Or plan to get one some day? It was a big thing with my parents, but I've never seen them in anyone else's homes.

It is just one of those "Boomer" things nowadays?

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[–] 32 points 2 months ago (7 children)

Having fancy china/dish sets for display isn't really a thing the youth is worried about. It used be a social thing, having guests over to eat off (or just see the display) your fancy dinner plate is probably the social equivalent to having the box of 64GB of ram on a shelf above your computer. In other words "yes, we have money and you can shut about it up Aunt Gertrude"

A closed cabinet with glass doors to display what ever you collect is a nice thing to have. The doors help keep dust and cats out.

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  • [–] 14 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    Who even has people over at all these days?

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  • [–] 18 points 2 months ago

    My parents (Gen x) have one that they got from my boomer grandma passing. They have a billion different sets of china they're trying to sell or auction, but no one wants it. They've told me it'll be mine when they pass and ugh. I appreciate that it's nice and all, but truly I'll probably just donate it to a rage room or something. A soup kitchen so they can all feel sophisticated. Dunno. I don't want it.

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  • [–] 15 points 2 months ago

    Nope. I think it’s mostly a dead idea.

    My mom is still hoarding (for me) a set of fine china dishes I inherited from my grandmother. They’re really nice.

    But what am I going to do with them? Add specific furniture to my too-small home to store them so I can pull them out for certain dinner parties? We barely host for dinner anymore, and when we do, we keep it casual.

    I think china cabinets go along with a whole bunch of social niceties that were important in the 20th century and have since withered.

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  • [–] 7 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    My peers aren't buying china, but a couple are using china cabinets or hutches to display the things they do collect. There's pretty much an open request that if anyone spots good quality used furniture, to put it in a group chat.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago

    Yeah, I used to have a China cabinet in my first and second apartment. It housed a whole bunch of rc car and drone stuff. Never had a single plate in it.

    I left it in the apartment because it was 1/2 glass 1/2 pure cherry wood aka a total pain in the ass to move.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 months ago

    My mom still has all of her mom's old china from when she passed. It fills up an enormous, ugly, heavy cabinet that eats up a pretty significant chunk of the living room and doesn't go with any of the other decor. I have never, in my nearly 40 years of existence, seen her use a single piece of it. It was always "for special occasions", but we always went out for special occasions, so they still never got used.

    I think she only keeps them because they were important to her mom, who inherited some of it from her mom, and possibly even further up the chain. I don't think they're even worth anything; she could maybe get a couple hundred bucks if she were to sell the whole collection, maybe a bit more if she got creative with the listing. There were times growing up where we were dirt broke and couldn't even afford soap to wash a dish and ate dinner off of paper towels, and she still wouldn't let anyone use the china. But it was important to those before her, so I think my mom just wants to preserve it in their memory.

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  • I built one for my parents last summer.

    I do have one myself, inherited from my grandmother, full of the dishes that are too precious to break out for Pope God The First because he's not holy enough for early 20th century China my father "remembers from when he was a kid." It's not as large as the one I built for my folks though.

    I do...kind of hate them as a trophy case of consumerism?

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    The best thing you can do when someone dies and people try to pawn china off onto you is immediately throw it in the cupboard with your regular plates. At least it has a chance of serving a purpose, then.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    I'm housesitting this week and I was so thrown when I opened the cupboards and found nothing but nice china. I guess this is probably his plan but my anxiety has me eating out of his plastic take out containers instead lmao.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago

    I don't know about the cabinets, but you can find used China really cheap at thrift stores. Most people don't care about it anymore, so it isn't worth much. As the boomers are dying their stuff is getting donated.

    I personally don't care about fancy dishes, but a lot of folks like to use it 'just because' rather than waiting for a special day.

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  • [–] 5 points 2 months ago

    So. Funny enough. Yes. You see its massive and the people did not want to try and move it when we purchased the place. We also got a dining room table and chairs. They actually tried to suggest a few hundred to have them and we are like. Nope. So they just gave them to us.

