many also mistake arrogance for confidence

Best line (quote?) I've read in a while. Well done sir.

Oh come on, a dude who makes this post definitely has not bothered to read any of the above.

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Pathetic. I don't even talk to people who haven't read Cellini's complete works at least thrice.

Name 5 songs

How did Hendrix and The Hu not make the list?

Uh huh. Uh, yeah. Oh, I recognize some of these!

no Phish?!? check out billy breathes sometime great campfire album.

“I know, I just taught my niece how to solve one. She’s so smart they’re letting her skip kindergarten!”

Cellini underwent mitosisini.

That's a literary technique called "anaphora", or in layman terms, "repeating shit", it's a highly advanced technique used to emphasize the importance of something, his use of it is actually a demonstration of how much of a big brain smart boy he is

/j

We like Cellini.

Maybe it's like Dumas...

No van Gogh? Fucking casual.

/s

Bare minimum for holding a conversation: Scott, Palmer, Malone, Hudson, Martinez, Martin, Howard, Kapoor, Bratton, Lapin-Vance, Bernard, Lewis, Hannon, Philbin, Halpert, Beesly, Schrute

It’s kind of fun in an ironic meme way!

Bare minimum for holding a conversation: Obscure conspiracy theory websites and subreddits, Robert Monroe, Courtney Brown, David Icke, Aldous Hickey, Michael Palin, Steven Greer, John Lear, Richard C. Hoagland, and Linda Moulton Howe

several of the guys I've dated have decided to... [look] up my publications from grad school

That's so sweet! It's nice when people make efforts to engage with your interests

trying to impress me by trying to poke holes in them or otherwise making me defend them on the spot

...nevermind.

What the hell is with that level of insecurity. My wife is smarter than me, it was pretty clear pretty quick, most people realize she's smarter than them within a few hours of conversation. If you can't handle dating someone smart you desperately need to get the fuck over yourself. But also you can just leave! Or find a constructive way to deal with those feelings! Sigh.

Like I get insecurity about academics, my life in early adulthood was rough and resulted in me leaving after my undergrad instead of staying to the minimum of a masters degree that was expected of me. But I can't fucking imagine trying to deal with that by attempting to poke holes in a partner's achievements.

This is the most toxic male behavior ever. It has all the hallmarks - arrogance, insecurity, and enough 'subtly' to seem 'ok' at first, only for it to be turned into something terrible

Making lists

They probably have more insightful conversations avoiding these specific *phers.

No that's the maximum

And yet so many : Jane Austen
Agatha Christie
Countess of Ségur
...

I had a friend like this, too. I have a memory of him saying “uncultured swine” because I enjoyed Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy and thought six hours of the Godfather sounded awful.

That was highschool, though. He turned around over the next few years; now we’re thirty and I happily see him every week because he’s our DM. I’m not saying you were wrong to stop talking to that dude, not at all you gotta set boundaries, just wanted to say that there is at least one example of growth!

Man, I don't get people's obsession with classics. I've tried them and outside of a bit of Mark Twain, I just haven't enjoyed them.

Omg I feel that.

No, it was what made you (classically) educated, not intelligent. And for people who don't really know each other it is easier to start the conversation if they have something in common. That's one of the reasons it used to be expected to have some education in this direction.

Also, the douchebag in the original picture wrote Cellini twice, so he is not even "intelligent" :)

Most of the male history nerds, especially the ones who are dicks about it, are into war history. Talk to women who are into history and they’re out there building historical recreations of clothes, making historical food(there are some men doing great here, too), talking about niche histories of human rights, and all manner of crafts.

Most importantly, the history men learn is called “history” and the history women learned is called “traditional techniques” or “neat little facts” or basically anything that tries to not count it in the same way. They “don’t know history” and their “traditional techniques” are considered to be just crafting hobbies.

I think there is likely a more even gender distribution of history nerds who are truly interested in history when it comes to topics outside of politics and military. A lot of men tend to use it for ego stroking and fantasizing about being the great men of history, while there is no similar avenue for women in that regard.

Anecdotally, I've noticed the same thing, but I think it might have something to do with the type of gatekeeping and "well akshually" apparent in the original post.