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[–] 71 points 7 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 child)

"Am I a good e n t i t y ?"

Genuinely tho, I call my non-biney partner a good bean in the same way one would call someone a good boy/girl. Because they is. They is best bean~

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  • [–] 44 points 7 months ago (14 children)

    People will attribute masculine and feminine gender to 'master' and 'mistress' respectively, but I think master would be the 'neutral' pick here.

    Or you can shuck the dynamic with: owner, divine, ruler, royal, liege, or any number of ranks with which you attribute subservience! :3

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  • [–] 16 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    Yeah I have to second the “master” as a gender neutral. People always think of it as masculine, but there is no feminine alternative for most uses of master. You aren’t your dogs mistress, for example.

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  • [–] 12 points 7 months ago

    You aren't your dogs mistress

    I'll grant that it sounds a bit archaic, but "mistress" is technically correct there.

    But yes, agreed that "master" can be used in a gender-neutral way.

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    I'm not seeing the problem with ‘mistress’. Wiktionary cites the very first meaning as: “A woman, specifically one with great control, authority or ownership”, and provides an example sentence: “She was the mistress of the estate-mansion, and owned the horses.” You know, the same way as ‘master’ was used.

    Apparently I've read more than my necessary share of US literature about the slavery times (considering I've never been to the US), because I have no trouble imagining a matron commanding the slaves.

    Moreover, further down Wiktionary explicitly cites ‘dominatrix’ as another meaning of ‘mistress’.

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    It’s not that they are looking for a feminine version of master, it’s that they want a gender neutral version. Which master already fills. As do any number of other options the person I replied to mentioned.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 7 months ago

    Yeah, that's sort of what I landed on. Not "master" because that also feels weird for different reasons, but "Sir". It makes me feel like a Captain in Star Trek (though I'm not sure yet whether that's a good thing or a bad thing)

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (1 child)

    What do you think about steward?

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  • I think steward comes across slightly more like a 'head servant' type rather than a title of someone you (as a sub) are giving yourself to. You could maybe have fun with some roleplay elements in that, but for me SFF books have ruined the title as one which I would 'worship'.

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  • [–] 30 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    When did we stop saying "slut?"

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  • [–] [S] 14 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    Don't get me wrong, I am definitely down to be called a good slut in the right contexts, but sometimes I find myself craving a softer tone than that, for contrast

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    normalize use of the gender neutral "bitch"

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  • [–] 17 points 7 months ago (9 children)

    Especially when referring to the person dominating you, that's bound to result in some fun >:3

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago (5 children)

    I've found a cocky grin with a "hey" goes really far when hitting on dommes irl. But I also have fuckboi energy so it fits the vibe.

    For any fellow subs reading this, you hit on dominant women like any other woman. When it comes time to flirtatiously joke around, then you can make some jokes about being submissive, but you want to have the situation felt out enough that you're confident that she's flirting back and that she's receptive to such jokes. You never want to come off as a pushy sub, a lot of dommes have bad experiences with them (hell, even I, a sub, have had one)

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    Unfortunately for me, many people read extroversion and confidence as dominance, so i have to be quite clear how easy it is to bring me to my knees and that no I really don't switch

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (1 child)

    I was just joking. I'm sorry.

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago

    I'm not really relevant to your interaction but I thought it was a little cute. Not tactful, but the spirit was there.

    If I wanted to write a similar message like yours, I'd probably have done it like this:

    Let's say I were to call you a "bitch". What would your purely hypothetical response be? 🥺

    That's:

    • less direct
    • playful ("If I were to insult you" is a very fun way to tease AND pretend to be an innocent little angel)
    • probing the water to see if they're interested

    At least in my opinion. I'm terrible at flirting though so you may want to evaluate this yourself.

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    [–] 18 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    "Toy" is great for a sub. No clue for dom though.

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  • [–] 11 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    This is why I call everyone "programs", like Kevin Flynn

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  • [–] 9 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    Owner/pet is very neutral~ Or admin/user

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    "Or admin/user" Oh, I love this. One day I'm going to sub for a techy dom(me) and it's going to be so funny to see how they react when I call them admin

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  • [–] 7 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    The equivalent would actually be "am I a good child?"

    ...which also sounds questionable.

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago

    My domme is a fully binary woman but I mix it up occasionally and some of the terms I use for her are neutral like ruler, owner, and conqueror

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    If they're furry and/or therian, using their species works great! Like "good dog", but whatever kind of animal they are.

    -- Frost

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago* (2 children)

    Maybe an extension of Mx, Ms, Mr: Mixtress? (I suppose the "ess" is what makes it seem feminine)

    Or just "Mx. Name", like how "Mr. Bond" can feel like a single term in the James Bond movies. (Mx. pronounced "mix" feels right here)

    Let's see:

    • Mistress
    • Mister

    The end should be changed in stead. You can do the X thing: Mistrex (or Mistrix to keep the "e" part pronounced as "ih").

    Or change it another way: Mistro, Mistrez?

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago

    Hubs just alternates what he calls me regardless of which one of us is domming at the time. Not all who wander are lost ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago

    Dom terms I've used: Majesty, Highness, Excellence, Liege, Master, Owner. Sub terms I've used: Pet, Toy, Slave, Bitch, Dog, Puppy, Kitty, Precious, Doll.

    Some terms like Maid work but that depends on how feminine you see the term. Another interesting one is Knight for like a service sub.

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago

    Am I a good greendale human being?

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