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[–] 50 points 5 months ago (5 children)

I'm not sure you could call it a "flex" but the number of people I meet who are almost proud of how bad they are at math is ridiculous. Short of having been diagnosed with dyscalculia, lacking basic mathematics skills as an adult should be on par with not knowing how to read.

It blows my mind how many other Americans I come across who lack basic understandings of fractions. We use the damn imperial system, which is a whole other issue for a different lemmy rant.

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  • [–] 29 points 5 months ago* (2 children)

    lots of people i meet brag they don't read either dude.

    usually after they see that I'm reading a book or if I tell them I like to read. they seem to find this very offensive and upsetting.

    i notice this especially with like, tech and medical workers? I also met quite a few english teachers who flexed how they don't read and think reading is dumb.

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  • [–] 12 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    english teachers who [...] don't read

    Not having time to read I could understand. Teaching comes with a lot of overtime. But actively bragging that they don't?!

    My head hurts just thinking about that.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago*

    plenty of people working in teaching/education are rabidly anti-intellectual. and lots of people in life are rabidly-hypocritical.

    the irony here too was the few people i met like this, also lectured me on my 'problematic' choices of reading material not being woke enough. like i had this date with an English teacher who went off on me for 30m about how racist/sexist I was for not being intimately familiar with Toni Morrison, and when I asked her when the last time she read it, it was 15+ years ago in college... the irony was just... so insane. she was going at me for not having read a book she read in college for coursework...

    it's just all weird flexes all the way down sometimes with some people.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago

    Cannot stand this shit. I have two younger sisters, and my extended family loves to go on and on about how they're bad at math, or how they were not good at math in school because it's hard. Okay, but you don't have to seed it into their very impressionable minds that math is hard, because it really shouldn't be.

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  • [–] 45 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    How many hours they work.

    Life is a game. Scored like golf. The number is "hours labouring".

    "I worked 120 hours this week, buttercup"

    Wow. I can't believe you volunteered what a giant fucking idiot you are.

    If you gotta work 120 hours to survive, I feel sympathy. If you're flexing? Jeeze

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Made me think of a documentary I saw, on some Americans working in Norway, where an American guy was asked what the biggest difference was between Americans and Norwegians, and he proudly proclaimed "Norwegians work to live, Americans live to work".

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago

    My company was absorbed by a US company, and it's pretty accurate.

    And, I think they think it must mean that this dedication makes them good at working.

    But they fucking aren't. I constantly have to remind my coworkers that they're not paid by the hour. Work hard, work smart, we can finish up and call it a day. Nope. I swear to god these people are actively contriving ways to ensure we work so badly that it necessitates working late. Which we do not get paid for.

    Then they flex about thier work culture, thier long hours. You fools did this to yourselves, voluntarily, for literally no benefit.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

    yeah people in my city are insufferable about this shit.

    i work 35-40 hour weeks. i like that. but people flip out at me and tell me how 'lazy' I am for that, and then go on and on about how they 'work harder' than me, even though they are making the same money per hour if you do some basic napkin math, or often less than I do, given i have better benefits than they do and you adjust for those as income.

    but hey, what do i know, i'm just a unambitious 'loser' who works 35 hours a week for six figures, meanwhile they work 60-80 per week for an extra 25K a year...

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    [–] 121 points 5 months ago (15 children)
  • [–] 14 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    Most people don't know that 'dumb' is spelled with a B...

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  • [–] 13 points 5 months ago* (10 children)

    I definitely qualify for Mensa, but I've never applied because only losers brag about their IQ score, and only idiots are impressed by it. I'm seriously considering it now though, just to pull out my card when right wing idiots call me stupid for being a leftist.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    they will just call you stupid for pulling out your mensa card.

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    It's a situational strategy, you have to lock them into buying into that metric first. But for a disturbingly common kind of person, that's not really much effort.

