I'm autistic, I've had one haircut since covid because I hate the sensory aspect of haircuts. I've been searching online of how to cut hair and it doesn't look that hard, but a lot of people seem to advise against it. I think that if I fuck it up it's not the end of the world, I can just go to a professional. But I have very long hair so I have a lot of opportunity for trial and error. I think that if I get some practice, it's something I can continue to do going forward. I also don't particularly care how it looks, I just want it to be shorter.

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[–] 36 points 1 year ago (4 children)

If you want a buzz cut (something you can do with clippers and a single length attachment), doing it yourself is really no problem at all. If you want something more complex, you probably want to see a professional.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    Yeah, I've gotten 3 or 4 haircuts in the last 15 years that were from barbers. But I don't care as much about what others think I guess. I cut the sides with a single length, then the top with scissors or buzz it to a longer length if I'm lazy. The only tough part is getting the back straight, which you learn tricks for. I'm so not bothered by it at this point it is the only time I use selfie mode on my phone. Turn away from the sink mirror, selfie mode on and trim it carefully. Blend the top with scissors if needed, but really it isn't often needed for my hair.

    Edit: that said, if your are worried and you have a spouse, friend, family member, cleaning the back up only takes 2 minutes of their time.

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    [–] 15 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    For a guy:

    You're not going to do anything well yourself except a buzz. And even then, there's a learning curve.

    If you're trying to keep it long, you're going to fuck it up.

    For medium length, there used to be an "as seen on tv" product that was basically a shop vac that pulls hair into it, and cuts it a uniform length. I don't know if they even sell them anymore, but that would be your only option.

    If you just don't care, start buzzing it. Do it often, like buzz today, and then buzz again after taking a shower. You're going to miss spots and a shower in between makes the hair stand up different and easier to make it uniform

    As you get better you can start doing it every two weeks or whatever, but at first do it really often to make sure you're not leaving patches you can't see.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    I am shocked to learn, and now you will know, too:

    Flowbee is still around apparently!

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago

    Go for it. There's tons of Youtube videos. The difference between a bad haircut, and a good haircut? 2 weeks.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    I’m doing it since Covid. No ideas about long hair but for me it’s simple:

    With a hair clipper 9mm on the sides and back

    12mm on the top (with the natural hair direction, not against)

    Now the lower back is the hardest and it will never be amazing but gets better over time. I bought a hand mirror and use it to find where to create the border. I hold my comb in a roughly 20 degrees angle over that line and cut everything below with 3mm. This way I can’t overshoot and the angle creates a decent transition. If I want to improve it, I start another line below for a 0mm cut.

    I would personally like to make an even shorter cut but my hair is pretty thin in some areas and then it looks spotty. At some point I might go full Heisenberg but there is still time.

    I use a Remington QuickCut for most of my head and a Phillips 7000 series for details, beard and down under.

    The only time I went to a professional since covid was for my brothers wedding.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Damn, are you me? I haven't bothered with fading out the back yet, but I also cut 12mm on top, 9mm for the rest.

    Personally, I found that when I lean my head back, then there's a pretty noticeable bend where my neck starts. And when my hair crosses that line, it looks bad. So, that's where I create the border.
    And I just basically grab the back of my skull and move my hand down until it meets that bend to the neck, then I cut along the index finger.
    I feel like I'd probably create the fade above that, too, but your mileage may vary, of course.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    I’ve also been using my hand to create the border in the past, it’s an even simpler solution that creates good results. It also has the benefit that you can feel where you are, while the comb is a bit more technical.

    I never thought I would continue this after Covid but I like working on improving my cut and it’s good enough now that I don’t feel I need someone else. Always found interactions with hair dressers a bit awkward so I’ll gladly leave this behind me.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Yeah, that is also my primary motivation, to not need to interact with hairdressers. 😅

    I do also like it a lot, though, that I can just cut it every 2-3 weeks. My hair is a lot easier to take care of when it's short, and I look sharper, so I can just keep it short all the time.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I started to go bald in my early twenties and started shaving it. I haven't been to a barber in decades now. Even if they came up with the perfect baldness cure, I wouldn't take it.

