Everything that takes the mind off of all the stress of contemporary life.

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[–] 57 points 1 month ago (8 children)

i go stand in a forest for an hour every week. i don't walk, run, or do anything interesting. i just stand there, watch and listen

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Interesting practice of mindfulness! How did this routine of yours come to be?

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    I was going for forest walks at the time to help deal with my depression and for some reason just tried to be as quiet as possible one day. It was the best and I realized I didn't actually like the fitness part of the walk. Being as slow and quiet as possible felt much better

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    This is how you get the best animal sightings

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    yeah I see birds closer than I've ever seen them before

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child)

    If you're interested in ramping that up a bit:

    • edge habitats: try to pock spots where ecosystems meet, like forest meets field
    • wind alignment: stay upwind downwind (how did I do that) if possible
    • stillness (what you're doing): 10-15mins of stillness between slow movement
    • pinch points: check the map and try to find spots like where a ridge narrows that funnel animals
    • tracking: look out for tracks, poop, etc

    Investing in a little popup blind or camo netting or something to hide in can be magic

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  • [–] 37 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    Reading and hiking are the two main ones for me.

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    Photo walks. Your whole point just becomes to go out and take in the scenery. Makes you slow down and appreciate your surroundings in a way that a walk doesn't. If you're after wildlife you have to move with intention, lest you scare the subject. If it's a more static subject you've more time to take in the light and shadows, frame your background.

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  • [–] 23 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    Running. Just one foot in front of the other. Bonus points for running in a new place and taking in the sights.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    What does your mind do when you’re running? Can you just clear all thoughts and focus on breathing and one foot after the other.

    Or does the repetition make you spiral on every bad decision from the last 20 years like me 😅

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    My mind is writing books or short stories that will never be set on a paper, inventing new things that I have no idea how they'd work, but most importantly, my mind is busy arguing with others, and winning every argument :)

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I am like you, running is good exercise but too boring and I can't stop thinking. Aerobic dance like Jazzercise is perfectly calibrated so that I can just follow/do and not think but the class near me ended, they are only out in the suburbs now. Yoga is good if it's the challenging vinyasa flow with music, I can sometimes get into that perfect mindset. But fucking Jazzercise was oddly perfect and is gone.

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  • [–] 20 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Adult band program at a School of Rock franchise.

    Weekly 90 minute rehearsal, and we put on a show every 3-4 months. Our big show is today, I'm playing keys on seven songs this time around.

    Also, separately from that, I play bass in a cover band that I met through the School of Rock program.

    Music's some good shit.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I discovered School of Rock in Denver, and they do shows at Red Rocks too. I think its such an awesome idea. I attended one free lesson last year and haven't gone back yet, but I have been trying to dedicate some time to guitar recently. I find it so difficult to maintain the motivation to practice as an adult. any tips?

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    My motivation is all around deepening my enjoyment of music I already know and love. Listening to a great song is awesome but playing part of it on an instrument is so much deeper of a way to engage with and enjoy it

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  • [–] 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    I haven't dreamed when sleeping for a few years really now

    Been reading dungeon crawler Carl and it's the first time I'm dreaming mostly every night now. Just more relaxed

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  • [–] 18 points 1 month ago

    Smoking weed, hooking into my mp3 player, then going to the park to vibe on the swing

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  • [–] 17 points 1 month ago* (2 children)

    This might sound weird but, before bed I try to do basically nothing, I just sit on the couch & let myself relax, maybe with a little reading on the side.

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  • [–] 15 points 1 month ago* (1 child)
    • Shitposting on Lemmy

    • Looking at porn

    Oh... Wait that says offline activities...

    • Thinking of shitposts to post on Lemmy

    • Jerking off

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  • [–] 15 points 1 month ago

    I build things, electronics mostly. Then the next day I get to admire what yesterday-me built.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Off-what? You mean in meatspace?