    Even still, it's not really useful for changing minds directly, just lining them up to feel like a fool so they might be meeker in the future. It's a game of inches.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    how old are you? are you really so niave you think this is in any way going to be 'effective'.

    all you are doing is making yourself into an asshole here, so you can feel smug and superior to these folks. like is this even real, or is this just an imaginary scenario in your head you are making up?

    because having regular interaction with such people most of my life, i can tell you you are not convincing them of anything no matter what you do. they only typically change their beliefs based on personal tragedy or trauma.

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  • [–] 3 points 5 months ago

    all you are doing is making yourself into an asshole here, so you can feel smug and superior to these folks

    These folks' entire political worldview is based on feeling smug and superior to commie libtards. It's just ego and tribalism, purely emotional justifications. They don't care about facts, they care about posturing and rhetorical victories.

    they only typically change their beliefs based on personal tragedy or trauma.

    Which is what makes shame and belittlement so effective at denting their armor. It isn't about convincing them in the moment, it's about making them feel small and stupid. Feeling small and stupid is personal trauma, and if it happens enough they might abandon the beliefs that target them as small and stupid.

    The biggest problem with the left is that we try to be civil and win the debate with facts and logic, when the audience doesn't give a shit about facts or logic. They are simple creatures, shame is the only thing their walnut brains understand.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (2 children)

    I would assume everyone here has heard Jamie Loftus "My Year In Mensa", but if you havent it is a wild ride. Joining as a joke, then realizing its just a bizarre clique with crazy characters and habits.

    My brief brush with Mensa was at a conference. Three of them were trying to figure out how to use a keycard for the door and asked me for help.

    A key card. Even without knowledge of one (who doesn't) the basic idea was right there in front of them on the key reader.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah Mensa isn't really an organization for geniuses, it's an organization for geniuses who wanna huff their own farts about it.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago*

    Its more than that. The IQ or "smart" is trivial. What it is all about is superiority like you said plus a place where members express extremist, racist, and misogynistic views with little consequence.

    They are hardly geniuses.

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  • [–] 35 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    The epic thing is supposed to be a flex? I thought it was about it sucking so much that not even free games can retain people.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    When their store application was new, it was caught doing spyware-like actions scanning through users' computers without consent or notice. Their "Free" games might come with another price you don't see. I wouldn't install it.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago

    This is where I'm at. I refuse to give Epic a cent due to their anticompetitive practices and trash store/library UX (why the fuck does the android app not even have a library view‽ You have to just know what you've purchased and find it in the store), but I'll claim their giveaways all day long. AFAIK, they use those download numbers to budget for future giveaways, so this artificially inflates those numbers. If I'm interested, I'll treat the free game as a demo and then buy the game on Steam if I like it.

    I don't think that makes me better than anyone, it's just my way of getting back at Epic for their bullshit.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    I don't see it as a flex I do redeem them and try out games with heroic as I know the devs still get paid by epic when you redeem them. If I like the game. I most of the time buy on gog or steam for the convenience.

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  • [–] 71 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    Fathers who claim they have never changed a diaper.

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  • [–] 28 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah, as a father of four this always baffled me. As if changing a diaper makes you less of a man. WTF, it's literally your biological instinct to care for your offspring, all I'm hearing is people bragging about how they're an evolutionary dead end.

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  • [–] 26 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    Number of followers on social media has got to be one of the cringiest.

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  • [–] 18 points 5 months ago* (16 children)

    what if your pride and joy is base level hatchback with a manual transmission?

    or are you just talking about people who see autos as status symbols of their wealth and 'success' despite the the fact their car is objectively a moneypit POS, like a Jeep.

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    Whoa, I ran a used 5-speed for about a decade and totally douched out on how much I was not paying for my car.

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  • [–] 3 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    i have a couple of friends who are stupidly addicted to their falling apart 20 year old cars, but they seem to take perverse pride in dropping $5K for a new transmission or other major repair every other year, and going on about how much they are saving buy not buying a new car...

    i have one buddy with a 2004 VW and he's spend like 20K on it in the past 4-5 years and like goes on about how new cars are all debt traps and he'll never have a loan again... and i'm over here looking at a '23 Integra that's like 25K... and won't need any major repairs for 15+ years...

