My girlfriend has twins and one of them gets bullied for not wearing dresses. The other doesn't. She is so young that the other girls who bully her just started to even understand the difference between a dress snd pants.

You can also bullied for not doing something, as much as you can for doing something, or not doing something in a sufficiently symbolically popular way.

Like the Ribbon episode in Seinfeld, where Kramer supports the AIDS walk, but he doesn't want to wear the AIDS ribbon on his shirt, so he gets assaulted by a gang of ribbon wearers.

I had a similar incident where I didn't want to wear trans pride flags for an event, but I supported the event, but still pro-trans bullies wanted to paint me as trans hating bigot for not wearing their flag. It was just power-tripping weirdos, for whom the irony of their insistence of social conformity of others appearances and behaviors was lost. Because hey, they bullying you doing it for a Good Cause, so it's OK when they do it.

Do you fuck sexy animals, or do you consider yourself an animal fucker that is sexy?

Only when you bring the taxidermy kit

people just told me I was gay for liking Gundam Wing.

Yeah I miss real nerds. Everyone thinks they can type a prompt and be all "computery" when they dont know fuck.

You make a valid point on filling the space, my example being the types of games that are mainstream. Haven't played an FPS in probably 5 or more years for similar reasons to what you stated, and feel like that's all that's churned out now. Just copy pasted ultra competitive stale shit with no real creativity. I tend to stick to indie for this reason now and will play co-op with friends, but even there there's holes of competitive garbage to fall into. Anyway, appreciate the insight.

Yeah maybe I'm just a millennial, but my bullies weren't cool either. I was never bullied for being a nerd, I was bullied sometimes because I sucked or lacked social skills and sometimes because I was an easy target with low social penalty for picking on.

Yet if you go around using sportsball terms as slang and tossing the ol' pigskin in the hallway, nobody bats an eye.

Gaming communities were some of the most inclusive and open minded. I genuinely think gamergate was specifically targeted. Wouldnt be surprised if it was some right wing plot

This completely depends on your age and what kind of peers you were surrounded by. You're nuts if you think no one was ever bullied for liking stuff because it was mainstream at the time and place you grew up in. Kids can be vicious little creatures and would bully you for liking the wrong Pokémon when I was in school.

There's probably something very wrong with you if you actually think that bullying is acceptable under any circumstances. Even if some kid is behaving weirdly or likes something deeply unpopular - so what? That's not harmful behaviour and even if it somehow was, bullying is still the wrong way to deal with that. I barely trust most adults to have a working moral compass, let alone kids. I know there's been a resurgence in this kind of thinking on social media where people push the idea that bullying is an acceptable form of social "correctional" behaviour, which isn't just incredibly stupid but also deeply disgusting. If you look at any of the most serious bullying cases of teenagers being driven to suicide by their schoolmates, none of it was ever justified or even had an apparent reason other than: this person makes for an easy target.

tell that to my dates who see cowboy bebop dvd set and freak the fuck out at me that I'm a weeb.

This also implies by contradiction, that if they didn't do that specific stuff they were fine and not bullied

Same. I got my face pushed in by a bully who was on the boxing team. The principal later put me on the spot, asked me to forgive him to his face and I said no.

I could have easily needed therapy for that, but I've been fortunate enough to have come through it liking myself more, even being proud of how I handled it. I can take a punch and walk away calmly and deliberately (then cry through a giant red snot bubble in the nurse's office later).

Besides... Last I heard he was in jail for armed robbery. Ha! And double ha! Ever thus to bullies.

Therapy is no substitute for well earned grudges

Let's not forget the pictured message they were replying to specifically mentions growling at people and sprinting around.

That shit never went mainstream. Fucking hell

spot on.

lots of folks just refuse to move on and grow on. they still cling to bad memories because their negative experiences define them.

i'm in my 40s and it blows my mind how many people are hung up on shit from 20-30 years ago. like... i figured this out 20 years ago, you should have done so too. and as an adult, if people are still being dicks, you just ignore them.

Except that therapy actually is expensive, and a whole lot of therapists actually suck at what they're ostensibly there to do.

Then, try finding a good therapist who actually is neurodivergent, its nearly impossible.

A neurotypical fundamentally isn't capable of actually fully empathizing with a neurodivergent... their brains are literally wired differently.

You being this dismissive of genuine, deep seated pain... that literally is the problem, people who act like you.

Why would anyone listen to the advice of someone who doesn't actually give a fuck about their mental health, about their CPTSD, caused by people like you?

The... whole problem is that at the most basic level, people repress and internally stew on their feelings, when broader society does not allow them to express them without mocking them.

Your entire post here is 'I am better than you and you are pathetic, I sympathize with you though'.

Do you have no self-awareness?

... therapy is a good thing, if you can find it, if you access it, if its done by a person who actually knows what they're doing and can actually relate to you without the sociopathic 'emotions off/HR mode enabled' mask that many therapists use.

We could just have a space where people could just say whats really on their minds, you know, publically.

Or we can have people like you show up when they do that, tell them they suck, and tell them they need to pay money an expert.

All bullying isn't equal. You have no idea what kind of shit OP was put through, and have no idea if it's at all comparable to what you went through.