    Jokes aside: Reading. Designing and playing Pen&Paper RPGs. Cooking.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Would you mind talking a bit more about your approach to cooking? I take some satisfaction from being able to cook and sometimes from the feeling of improving my skill as a cook, but mostly it feels like a necessary chore.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago*

    Sure! But it's not particularly sophisticated. Other than staple recipes (like e.g. vegetables stews) I learned while growing up, when there's a product I was previously dependent on buying ready-made that gets enshittified by the food industry so much I'm unwilling to pay the full asking price, I start looking into the recipe for it and experiment to calibrate quality, time efficiency, and material cost to the exact tradeoff I consider best for me. Frozen pizza vs self made pizza being one example.

    My joy in cooking, aside from the above optimization process I find fun, comes from knowning I pay less money to eat a better quality (and almost always less unhealthy) meal than I'd otherwise be able to. Once I have a recipe dialed in, it also requires virtually no thinking to get done, which is the opposite of my daily work; that's the "unwinding" for me. I can then also combine it with listening to some audiobook or TTRPG actual play / podcast.

    Due to this depth-first approach my actual list of recipes isn't incredibly large, but it's enough to never get boring by now, at least.

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    On the one hand I'm a volunteer for the Red Cross which is a very satisfying and "in the moment" activity.

    On the other hand I put on a mask and pretend to be a dog for a while

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  • [–] 13 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Going for a walk is an essential activity for me to reset. Riding my bike has a similar effect. I've started leaving my phone at home.

    Reading as well. Something light-hearted if I'm seeking joy.

    I have a small garden on my balcony. It's not successful right now but it's enjoyable to watch something green grow.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child)

    What about playing FTL? :)

    I'm with you on everything except gardening. It sounds appealing in the abstract, but then in the spring it turns into "ugh, too much to do" and "ugh, gotta get up early to water" in the summer.

    Actually...what DID get you into gardening in the first place? Maybe there's something to it that I'm missing.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago

    Ayy you got the reference!

    I started because I wanted to grow Thai holy basil which I was struggling to find in stores, extended to different varieties of kind of pricey hot peppers, then a few flowers to keep it looking nice. I've had a few bad seasons over the years that made me almost quit but at this point it would feel weird to not have a garden to take care of.

    The maintenance can occasionally be a pain but it's sometimes nice to have a good reason to get up early. It only becomes too much work if I get greedy and take on too many plants at once. I try to keep it to a small and manageable amount, and choose plants that don't require a lot of care.

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  • [–] 13 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Cheap drum machine (korg volca drum), cheap synthesizer, plugged into mixer + no talent + no formal music theory knowledge == unlimited hours of enjoyment. Someday, I might even make something I like.

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    M Vave FM1. $61 on AliExpress, and it's a battery powered pocket dx7, fully compatible with all dx7 patches via sysex. Midi input via USB or trs, so be sure you get a type a midi to trs cable. First one I had was non standard and didn't work, causing all kinds of grief until I busted out a multimeter and the cable pin out to see what's what. For the price, it is a fantastic little toy and I've already learned so much about sound design from it.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 month ago

    Outdoor back-to-basics stuff has only proven more beneficial the more I have integrated it into my life.

    Carpentry, landscaping, gardening, and taking care of my many animals all help me get fresh air and exercise in addition to whatever else I get out of the activities.

    I am living the superposition of that meme where the resume or linkedin profile goes from Senior Systems Architect to Goose Farmer. My day job is software for embedded systems. At home, in addition to the indoor projects I am slowly transforming my little fenced-in back yard into a combination of oasis, hobby farm, and town from an old RPG or zelda game.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 month ago

    Playing old versions of Tetris. Retro puzzle gaming in general, but I find improving at Tetris really satisfying.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Turning on music and cooking something. Watch me scramble my eggs while belting out some System of a Down. "DISORDER! DISORDER!"

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  • [–] 11 points 1 month ago*

    I mean, do video games count? Theres millions that aren't online.