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (12 children)

    It's a vehicle. It's used for transportation. Being proud of it is always weird.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago (7 children)

    not every car is used for transportation dude. many are used for recreation, for aesthetics, for self-expression, etc.

    please go to a car show full of car people and lecture them how they are all weirdos, see how that works out for you.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago (6 children)

    If someone has a car to drive on closed tracks that's completely reasonable sport. Driving like an idiot on public roads is not. Most "car people" are just big children driving loud cars around pissing everyone off. There's no point in lecturing those people. They don't have the brain capacity necessary to comprehend this.

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  • [–] 0 points 5 months ago* (5 children)

    you don't know any car people. most car people are not doing that. most car folks are very very serious about driving and driving well and safely and yeah, they do not do stupid shit unless it's on a closed track or it's a rural area where there are no other cars or people to possibly hit or endanger.

    what you are talking about is obnoxious assholes, who are not necessarily car people. they are just obnoxious assholes.

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  • [–] 0 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    lol. You're wrong. That isn't a scotsman fallacy... further your original claim was nothing more than a brash generalization claiming all car people are loud and obnoxious, which is also a fallacy. God. I love lemmy. Everytime someone tries to show you that you are making a logically fallacy, it's always, always, always, a made in their original claim. It's so hilarious how many of you are clueless about your own ignorance, and yet you feel like you are the very smart peopel who know about logic and only you are logically consistent. You're not.

    I said, you don't know them. Which you obvious, you do not. You are clueless and you are doubling down on your ignorance to feel superior rather than possibly admit, you're wrong, and what you are calling out is a certain subset of people

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

    The fallacy is that you're now claiming that obnoxious idiots are not "car people". According to you, people that "love cars" are only "car people" if they have money and like "fancy" cars. Idiots that get exited by tuned up BMWs are not "car people".

    Which of course if false. All of them are "car people". Rich car people driving expensive cars are the minority. Majority are the loud idiots. Of course you're looking down at them and don't recognize them as part of your group. You're "superior" because you go to car shows, not parking lots outside of town. For me you're all the same. Silly people getting exited about silly machines. Your distinction is meaningless.

    P.S. And of course I know plenty "car people". Everyone does. You're not some secret society. We went to school with "car people" and we work with "car people". The roads are full of you and we all see bunch of you every day.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago* (1 child)

    I'm not a car person. I am just calling out your narrow-minded bitterness towards people who enjoy cars as obnoxious idiots.

    I wonder what interests you have that others would find obnoxious and revolting.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    You only see as "car people" the part that's not obnoxious while willfully ignoring huge part of it so I would say you're the narrow-minded one.

    I'm a cyclist. I'm sure a lot of people hate me but to my defense my community kills way less people.

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  • [–] 14 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I saw one of my old friends was proposed to in front of her now fiance's Dodge truck. He was wearing camo. She said yes!. Jesus Christ talk about lacking a personality.

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  • [–] 7 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

    his personality is his multiple DUI violations.

    It's wild to me how like people who DUI are proud of it, it's so fucking bizarre. and they always drive objectively unreliable shitty cars that they are very proud of.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago

    There’s a big open outdoor shopping mall area near me that for some reason they decided to allow people to drive in the interior streets instead of putting the garages on the edges of the area so people can park and just walk around. On Friday and Saturday evenings, idiots with pimped up cars and loud exhausts love to just drive the interior streets over and over to get maximum attention from shoppers walking around. It’s loud, obnoxious, and makes the place stink of car exhaust; not to mention a waste of gas.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago

    I could understand it if it’s a project they work on, eg restoring it from a junkyard. For some people, their car is not just a utility they use to get around; similar to how much of my life revolves around a computer I built.

    But yeah, that’s not many people. Quite a few bought theirs out of a yard.

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  • [–] 21 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    Bragging that you've taken more cognitive tests than the previous presidents.