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    [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    I was a barber and yes, if your hair is long, you can trim it without training, as long as it's not very straight it doesn't matter if it's precise. Short hair and straight hair are less forgiving.

    Basically you just want to make sure the two sides left and right are the same length and there are no "points" - no sharp length changes.

    I'd just look for videos with people who have hair similar to yours, showing how they cut their own hair. You can do it!

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    Been cutting my own hair for a decade. It wasn't pretty at first, but I got better. Have done several different styles over the years, too. Now it is easy, quick, and looks good.

    I've saved so much money and, more than that, time and stress. I can cut my hair first thing on a Sunday morning or late on a Monday night. No appointments, no idle chit chat, no leaving the house... just 20 minutes and a shower and I'm good for another 3000 miles.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Am Asian. Literally never went to a barber lol. I mean except that few times when I was a kid. My dad then learn how to do barber stuff. I think he might've worked as a barber for a short time, but not sure. Then I got older and just did haircuts myself. I keep it like very short, like the shortest trimmer guard (is that what it's called?). Idk why but hair gets veerry annoying when it gets long.

    Saves a lot of money, you know... average Asian frugal tricks that parents teach you 😅. I never admitted that fact in front of classmates in the US since that's kinda embarassing. People love to poor-shame.

    (For context, I'm a dude, idk how girls/women does things, but my mother also never went to a barber, not to my knowledge anyways)

    Idk why, but like I think many Asians just don't really take haircuts that seriously, I remember a Malaysian-American classmate just joking about his mom doing haircuts for him... so relatable lol. I hear like white kids or black kids talk about haircuts and "hairstyles" and I'm like... 👀

    [Insert awkward monkey puppet meme here]

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  • [–] 6 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    I cut my own hair, I am bald.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago

    I do my hair once a month because I’m lazy and I don’t care about my hair. #3 all around (cold) or #2 for summer.

    I know plenty of stylists that cut their own hair. It’s just like anything you start doing, you’ll probably suck at first but you’ll get better.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    I’ve been wondering this too, but out of sheer convenience. I even already have a trimmer for my beard. I like my hair short and usually describe it as “number 3|6 trimmer on the sides and back ….” And I should be able to do that.

    Why do I need to use my time to find a barbershop that hasn’t shut down, go sit in a waiting room for 30-60 minutes, have to describe to someone new how I want May hair, and end up with something inconsistent anyway. I can be inconsistent on my own, thank you

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Your cut sounds a lot like mine. I've clipped the back and sides on my own many times without problems, but if you typically like them to scissor cut the top, I HAVE messed that up doing it on my own.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    If you’re going to try the scissor route, I recommend you aim for messed up. Like anime style, lots of different lengths going lots of directions. Then you might actually do something nifty. If you try to do anything even or any fades, you’ll have a very hard time.

    I shave my head daily in the shower. It feels good, requires no mirror, and always looks consistent. Have been doing it for years.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    This is the only way I've been able to do it. Don't try for sleek lines, embrace the scruff. It's not bad once you get the hang of it. The back of the head it tough, but doable. Maybe have a friend do the neckline

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    I learned that I can do a great anime-protagonist haircut, but now that I'm not in my early 20s anymore that's not really my style anymore.

    On the other end of the spectrum, if you just trim the tips off of your perpetual ponytail/braid, that's easy too.

    Everything in between needs practice, and ideally the ability to look at the back of your head.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    Watch videos and practice on something that isn’t you if you can. It’s easy to goof up with long hair if you don’t use the right techniques. I have been clipper-cutting mine for over a decade now. Obviously that’s much simpler but it still took practice.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    I shave mine. Typical a 3mm guide over the blade. I’ve been doing that for about 20 years.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago

    Best advice I can give you is to take your time with it no need to rush, and also be prepared to except a bad haircut from time to time. I’ve been cutting my own hair for years and I’m about 70-30 for giving myself a good haircut.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    Similar situation for me here.

