problems or mens problems. Only human problems that bounce around and affect everyone.

    To your point, yes absolutely these issues affect us all, because we're all connected as humans. But you might want to reconsider how you phrase that. This has big "I don't see color" energy.

    Both men and women absolutely have unique and specific issues that need recognition if we are to meaningfully address them.

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  • True we certainly have lots of issues to recognise and address, but we've been trying for decades and not getting all that far. You don't think it's at all worth considering these issues in a broader sense? How some men's treatment of women is influenced by women's treatment towards men? Or what women can do to help those men be better. It's not like one person's actions is anyone else's responsibility, but surely it could be an area of focus?

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  • [–] -2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Well feminism is from Latin "femina" - a woman, so it is a fight for women's rights, and not for gender equality. Men also face lots of expectations that can be called toxic, like supressing their emotions, being the one responsible to bring the beacon home, going at war etc. These things are out of scope for feminism.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago* (1 child)

    If you have to pull out an etymology argument to justify a political position, you're wrong by default. Because you're blatantly ignoring the actual movement & extracting whatever meaning you want out of that word.

    Feminism fights against the patriarch, which in modern terms include both traditional restrictions placed on women and men. So the fight against patriarchal expectations placed on men, among them toxic masculinity, are absolutely part of feminism as a political stance today.

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  • [–] -2 points 1 month ago

    Etymology doesn't exist separately from the meaning of the word. If something is called "womanism" (the literal translation from Latin), that means it actually does have to do with women.

    Yes, I have heard a lot of feminists talk about also fighting against patriarchal expectations placed on men, but again the opposite of patriarch is matriarch, not gender equality. So women are still considered victims and men are considered aggressors - or victims of other men, for that matter. It's still in essence a fight of women against men. If it wasn't, it would be called something else. For example, humanism, because the word "human" makes no gender distinction.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (5 children)

    It's really hard to call yourself a feminist when you realize that all major achievements of western feminism aren't the direct result of activism but rather capitalism. To paraphrase DiCaprio's Character from Django, activism had their curiosity, the financial incentive had their attention.

    Industries and governments realised that they were essentially not capitalizing on 50% of the population.

    Women in the work force wasn't a noble grant of freedom, it was an increase in production and profit. If it were truly as noble as it is made out to be, they would've given them equal pay from the start.
    Same thing goes for women being able to have their own bank account. Women having their own money means they will spend it, driving the economy. Even the right to vote just provides another angle of attack to influence and radicalize the population. Those are the 3 corner stones, work for capital and pay income tax, spend your money and pay sales tax and vote for whoever the TV tells you to vote. Everything else is just comfort to sweeten the deal. That's also why 3rd wave feminism has grinded to a halt. The is no capitalist financial incentive to give women even one more inch of freedom than they already have.

    Women haven't won anything they've just gotten of the side lines, right into the corporate meatgrinder.

    And now we're here, where a two head family can't afford to have a child because both members working 9-5 can barely support themselves financially, yet alone have the money or time to have a child. And neither corporations nor the government are eager to support them as if giving back even a single cent of profits is a cardinal sin.

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  • [–] 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    I'm sorry, but that is a huge crock of horseshit with absolutely nothing to back it up but vibes. That's like saying the abolitionist movement achieved nothing because it is superceded by a broader class struggle against capitalism.

    Women fought for and won the the right to self determination, the right to vote, the right to divorce, the right to bodily autonomy, the right to be legally treated as persons instead of as the property of their husbands, etc, and none of that is diminished by its byproduct of a larger workforce being better for capitalists. "Women haven't won anything" fuck outta here

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  • [–] -1 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Maybe I simply have a hard time imagining a world where politicians listened to the demands and protests of the people and governed themselves accordingly.

    Maybe 100 years ago politicians where less corrupt and more empathetic towards the problems of the working class people.

    Maybe back then it was more difficult to pay off a few key people to let a bill pass in your favor.

    Or maybe, an economic plan was created based on the post war industrial development in which out of pure desperation for manpower, women have proven themselves to be just as effective in working at factories as men. And in the name of improving effectiveness, this got the ball rolling to ultimately elevate women's rights on par with men's.

    Feminism isn't some new last century concept. Women have been fighting for right for millennia but where always at bane of powers outside their control (AKA monarchs, the church, etc.). So there must be a good reason why it only worked out after the bloodiest most brutal self induced chapter of human history. What was the alternative, saying: "Thanks for the help, now go back home and tend to your crippled husbands."? That's actually exactly what governments did, and the result was a severely crippled economy that catapulted the world right into another World War.

