▲ 378 ▼ Anon was bullied (sh.itjust.works) submitted 6 months ago by Early_To_Risa@sh.itjust.works to c/greentext@sh.itjust.works 83 comments fedilink hide all child comments
[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 6 months ago (6 children) Therapy is no substitute for well earned grudges permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 6 child comments replies: [–] zloubida@sh.itjust.works 13 points 6 months ago (5 children) Grudges often (not always) are just a second bully victory, because they make your life, not theirs, worse. You don't need to forgive them, even if it can help (help you, not them), but therapy can help you move on with your life more lightly. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 5 child comments replies: [–] RamenJunkie@midwest.social 1 point 6 months ago This is literally Chun Li's plot in the Street Fighter movie. For the bully, it was tuesday. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Cypher@aussie.zone -1 points 6 months ago (2 children) You getting paid to shill therapy or what? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] zloubida@sh.itjust.works 7 points 6 months ago I wish! permalink fedilink source parent [–] RamenJunkie@midwest.social 3 points 6 months ago "This comment brought to you by better help!" permalink fedilink source parent [–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 6 months ago Why should it make your life worse? It could, but that shouldn't be the assumption. The older I get the more I value any memories I can feel the same about now as I did back then, because most of it fades into nothing, only the most intense emotions have staying power. What you hate defines you just like what you love defines you, grudges are important for holding on to your humanity. Of course it's good to come to terms with things, and therapy helps, but I strongly object to the idea that the mature thing to do is entirely let go of old resentments and never share them, the opposite is true. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] zloubida@sh.itjust.works 13 points 6 months ago (5 children) Grudges often (not always) are just a second bully victory, because they make your life, not theirs, worse. You don't need to forgive them, even if it can help (help you, not them), but therapy can help you move on with your life more lightly. permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 5 child comments replies: [–] RamenJunkie@midwest.social 1 point 6 months ago This is literally Chun Li's plot in the Street Fighter movie. For the bully, it was tuesday. permalink fedilink source parent [–] Cypher@aussie.zone -1 points 6 months ago (2 children) You getting paid to shill therapy or what? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] zloubida@sh.itjust.works 7 points 6 months ago I wish! permalink fedilink source parent [–] RamenJunkie@midwest.social 3 points 6 months ago "This comment brought to you by better help!" permalink fedilink source parent [–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 6 months ago Why should it make your life worse? It could, but that shouldn't be the assumption. The older I get the more I value any memories I can feel the same about now as I did back then, because most of it fades into nothing, only the most intense emotions have staying power. What you hate defines you just like what you love defines you, grudges are important for holding on to your humanity. Of course it's good to come to terms with things, and therapy helps, but I strongly object to the idea that the mature thing to do is entirely let go of old resentments and never share them, the opposite is true. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] RamenJunkie@midwest.social 1 point 6 months ago This is literally Chun Li's plot in the Street Fighter movie. For the bully, it was tuesday. permalink fedilink source parent
[–] Cypher@aussie.zone -1 points 6 months ago (2 children) You getting paid to shill therapy or what? permalink fedilink source parent hideshow 2 child comments replies: [–] zloubida@sh.itjust.works 7 points 6 months ago I wish! permalink fedilink source parent [–] RamenJunkie@midwest.social 3 points 6 months ago "This comment brought to you by better help!" permalink fedilink source parent
[–] RamenJunkie@midwest.social 3 points 6 months ago "This comment brought to you by better help!" permalink fedilink source parent
[–] chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 6 months ago Why should it make your life worse? It could, but that shouldn't be the assumption. The older I get the more I value any memories I can feel the same about now as I did back then, because most of it fades into nothing, only the most intense emotions have staying power. What you hate defines you just like what you love defines you, grudges are important for holding on to your humanity. Of course it's good to come to terms with things, and therapy helps, but I strongly object to the idea that the mature thing to do is entirely let go of old resentments and never share them, the opposite is true. permalink fedilink source parent