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  • [–] 8 points 2 months ago

    You mean cabinets manufactured in China? Yeah, a whole kitchen full.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago*

    (Speaking as an early Millennial)

    I have a gigantic cabinet in my dining room/kitchen (not much wall between them so it's kinda the same space). It's 8 feet tall, solid hardwood except for the glass doors, and was originally a built-in from a house in the next neighborhood over. They put it out on the curb and I saw it, hitched up my utility trailer, brought it home and installed it. Best curb find so far.

    I use it as a pantry because my house small and doesn't have a closet-style pantry.

    I also have a set of fine china that a friend gave me as a wedding present (even though we didn't have a gift registry), but the pattern isn't really our style and I've never taken it out of the box. I don't have plans to buy other fancy dishes, either. I'm very happy with my cheap Corelle (except for the fact that they discontinued the pattern and I wish I had more sets of it).

    So, technically, I "have" both china and a china cabinet, but it is very much just a Boomer thing anyway.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago (8 children)

    I inherited most of my grandma's mid-century dining room set, so yes. I keep her china in the bottom, and use the top as a display case and liquor cabinet. She wouldn't exactly be thrilled with my setup, but she'd be happy the furniture stayed in the family.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    ooo is that a 3D brain sliced up into coasters??

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    Is that a dead rat in the jar? Top right, in the back

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    Yep. Someone stole it from my high school's science wing storage, gave it to my ex husband for his 18th birthday, and he left it with me "until I find a stable place" after we split up. We're on good terms and I'll give it back if he ever asks for it, but we separated more than ten years ago so I think it may just be mine now.

    There's also a little octopus on a jar on the top left, front of the shelf.

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  • [–] 4 points 2 months ago

    I have a display cabinet! It has Lego in it. I don't have fancy China.

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  • [–] 6 points 2 months ago (3 children)

    China is a pretty big country not sure how it would fit in a cabinet.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago

    They are a common wedding gift in some rural communities.

    But I don't have one yet.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago*

    Used to until we moved. We left the china and the china cabinet behind. Only thing we took that was in it was my mom's snow globe collection.

    I wouldn't bother getting another. I have no desire to have a set of fancy dining ware that gets used maybe once a year. The only fancy dining ware I need is anything not paper and plastic.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago (2 children)

    I guess I had one or something like it when I first moved out. My parents gave it to me along with a matching dining table, all of which had been sitting in their basement. My wife wasn’t a fan of it and when we moved out of the house we listed it for sale, eventually selling it for a few hundred dollars, after sitting on the market for close to 2 months and dropping the price a few times.

    My parents were upset when they found out; it turned out they had had that table custom made earlier in their marriage when they could finally afford new furniture. They said they would’ve bought it back for more than we got had they known. But a couple days later they begrudgingly realized they didn’t have room for that furniture and it wouldn’t have made sense for them to buy it.

    A few years later they moved into a smaller home since all of us kids had been grown and moved out for years. As they tried to sell furniture and other things they weren’t going to have room for, it became depressing to them to see how little these things were worth that they had spent a lot of money on new. They had a set of china for each of us kids, one they bought or received as a wedding gift, others they had inherited from dead relatives. But it became apparent that we all preferred the same set, the one with the simplest design, yet it also was clear that we would only rarely, if ever, use the china and it’s largely a waste of space for any of us.

    I think we might even have our set already, but we never use it and it’s not on display. If we have it it’s in the bottom cabinets of a console my wife loves. Also there are a couple very nice crystal bowls my uncle bought us, that my wife is almost terrified to get out of their box out of fear of breaking them. We understand they’re all nice items and expensive, but we might’ve preferred to have that money spent on things we’d get more use out of.

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  • [–] 3 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    terrified to get out of their box out of fear of breaking them.

    The question you have to ask is: Is it worth taking up space and never beeing seen or used vs. the risk of having it out and using it?

    It's like bottles of wine that slowly turn to vinegar. Things not used are a waste of space, a waste of resources spent on making them.

    It's your stuff, do as you please, of course. I don'tk now enough specifics to say either use or don't use is better for sure. Just that most people hoard and hold on to things that never get used. Like the china in the thread and your comment specifically - what a waste of space, although at least using it annually means it's really special. But compare that to something you can never use - it only takes up space.