    No matter which country you're from, your great great mother has most likely contributed to getting the country through some of the worst times in it's history. A time when people weren't buried, they were dying in the streets and eaten by rats. And the reward was... that exception has turned into expectation. And as over the past 100 years almost all the money has wandered from the pockets of many into the pockets of few, women's right to work has turned into a necessity to work.

    I don't believe for a second that the leaders of the 1920s had given women any more rights than in the centuries before out of the goodness of their hearts unless it was absolutely economically necessary.

    Have you not noticed how workers have become customers to their own workplace? Corporation not only want to pay you less, they want you to give your paycheck back to them. And all the safeguards put up over the last decades for women in society and the workplace are being slowly dismantled by a very evident right shift of global politics. All to get you to the perfect algorithmically determined point of anger, desperation and contempt to make you pay exactly one cent less than the highest possible asking price for any given service (or as it was once called "product"). Modern day 1st world feminism is engineered. As evident by every corporation dropping the rainbow flags the second pride month ends, is that if corporations don't have to care - they won't. Feminism isn't excluded from that.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    How long ago do you think women's suffrage was? This wasn't something that just happened in the last couple of decades. Literally over 100 years ago the 19th amendment passed giving women the right to vote. Nobody is saying that politicians it the government did it out of the kindness of their hearts, it's because women and allies fought like Hell for it.

    A crippled economy is not the reason for a second world war, that's just ridiculous correlation, and barely even that.

    You're conflating multiple things and assuming that's causation. Yes, women entered the workforce and started earning their own money. Yes, the economy has changed to the point where people of all genders are now stuck working to survive. That didn't happen because women were working, it happened and also women are working.

    Just because corporations are shit doesn't mean that feminism isn't a thing. Look up the definition of feminism. It's an ideology as well as a movement. There's still a long ways to go to truly get all genders to be perceived and treated as equals, but the last 150+ years have been huge for women's equality. It's been too slow by any reasonable person's standards, but big changes in society and they way people view each other doesn't happen over night.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago

    To expand on what @FishLake@lemmygrad.ml said, this analysis ranges from reductive to completely ahistorical.

    Women have been part of the productive workforce long before the notion of equality was even on the table. The idea that women were exclusively bearing and rearing children before the industrial revolution is nonsense, women were crucial workers in agriculture and manufacture and it was impossible for a family to be fed only by the patriarch.

    The relationship between capitalism and feminism is actually partly the other way around from what you are presenting. Industrialization required centralization and urbanization, which meant it was easier than ever for women to organize with their colleagues and comrades and demand equal rights. It also eased access to weapons, which allowed for direct violent action to force the ruling class to pay attention. Capitalism accelerated or even sometimes spawned feminist movements, which were always in direct contradiction with the actual capitalists who were entirely male at the time.

    The idea that women haven't won anything is just bullshit. You are right that they didn't "win" the "right to work", because they had that "right" forever. But what they actually did win is a smaller gender gap in pay and economic opportunities, access to better education, right to political representation, legal prohibitions on some kinds of gender violence. If you think all of this was somehow "granted" by (male) capitalists because it is profitable, that's just untrue, most of it was directly or indirectly hurtful to the ruling class when those measures were first introduced.

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  • I believe that every human is a human with equally complex lives who all deserve equal opportunities and the right to self-determination regardless of gender, race, or any other uncontrollable factor.

    So yes, I would consider myself to be a feminist.

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    Yes. Though there are men who just wear the word as a label without changing their behaviour, it’s up to men to set a positive example of how we should treat women and each other.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago

    Yeah, I consider myself to be a feminist.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago

    Fellow cis-gendered male feminist, we outchea

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  • Of course you're a feminist, you have feminist beliefs.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago

    In shorthand, it just means you want equality. It's practical and makes sense that everyone takes this stance. We should all be feminists.

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    I remind myself that it's mindfulness, speech and conduct that that matter. Labels by themselves are meaningless.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (2 children)

    So many in this thread confusing feminism with egalitarianism. We have different words for a reason.

    I am an egalitarian because I believe everyone is and should be treated equally.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I am both a feminist AND an egalitarian, because I believe everyone should be treated equally. They are not mutually exclusive. That also doesn't mean they mean the exact same thing.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 month ago

    I used to, but I don't think I should any more. I've been kicked out of two feminist spaces:

    1. Someone said childcare is exclusively a women's issue, as in men cannot or do not help with it, and I disagreed.

    2. Someone said it was hilarious that some men think there are unique challenges men face that women do not, and I disagreed.

    So if 100% of feminist groups I've joined don't believe I'm a feminist, I guess I'm not a feminist. I guess you could say I failed the purity tests.

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