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    [–] 20 points 5 months ago (2 children)
    • I could stand in the middle of Fifth Avenue and shoot somebody

    I don't think I need to say anymore.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    You were literally proudly proclaiming how you would never care about any non-American life ever again to the point that when you reported me for calling you fascist, Jordan fucking Lund replied with 'If the jackboot fits'.

    I literally have you tagged as a Nazi because of this interaction.

    You don't hate fascism, you just don't like being the marginalized party in fascism.

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    [–] 20 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    How much then can drink or how wasted they've gotten over the weekend. Luckily nobody has done that around me since university, but that was pretty annoying.

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    [–] 19 points 5 months ago (9 children)

    They run Jellyfin and not Plex.

    Heh, hi from !selfhosted@lemmy.world

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  • [+] -7 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    hosting your own media server is just so weird. I have never understood the appeal, but every IT person seems to want to brag to you they have ripped 2000 DVDs of shitty movies they will never watch.

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    People have different hobbies than you? I've never heard such a thing. Truly weird!

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  • [+] -6 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (2 children)

    We're not talking about hobbies, we're talking about weird flexes.

    Clearly home media servers are a flex for you? I have lots of hobbies, but I don't like interject/brag to random people in conversation how I have several custom-built boutique brand mountain bikes that I built myself. That would be a weird flex and make me a douche. So I never really talk about that unless someone specifically asks me where/how I got my bike.

    I just say I like to mountain bike. I also like movies, but I just watch them on streaming services or go to the library, because very few movies I will ever watch more than once, so owning them is kinda pointless for me.

    and futher, I work in IT, and it's like every third person I meet in IT who brags about their Plex server, as if it's some great achievement... rather than just a time sink.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I think you missed the point entirely. Yes, the thread is about weird flexes. Just yesterday there was a discussion in !selfhosted@lemmy.world about Plex, and a lot of people who run Jellyfin were saying running Plex isn't selfhosting. A weird (to me) anti-Plex flex.

    OP asked for weird flexes. Weird flex in reply.

    So when you replied:

    hosting your own media server is just so weird

    You seem to be disparaging the hobby of selfhosted media servers. That's why I responded as I did. I never said that I participate in that hobby at all, so I'm not sure why you think I'm the one doing the flexing here.

    I guess what you may be saying is that you don't recognize "running a media server" as a hobby at all, but some kind of weird flex within the space of "I like movies." I can see your point that in a conversation about "I like movies," jumping in with "I run my own media server, akshully" could come off very negatively. I agree. There are a lot of self-congratulatory dingbats in that space. But that's not what happened here.

    Open-ended question looking for weird flexes people have heard. Weird flex was provided.

    Have a nice day.

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  • [–] -5 points 5 months ago

    this entire reply is you being this person. that's what you don't understand.

    it's ok, lots and lots of weirdos on lemmy do this shit all the time. they love to lecture strangers on the internet about how stupid and dumb and wrong they are, and take your comments about other people generally as personal attacks on themselves. and then feel a compulsion to defend themselves and their choices and then turn it into a pissing contenst where they implicity seem to want you to admit 'fault' for 'upsetting' them or your admit your 'ignorance' and their 'genius'.

    steam, linux, plex, politics, etc. topic doesn't matter, attitude and the strucutre/stlye of the replies is always the same and totally interchangable. they will always use 'true scotsman' style argumentation, or accuse you of stawmanning, or some other 'logic' flex they think makes them 'smart' and you 'stupid'.

    I know I'm weird, but I generally don't get upset or personally insulted other folks don't share in my hobbies or beliefs or whatever. And I'm fascinated by how hostile the often are to me I share them in a top level comment, or say often a contrasting scenario/example that disagrees with their oversimplified premise. then they tell me i'm generalizing and that's bad or something, but when they do it, it's good, or something.

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    Just got my Steam controller, and it's amazing how many friends I have who are just like: "Ew, I never use a controller. I played with a mouse and keyboard"

    ok then, that was always allowed.gif

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  • [–] 17 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    Any career.

    Had a plumber once who spent the entire hour ranting about being a master plumber and how being a unionized tradesman is the only honorable profession and the water works guy is an idiot for not taking his word as gospel...

