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[–] 44 points 7 months ago (14 children)

People will attribute masculine and feminine gender to 'master' and 'mistress' respectively, but I think master would be the 'neutral' pick here.

Or you can shuck the dynamic with: owner, divine, ruler, royal, liege, or any number of ranks with which you attribute subservience! :3

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  • [–] 16 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    Yeah I have to second the “master” as a gender neutral. People always think of it as masculine, but there is no feminine alternative for most uses of master. You aren’t your dogs mistress, for example.

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  • [–] 12 points 7 months ago

    You aren't your dogs mistress

    I'll grant that it sounds a bit archaic, but "mistress" is technically correct there.

    But yes, agreed that "master" can be used in a gender-neutral way.

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    I'm not seeing the problem with ‘mistress’. Wiktionary cites the very first meaning as: “A woman, specifically one with great control, authority or ownership”, and provides an example sentence: “She was the mistress of the estate-mansion, and owned the horses.” You know, the same way as ‘master’ was used.

    Apparently I've read more than my necessary share of US literature about the slavery times (considering I've never been to the US), because I have no trouble imagining a matron commanding the slaves.

    Moreover, further down Wiktionary explicitly cites ‘dominatrix’ as another meaning of ‘mistress’.

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    It’s not that they are looking for a feminine version of master, it’s that they want a gender neutral version. Which master already fills. As do any number of other options the person I replied to mentioned.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 7 months ago

    Yeah, that's sort of what I landed on. Not "master" because that also feels weird for different reasons, but "Sir". It makes me feel like a Captain in Star Trek (though I'm not sure yet whether that's a good thing or a bad thing)

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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (1 child)

    What do you think about steward?

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  • I think steward comes across slightly more like a 'head servant' type rather than a title of someone you (as a sub) are giving yourself to. You could maybe have fun with some roleplay elements in that, but for me SFF books have ruined the title as one which I would 'worship'.

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