    Again, not trying to be pushy at all, I know it might sound it <3

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    No. I never understood the point of having dishes that get used a few times a year. I suppose that, for people like my grandparents, they got more use hosting bridge nights and the like but even my parents didn't host that much. As someone in his mid-40s, I definitely haven't done much of it.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    Sorta. A relatively inexpensive Ikea cabinet for our nice dishes. That’s about it. Not one of those hulking wall-sized oak monstrosities full of “collectibles” that were popular many decades ago.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    Lol fuck no

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    I have several. I don't want them. Please come take them. I'll give them to you for free to save me the hassle and money of getting rid of them. I didn't want them to begin with and I don't want them now. I did not buy them. They do me no good. They make my life worse.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    Mostly swedish

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    I had a really nice one, and couldn't sell it at any price. I couldn't even give it away, even to used furniture stores. They can't sell the ones they've already got.

    I thought about turning it into a humidified guitar display cabinet, but I don't have the time or place to do that right now, so I just left it in the storage unit when I closed it out.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    Boomer thing. My MIL keeps trying to give us hers but we don't have the space or the need for plateware that will never be used.

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  • [–] 2 points 2 months ago

    You call it China cabinet, I call it booze box.

    Have no fancy plates, that shit is obsolete.

    If I were going to host a fancy dinner, I would go to a restaurant.

    Wtf good is China that you have to spend hours hand washing? I don't have servants and I don't have a dining room either. I mean I did, but I put a stereo in there instead. We used the dining room 3x a year. I listen to records every day.

    Priorities.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago*

    We have something like that with glassware in it. Much of it is from our respective parents so there's some sentimental / nostalgia value, but also we like cocktails and it's fun having stuff in different types of glasses. None of it is particularly valuable, but glass doors makes it easier to find what you're looking for and it more or less looks nice.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    Yes, of course, where else am I gonna keep my china? Older millennial, for reference.

    Uh, also live in a century home (1880), so there's no closests or cupboards; the expectation is you'd have wardrobes and cabinets and other heavy storage furniture for that purpose instead of anything built-in.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    No. I do not.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    We only have a few plates. Not enough that they need their own storage area.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    Puling out the fine china for a gathering used to be a big deal. Nowadays, gatherings are less common, the cachet of owning a set of fine china is less, and when we do gather, many probably use paper plates and the like for easier cleanup.

    The act of cooking for guests is considered sufficient effort, I think. And we typically value other posessions more - may I even suggest that most people already have too much stuff, so instead of a sparse house and tales of people holding on to string from packages and that string proving valuable (a tale I remember reading in a childhood schoolbook), today we have too much stuff.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    I had one a couple decades ago because my wife wanted a China set to display. After a move it was repurposed to display other things like gems and minerals and neat stuff.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    I have my ordinary plates and glasses in such a cabinet. It has the perfect size for just that. What a coincidence huh?

    But seriously though, that is the reason. I ran out of space in the larger cabinets, and to minimize the use of floor space, I got one of those. They're like half the depth of other kitchen cabinets.

    I don't have any fine china or silverware on display though.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    We were kind of expected to get china for our wedding, but we got our own we liked instead of some old one from our family. We do keep it in a cabinet. We try to use it more often when we make dinner and want to feel fancy or when we have people over for holidays or dinners. We also drink out of our wedding champagne glasses fairly often because they are our only ones and we like them. Also the bottom of the China cabinet also holds other kitchen and serving stuff.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    No. Closest thing we have is a Germany Cabinet, as we bought a large set from a German manufacturer last year. It's more high end than our everyday stuff, and mostly use it when we have people over and birthdays and stuff.

    When I hear "China Cabinet" I think of somewhere easily visible and with glass doors so that they're also on display when not in use. Ours ate hidden in the back along with other stuff we don't use all that often.

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  • [–] 1 point 2 months ago

    Yea. A couple. I love them.

    I don't keep china in them. One has a bunch of baking gear and lots of photos. The other is in the basement and is used as a pantry. Nice hard wood cabinets that will last forever in a house with woefully little storage.

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  • [–] 0 points 2 months ago

    Imagine having so much disposable income you have dishes that you use twice a year, otherwise just on display in its own cubby, taking up space and for what. Yes this is 100% a fuckin boomer thing, and we will see more and more of the sets and the cabinets in second hand shops worldwide as they continue to finally die off.

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