You don’t want to dry out those tear ducts and go on empty when you turn 60!

im in my 30s i dont feel like i have any time, energy, or money

I'm 35. Still waiting for life to stop being miserable. No hope in sight.

Age 10-20 wasn't amazing, but still okay. My birth oerson

You should get that taken care of. An occasional twinge now and then is normal, but constant pain? In your thirties? That ain't standard. In your forties, I could believe - although it still wouldn't be standard. But your back should still be in relatively good nick in your thirties, unless you lift heavy things for a living. In your thirties a backache should be nothing a good night's sleep, a nice stretch, and a long leisurely walk can't fix.

Unless... you DO lift with your knees, right? When you need to lift something? And keep your back straight and chin up while doing so? People don't constantly say to do that just for shits and giggles - it's universally good advice.

Try powerlifting.

same boat

Maybe start fighting back?

Or, you know, sit there and get old and take it like a coward

Or, more likely, keep pretending that you’re not still WAY too comfortable to do fuck all

Hell yes to this. Childhood, Highschool, and even in to college were some of the worst years of my life. I never want to repeat them. Sometimes I fantasize about what it would have been like to be "normal", but I love who I am now and l do not want to give that up or go back.

Being an adult is awesome. I get to have a motorcycle, my own cat, I can build whatever I want, I can have chickens if I want, and I have a really cute wife. What could I do as a kid? Go to school? Live with my parents? Hang out with people who had the minds of children? Boooring.

Let people go. You cant hold onto them forever, even in the best of cases. I have people who i consider my best friends that I haven't seen in years. Maybe never again.

The river of life has many branches, we just floated down different ones. Dont take it personally.

It’s hard because there seems to be no place to hang out and meet people either. Not for a date, just to chill and make friends.

Something I really cherish is a scheduled phone call with two of my college buddies, themed on a movie or TV show we agree to watch that week.

One of us just abruptly made a group chat and asked if we'd be down, and we've been doing it for years now, I highly reccomend!

We'll have a bright future, but we'll also have to fight for it

My egg cracked in my late 20s. I'm 31 now and ~2 years on HRT. Its been only a few months since my last coming out and since I stopped boymoding entirely. I have changed at least as much as a person in these last few months as in the years between my egg crack and then. Its amazing how you can actually just do stuff and have fun and meet new people and be happy when you're not depressed anymore and feel good about yourself and learn to have confidence and realize that you actually do have free will and can just do stuff if you want to.

It really does get better and fighting through the hard times is so absolutely worth it!

That is very interesting, at 29? I'm about to get diagnosed for ADHD a month from now.

I attribute this to gaining to ability to stand up for yourself near the end of your twenties, whilst before, they just pacify you and keep you unaware, unt you suffer enough.

Does your weiner get little again?

60 here. Can confirm.

While I was still doing well at 50, the ten years since have been a steady decline. But, you can slow the rate by exercising and cleaning up your diet, if you still eat like you're 30.

Hey don't bring your positivity around here, I was just about to feel sorry for myself and blame my misgivings on stuff that isn't me.

Yeah, I have enjoyed all the ages so far for different reasons but it has basically been the same for the last couple of decades other than whatever I have going on at the time. Like getting married, having a kid, changes in work and the rest were all big and important life changing things, but it has been a mix of mostly good and a little bad for almost 5 decades and I'm good with that.

damn kids, wait til you're 50.

It's great when all of the fun/exciting friends you had die or get locked up, and every potential love interest you come across is married/loaded down with kids/fucked up from a past relationship/is only interested in a complicated open relationship.

I'm not projecting.

it took me about two years to truly realize i was in my 30s (I'm a bit stupid) but once that happened a massive weight lifted from my shoulders. i suddenly realized, wait, I'm a grown-ass man, i don't have to deal with this bullshit. i became more confident, took no shit from people and stopped dealing with teenage drama. yes about 10 years too late but that's when i realized some of the shit i used to entertain didn't even matter.

You'd be making dollars!

Also add this to pasta

No see the device over there?

One of the moat depressing things I used to hear as a kid was how this was the best part of my life and I should enjoy it.

Or their life is shitty, boring and full of useless/pointless demands. They wish they were still children, because they at least had some (fictional) purpuse.

It's sad. Most of us realize life has no point and some wish for the childish illusion.

It's similar to me wishing I was stupid, so I wouldn't be burdened by the emotional consequences of opinions, thoughts and my negative perception of the world.

Also: it might also be child abuse (as an adult, you can intellectualise your experience, which you couldn't as a child).

I like her darker, edgier stuff. That comic she made about the cannibal lepers on the moon of Annares really spoke to my inner child

Wait! You didn’t have to work full time in your 20’s? I’ve been working full time since I was 21

I think the number thirty is being blamed, not because your life is actually "over" when you turn thirty, but because that TENDS to be roughly the age most people start having kids, and having kids certainly DOES cause major changes in lifestyle.

Well Americans don't have good health care and have to constantly worry/ think about money so...

best guess is there's some kind of prevailing notion that when you're not young any more, you're old, which those nearing their 30s dread while 30 pluses refuse to accept they're middle aged

Can't say I know shit about it, but my folks in the 80s watched a show called thirtysomethings, a sitcom, don't watch it. Not my problem.