    I’ve cut my hair a few times before and from what I can discern, a hairstylist or someone particularly interested in hair/beauty will notice if you’ve cut it yourself. Whether that matters to you is another thing.

    I’ve noticed if you have long hair (past the shoulders) and there is a lot of it then you can hide any mistakes easier. Curly hair is also better at hiding mistakes. If it’s straight, short and more sparse then any cuts made will be more noticeable and thus any mistakes will be more obvious. If you go very short and have to use a shaver to get closer to the skin then it can be tricky to keep everything even.

    The more you do it the better you will get of course. At this point I feel fairly comfortable trimming my length but the first few times did not look very good. If your situation is such that appearances aren’t scrutinized severely then I don’t see the harm in trying to do it yourself.

    Just make sure you cut your hair a little longer than you might want, that way if it looks really bad then you can go to a hairstylist and they have some length to work with.

    Oh and something to note, my hairstylist knows about my sensory issues and they’re very accommodating. I was rather upfront about it, telling them something along the lines of “Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I have some sensory issues with haircuts. Is it possible we can address them before we get started?” I ended up sticking with the hairstylist that was the most understanding. It took a few tries but they’re great! We use unscented hair products, no heat styling (blow dryer or hair iron), tv’s are turned off, and we only really talk when it’s about the haircut.

    The only reason I don’t see them that often anymore is the cost of services in general.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    I have been cutting my own hair since covid.

    It isn't that hard. A pair of scissors, some hair rubbers and a hair trimmer if you want it short.

    The hardest part os, of course, the back of the head. But with time you can get a pretty decent result.

    I tend to prefer a "messy" hair style which helps hiding my mess ups.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    I do it, handheld trimmer in front of a mirror, not gonna win any awards but it works.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    I cut my own hair during lockdown. I did it outdoors, using regular scissors and a mirror. It came out not too bad, from the front anyway. Not sure what the back looked like - it felt ok. That's shortish hair, I'm sure long hair would be easier.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Do it!

    We all tried it in the pandrmic, it's no big deal!

    And you might really like it.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

    My wife learned to do it in 2020. In a family of 5, this has saved us close to $7,000 since. We bought all professional scissors and clippers.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    Wow, I almost never cut my hair. Like once a year at most. But with a family that makes sense. Growing up, my dad cut my & my brother's hair for years, although we did go to the barber sometimes.

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  • I think that's largely going to depend on what kind of hair cut you want. I do a semi layered cut. I bend forward, brush all my hair towards my forehead, put it in a pony tail, and cut it whenever I want.

    I will note if you're cutting it close to your forehead, maybe take some front pieces out or you'll have really really short bangs. After I do all that I double check it in the mirror, make sure both sides are even, trim if they're not, trim my bangs how I want them, and I'm good for another month or two.

    Is it in style? Idk. I'm pushing 40, I don't really give a shit anymore. But it sure beats the hell out of going to the salon.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    I buzz cut when I messed up practicing, but I keep my hair only just long enough to style slightly and only use powered trimmers really with a small pair of touch up scissors.

    Buying a 360 degree mirror is my recommendation. It's basically a swivel arm attached to three adjustable mirrors. Takes the blind guess work out of the equation and you can clean your neck up better.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    I started cutting it myself during Covid. Then moved to a forwign country. I have always had anxiety about the salon experience so it was a huge relief when it was just me in my bathroom with some scissors. No one to blame but me if I mess up and I don’t get poorer about it. I’ll probably never go to a salon again. I am 44 and have never loved my hair so it doesn’t matter much to me how it comes shorter. I keep it between my chin and shoulder blades, and use brad mondo tutorials.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago

    Also autistic and did this for a few years. For a basic dude-cut, you can use buzz everything however short you want, then every few weeks after buzz the sides and back but let the top grow until it looks like it's time to buzz your whole head again or you decide to let it keep growing back out for a bit. Pretty easy and low maintenance. Takes practice and follow the other person's advice to shower and go back over your head to make sure you get everything, it's harder than it seems like it should be. And you'll need someone to help get your neckline at some point.