    Otherwise, reading gardening sewing woodwork music singing drawing painting walking cleaning board games calling a friend write a letter cook food

    The Internet and tech bros have fried everyone's brains.

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  • [+] 10 points 1 month ago* (1 child)
  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago

    Try shutting off the phone and unplugging the router. I guarantee youll find things to do and probably reverse some of the brainrot!

    Sometimes I think kids think the internet has existed as long as humans. Its literally a brand new thing compared to humanity. We do not need it.

    I'm so damn glad I didnt have it at a young age !

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  • [–] 10 points 1 month ago

    Noodling on one of my guitars

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  • [–] 9 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    I recently started teaching myself piano. There are great adult method books that make the process pretty straightforward. Modern digital pianos are fantastic and be can used with headphones too, which lets me practice without annoying the rest of the house.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Any suggestions? I've owned a piano for years, even took a lesson or two, but no dice.

    I can play a couple snippets of songs, but that's it. No real skill or ability. And I can't read sheet music.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    band program! some music schools do it. I'm in an adult band program at a School of Rock near me.

    I'm a bassist at heart but I've always enjoyed keys too, so when I signed up for thr band program I decided to lean in hard on keys. It's been just the right amount of motivation and challenge and I've definitely skilled up a lot

    also I can't read sheet music either hahaha. kinda starting to grasp what notes are on what lines but I'm way more used to playing by ear, or using tabs for bass guitar

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    I'm using the Faber Adult Piano Adventures books, and am having a great time. I try and learn one new piece each day (they are short pieces -- at most about 1 to 2 pages). The method books are great because they start from absolute basics and build as you go, so as long as you are honest with yourself and don't skip ahead until ready, they are a great way to learn, especially if you are interested in learning to read sheet music.

    Aside from that the biggest help has been listening to a lot of classical piano music and that has also been a rewarding experience on its own.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago

    Make music. I’m technically still on a computer, but I don’t need to be online for it, so that counts I guess?

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago

    Music. I have a degree in Music History, but I haven't made a living with it for 25 years, although I still loved music.

    During COVID, I was bored, and eating, so I took up guitar again, after leaving it behind decades ago. I've played every day since, and not only reached an intermediate level (far better than I ever was in the past), but I've also lost 100 pounds, by picking up my guitar instead of going to the fridge.

    Now I'm experimenting with recording, using cheap used gear, and having a blast.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    Bike rides

    Hikes

    Making love

    Cuddling

    Wanking

    Reading

    Taking a nap in a hammock

    Exercise

    Fishing

    Video games (single player)

    Movies

    Petting our dogs

    Getting a massage

    Wildlife and macro photography

    Meditating

    Just not doing anything at all for a bit

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago

    Not sure if this counts as “offline” but I play video games, read books, edibles, and because I’m in my late 30’s I’ve recently picked up bird watching!

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Playing music! I always feel better after sitting down at my drum kit for half an hour or so. I think it works with any instrument though.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago

    Spending time with my horse is my favorite activity. It's so relaxing and I forget all of my troubles when I'm at the barn

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  • [–] 14 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Ice hockey! Love going to games, love watching it on telly, just love it

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago

    I still do them but honestly things are so effed now they don't do much anymore. walks. baths. being in natural outdoor areas.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (6 children)

    Gardening, walking in forests :)

    Litter picking is also a very in-the-moment activity, like an IRL hidden object game.

    I'd also say that I read a lot, but I do it on an ebook reader, so it doesn't feel properly offline 😅

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Litter picking is a great suggestion.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    Thanks :) I really like that it has an immediate positive effect. I typically work on digital documents and long projects, so it's at most a couple times a year that my work has a tangible end result that I can leaf through. Litter picking gives immediate satisfaction :)

    It reminds me of a scene in Iain Banks's sci-fi novel Use of Weapons:

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    Later, he had wandered off. The huge ship was an enchanted ocean in which you could never drown, and he threw himself into it to try to understand if not it, then the people who had built it.

