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Whew, but I did have a Chuck Palahniuk phase

I think you're right, I'm just responding to the people (who are all over this thread) saying that this is part of their manic pixie dream girl fantasy.

Even the op explains that this is a method to avoid the guy trying to pick her up.

Idk about other people but I hit on and am hit on by women at bars

Unironically the answer seems to be mainly "don't." I'm with you (I hate making people feel uncomfortable personally, but it shakes out the same) and have been trying to make sense of it, so far I've got:

Bars: OK

Dating apps: OK

Work: Right out don't even think about it. This includes any combination of worker/customer, worker/worker, and even customer/customer. Women supposedly don't like to be asked out in those situations.

And then you'll hear men say "go to the gym" and women say "I don't like being asked out at the gym" so that seems off limits unless you're seeking men.

Common advice is to "find a hobby" but women hate being asked out while they're just trying to do their hobbies as well according to them. Ok so then "you don't ask them out there, you become friends and hope they'll set you up with a single friend." It also necessitates a hobby that isn't solitary, which just isn't everyone's cup of tea.

So basically the best I've got so far seems to be "drink more, discard online privacy, or pray."

But then also "just ask, be polite, and take no for an answer, if they get offended at that, that's their problem" has been thrown around, and figuratively praying to a god I don't believe in hasn't been working so far, so I'm considering trying that out.

Actually, ironically, while I made the joke that "make friends and then hope they set you up with someone" = "pray," another piece of advice is "meet them in church," which supposedly works real well, but I don't think lying about my religion is a good foundation to a happy relationship, personally. If you however have no such compunction or are religious, that may work.

I wonder if Lemmy has a dating community.

Forget dating apps. Idk, friend of friends might recommend you?

I am just as afraid and single, so yeah.

This isn't even outside of what society expects. Striking up conversations with people is normal and human!

There are bad ways to do it, of course. In this case, I'd be rattled by the knee tap. But a little conversation is fine, and if they aren't responding enthusiastically you can just drop it.

What am I supposed to do? Be that creep that just hits on women? 😭

I can't imagine that it's not a game friend being a date, or friend of a friend who recommended me.

Or one of those dating servers/forums.

Everything else feels creepy.

put a drain in the bottom, that way when you shower you can wash the pouch and the water drains out. Towel dry, then throw a couple silica desiccant packs in and you're good to go.

Also making sure there is enough bloodflow to the skin to keep it from just dying off.

Yeah, I figured it would be like obese people that have folds... They clean them, right? Do they get fungus? Is this only for people in desert places? Ooooh... Wait, never thought about sweat before. Hm... OK, so whoever suggested a drain was right. But that's maybe also a deal breaker from my perspective.

Oh! Let me know if you find anything. Evey time I ask a doctor they get weird about it.

i hadn't realized it was supposed to be auxiliary. Interesting.

As it stands, English ends up being one of the most widely used second languages, which is nuts because English is a fuckin' nightmare to learn.

Alright, I can't say what your conversations have been like. It's just been my experience that if someone has one sentence to say about yt/TikTok drama, they have an essay's worth of follow up regarding what previous drama precipitated the current drama, what third parties have to say about it and whether any bridges are being burned, who's in the right and why, and so on...

It's... a story

You almost got me monologuing for a moment there!

But yeah, it’s not inherently a topic of broad appeal, which is why it’s so effective in filtering out people who don’t ever want to talk about grammar.

Who was being petty? They asked, they got an honest answer.

Getting the same pickup line over and over is minor, but tedious enough that it makes you want to create your own fun.

Plus, if they are down for grammar rants, that increases the chances that we could actually have something in common.