Op would love Finland. Only ever talked to one stranger (who is now my wife) and the only thing we shake is the umbrella. And booze, well you will need it too.
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To be fair, if you go out to a loud party you're not likely to meet many introverts there - they'll all be at home, unless their own extravert friend dragged them out to the party.
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I understand anon. I understand. 😶
It's a similar experience being an introvert who isn't into sports in Australia.
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I felt this way in my own home culture as well. I grew up in a red bubble in a blue state in the US, where the underlying currents were no more than “conformity and hometown pride.” Oddly, the only things to be “proud” of were conformity itself and high school football (the pride-surrogate of adults with nothing better to celebrate.) It was all so hollow, and when 9/11 happened it all turned up to… well, 11. Being 12 and saying, “I don’t think this war makes sense” was enough to ostracize one’s self and be bombarded with the brain-dead argument of, “iF yOu hAtE AMURICA tHeN yOu cAn JuSt LEAVE!” Yeah okay, parrot. It was always obvious the kids just absorbed whatever mindless take their parents said (which was, itself, picked up from other people or Fox News.)
Man, thinking of my hometown always brings out a rant… Anyway, I grew up always feeling like a stranger in my own home, bullied and cast aside for not being like the rest. Thank goodness I was able to GTFO and meet people who use their brains as more than a copy/paste bin for other people’s thoughts.
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anywhere densely populated really
As a Brazilian, I can relate
On the other hand, growing up in this kind of culture, I've now been forged into the rare introvert who can dance, sing, and has amazing people skills when needed.
It's draining, but useful.
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I always wondered how it is to be an introvert in such "loud" cultures. Now my guess is confirmed.
Move to England, we will still think you are an extrovert
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I've travelled to a few countries in Europe. Spain may not be Latin America, but it definitely seemed to have a noticeably more extroverted culture than the other countries I visited: multiple strangers started talking to me on the streets and in grocery stores and such, even though my Spanish is terrible, and I remember even the bus drivers being particularly friendly.
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My ex was Latina, and when we were getting to know each other I mentioned I'm pretty introverted, and I had to explain to her what it meant. She said it doesn't exist in Latino culture and there are no Latino introverts. I told her she probably calls them alcoholics. That seemed to resonate.
Never felt more identified with a post. I've been saying this for a while and all they tell me is "just dance!" :(
While not the stereotypical extrovert, I experience the opposite in my country.
I think, on a world wide scale, I would be considered very introverted, but by Danish standards I'm too social. I've become more introverted over time because it is too exhausting trying to get something going with people around me. Danes make all their friends in their youth and then they close the gates at 30 and never allow in any other new friendships or acquaintances ever again. And if they do, it's against their will.
We moved into a new neighborhood five months ago, and I still don't know anyone. Our closest neighbors have politely demonstrated that they desire to not know me despite my attempts at getting to know them and I am self aware enough to know when to just let it go and avoid thing becoming uncomfortable.
It really sucks, because I always dreamed of having good relationships with my neighbors and inviting people over for cook outs or something. But Danes are hermit crabs.
I had it confirmed when I befriended a Ukrainian refugee who told me that in the two years he had been a refugee in Denmark, I had literally been the only Dane to bother to get to know him and been friendly and open to him. Told him that I'm also a very shitty Dane.
So yeah, I dunno what it's like to be an introvert stuck in an extrovert society. But I do know what it's like to be extroverted introvert in a hyper introverted society and that sucks as well, because you end up becoming very, very lonely if you don't hit the jackpot with evergreen friendships when you still have your milk teeth.
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Plot twist: anon is actually 1% Latino 90% Greek and 9% German and doesn’t like spicy food.
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I really liked the Jodel app many years ago. Hyperlocal social media that led me to meet and interact with quite a few interesting people that i would never meet in a bar. Okay i am maybe not that introvert, but i hate disco shaky booty
Relatable, I grew up in Turkey while not nationalist. (By anatolian standards, at least)
That was me, then I moved to Australia where I'm considered a blabber mouth extroverted.
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Oh god. Very close to me. Exactly why I left and refuse to date latinas and for the most part make friends with latinos.
A bit over the top tho. You can definetly be a ladies man even if you don't dance. Not easy as if you dance, but totally doable.
Now to the serious thing:
Fake: Anon has internet in Colombia Gay: Anon dosn't like booty.
Before you downvote me, I am Colombian and don't really dance to anything remotely latin
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Move to Wisconsin
Same thing in sweden when I grew up there, except nobody dances, nobody did booty shakes, only football and drinking 😑😔.
I left.
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