    He was also like 160cm tall and bald, most insecure being I've ever observed walking this planet.

    But that, "my job makes me better" vibe isn't unique to him. Seen it in doctors, lawyers, programmers, policemen, social workers, therapists...

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago

    Yeah, I hate this shit.

    I like people who are really good at their jobs, but don't give a fuck about it otherwise. these are the same folks, who don't lecture other folks about shit and their pride is in their work, not in their sense of superiority to other folks.

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  • [–] 33 points 5 months ago (7 children)

    ‘I have an iPhone’

    Or conversely: ‘I don’t have an iPhone’

    Nobody cares what brand of rectangle you use.

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 child)

    you don't, but they do.

    i have an iphone and an android. it freaks most people out because you have to be ONE OR THE OTHER.

    freaks them out even more when I tell them I'm bisexual.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago

    I get your point but in my experience android works well with other android. Apple works well with other apple. Mixing them and everything seems barely useable. Like using a android phone to control an Apple TV.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    Reminds me of the console wars, when one kid would tout the power of their console, while the other would tout how it had better games.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago*

    people still do that everyday here on fedi. it's just steam/playstation/nintendo now.]

    everyday here you can find multiple threads of posters console war posturing over who has the better/cheaper games, who is a shitty company, who is the best 'value' for money, etc.

    and everyone just bias-confirms and says anyone who doesn't own the same console as them is stupid and dumb and wrong.

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  • [–] 15 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    Anything they didn’t actually do themselves, riding on someone’s coattails.

    For example,

    Memorial day just passed here, so people trying to attach some sort of personal worth to their grandfather’s service in WW2 or whatever war as if they’re owed something for it - or the “y’all would be speaking German if if weren’t for (the US, my grandpa)!” Stolen valor of a different kind.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago

    Yea, if your identity is solely based on your heritage, instead of personal merit and accomplishments, you're a loser. Like people visiting about how they're 4th gen American, you look down on immigrants, meanwhile you on welfare...

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  • [–] 28 points 5 months ago*

    Rich people. That's it. That's everything. If anything, I view excessive wealth as a form of mental illness.

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  • [–] 10 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

    Just about everything to do with how strongly they believe in a specific Religious sect OR how strongly they think all Religion is bullshit.

    Not claiming any of them is right or wrong, just point out that going around talking about one's Religious or anti-Religion beliefs is a weird flex anchored on a feeling of personal superiority.

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  • [–] 18 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Having XYZ mental illness/neurodivergence. Speaking as someone with both.

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  • [–] 3 points 5 months ago

    Yeah its not a brag at all... ive been suffering a miserable existence since before I can remember and on top of that most people think I should just snap out of it and be happy like its all my fault for not trying hard enough

    Aaacktually my life is so much fucking effort to just exist let alone function and then on top of that deal with not fitting in, being misunderstood, all while being forced to contribute the very society that gave rise to me and excludes me

    Neurotypicals using depression and anxiety like theyre moods... irksome. If you really suffered you would know its a curse.

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  • [–] 18 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Anything showing off opulence. Having more money (or less control against impulse spending) doesn't make you better in any form. But it's a lifestyle that sells and rakes in tons of money for the vain and stupid

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

    Branded anything!

    The "see, I can afford branded stuff" flex of being better because having money for it right alongside the "easier to just walk around with 'I'm stupid' tatooed on my forehead" because of being dumb enough to spend 5x more money just for a label.

    It's maybe the biggest poor/low-middle-class person's "look, I have money" flex there is.

    (It's even more hilarious when one actually knows people from Old Money: those with lots of money and who were born into it actually wear simple but high quality stuff with no visible labels, whilst the ones trying to flaunt their wealth are either not wealthy at all or are Nouveau Riche and hence feel to need to flaunt their wealth whilst not being experienced enough at having lots of money to use it the way old wealth does)

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago

    "I am a volenteer firefigher" Dont brag about it constantly if you really do it out of good will.

    Big and loud cars/bikes are also the thing or how often they go party and get drunk

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