    This cut might start out a lot shorter than you had in mind when you asked the question, or maybe not. When it comes to wielding scissors, that's not something I can really attack my hair with, so I don't have ideas that would be helpful in that regard.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Well, if you have a lot of hair to play around with, you can just try it without much risk. I cut my own hair (male, short hair) but I find it really difficult to manipulate scissors or clippers while looking in the mirror. I also can't really do the back of my head so I have to get someone to help me.

    Just be ready to clean up, because hair will fly all over the place if you aren't careful.

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  • Might be worth asking in !autism@lemmy.world

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    Mine is 30-40 cm (man) and I do it myself with scissors. Forget all the "hacks" and just do whatever u think will look good freehand. I do recommend getting good scissors intended for cutting hair. Normal ones are not sharp enough.

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  • I have some small experience and it did not go well

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    I don't know if it would bother you, because it can be noisy, but:

    Flowbee

    People thinks it's ridiculous, but I've been using one since well before the pandemic. It does as well as a barber ever did.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I often buzz cut my own hair. It takes a long time as I need to go over it many times to get the straggler hairs. There are areas that I don't dare try to straighten up. My side burns and back of my neck. Otherwise I simply use a #2 in the most of the year and a #3 in the winter.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (1 child)

    Jesus, Flowbee is way more expensive than I remembered!

    https://www.flowbee.com/

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  • For many years it started with a Mohawk in college when I started getting that Jean Renu, then it started connecting leaving me with a solitary tuft so I just started shaving it.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    As a dude I go from long hair to slightly-less-long hair by cutting it on each side above the shoulders. Pulled forward below the neck if long enough, sort of like the opposite of the unicorn trick (tried that in the past, but easy to mess up the layering).

    Also probably makes more sense if you usually keep your hair in a ponytail, as any imbalance won't be obvious.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I used to shave my head with a razor when I was in the army. I'd give my ponytail a go with the scissors when I let it grow afterwards.

    Both are easy and work.

    My wife has requirements on my hairdo nowadays, so she gets to cut it. It's getting too thin for ponytails and she doesn't like baldy.

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  • Go for it. As you said, worst case you'll see a professional and it grows back anyways.

    I used to cut my hair and messed up sometimes. I find with long hair, small mistakes aren't as visible.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I've been cutting my own hair for 30 years. I'm pretty good at it now but it's still not easy (I'm also autistic). i use ear plugs to block the sound of the electric clippers and I just try to get it over with quickly. I don't do anything fancy, keep it short and neat, and if I mess up I'm okay with shaving it all off. blank slate haha

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I've done it and it's not that hard. Plenty of tutorials. It will take you a bit of practice to get the back right though, since you need to either be fine with it looking sloppy or work from a double mirror setup.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I shave mine, cut the bulk off with an electric trimmer and safety razor whatever's left

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago

    I cut my own hair once, then I had a friend trim it to smooth over any mistakes

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago*

    i've been doing it myself for years, with my gf just finishing the neck. Not hard. But I do just one simple cut (crew cut). I have in a note on my phone the 3 different size guards I use for different parts and i'm good.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

    I’ve got long hair and cut it myself. I layer it and do the fringe. It took hours of watching Youtube videos to find the way I wanted my hair to look/the preferred method that it’s done/whether it was achievable via self-cut. It won’t be perfect - and actually will never be perfect cutting it yourself, you’ll just be able to better hide the fact that it’s self-cut😜. It will take a couple of tries at first to get there. I always ask my friends/family if it passes the eye test lol.

    I can do it all myself but need my boyfriend to start it for me. He does the first blunt cut in the back to establish the perimeter. I like for it to be as straight as possible, so I don’t do this part myself.

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago

    I cut my hair since covid, but I'm just cutting it all off. That's pretty easy

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  • [–] 0 points 1 year ago

    Really depends on the cut you're going for.

    I keep my hair short, so if it's getting longer than I like, but I don't want to make an appointment, I can take the clippers to it, and stall for a few more weeks.

    Anything beyond clippers I would NOT recommend doing on your own.

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