    He walked for days, stopping at bars and restaurants whenever he felt thirsty, hungry or tired; mostly they were automatic and he was served by little floating trays, though a few were staffed by real people. They seemed less like servants and more like customers who'd taken a notion to help out for a while.

    'Of course I don't have to do this,' one middle-aged man said, carefully cleaning the table with a damp cloth. He put the cloth in a little pouch, sat down beside him. 'But look; this table's clean.'

    He agreed that the table was clean.

    'Usually,' the man said. 'I work on alien - no offence - alien religions; Directional Emphasis In Religious Observance; that's my speciality... like when temples or graves or prayers always have to face in a certain direction; that sort of thing? Well, I catalogue, evaluate, compare; I come up with theories and argue with colleagues, here and elsewhere. But... the job's never finished; always new examples, and even the old ones get re-evaluated, and new people come along with new ideas about what you thought was settled... but,' he slapped the table, 'when you clean a table you clean a table. You feel you've done something. It's an achievement.'

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I love forests, especially when the terrain is rugged enough to straddle the line between hiking and freeclimbing.

    For books, I like the feel of turning the pages by hand, but I won't begrudge anyone their e-reader!

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  • Biking is pretty fun and freeing. There's no gas to buy or heavy traffic. Writing is also great. I've been journaling recently and it's helped a lot

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago

    I volunteer at a wildlife rescue and study music. Both are challenging physically and mentally, and it takes my mind off of other things when I'm doing them.

    They give me pride and a sense of satisfaction when I have success, and my coworkers or teacher give me support when I'm having trouble.

    Having a strong support structure while doing something that requires my full attention just does something good for me mentally.

    Volunteer work I strongly recommend to anyone. I avoided it for years even though I thought it might be fun because even so, why would I want more work?

    What I do at the clinic is more challenging and demanding than my real job, but unlike my real job, this is actually something I'm passionate about, everyone I'm there with also wants to be there 100%, and all our effort goes into saving the lives of animals and making our local environment a better place. Every time I go, I can actually see the world becoming a better place then it would otherwise be if all of us weren't there.

    I imagine this would be applicable to most any type of volunteering like helping kids or the elderly, cleaning up neighborhoods, or feeding people, etc. A lot of activities can just serve as distractions, but the intense work makes me physically and mentally feel I actually did something, and every animal that recovers and goes free is a result that is inarguable.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago

    Riding my bike to the coastal parks in my city and watching all the people watch the ocean.

    If both of those are inaccessible I usually just play video games. Right now my favourite is Deep Rock Galactic: Rogue Core. Other times I'll play Factorio or Satisfactory if I'm in the mood.

    I also like to study a lot, but usually that means going to a cafe which is expensive. >_<

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago

    Watering and repotting my plants ☺️☺️☺️ my first peppers are ripening and I'm so jazzed

    I wanna set up a planted aquarium and then I can tend to those plants too

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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    My main one is building with my Lego. I know, I know they are expensive NOW but back in the day they were cheap ways to play. Now, I've got ALL my Lego from when I was a kid and I'm building everything. Well, not EVERYTHING but a bunch! :-)

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago

    I like to do rock climbing, hiking, and archery

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  • [–] 12 points 1 month ago

    Gardening, dancing, sex, reading, exercise, cooking, riding the electric bike, going to see live music (people are always filming on their phones but I don't, prefer to just experience it).

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    Walking, biking, hiking, going to concerts, reading, even going to the gym. Science fiction conventions, comic-cons, going to the beach.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    I play guitar, read, and do a bit of yardwork.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I befriend the outside cats

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    I love this! There's a family in my neighborhood that has three cats, indoor/outdoor. My wife and I check to see if they're about basically every time we walk in the neighborhood. The cats will saunter up to us for pets most of the time :D

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    Not doing anything is great.

    Absolutely unscheduled time when you don't have anything planned.

    Get away from the mindset that tells you that you have to be 'productive' or 'active.'

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