Come into my house with shoes on and you'll be lucky to leave alive

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[+] 110 points 9 months ago* (31 children)
  • [–] 30 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

    For me, in Italy it's both, in 90% of the cases the situation is like:

    You get in, remove the shoes and go barefoot/with slippers, if it's like a party, festivity etc etc, usually no one cares to get off the shoes

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  • [–] 12 points 9 months ago

    UK too, shoes off too, have never lived anywhere where shoes on indoors was a common thing

    The only reason I can think is that underfloor heating is relatively rare here and if you've got hard floors it'll be cold to walk on, but then slippers exist so idk really

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  • [–] 8 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (6 children)

    It might be in including having slippers or "indoor shoes". Nigeria is there as a shoes on, but from my understanding, its only slippers/flip flops specificly for indoors, that are normal.

    Edit: Talked to my Nigerian friend, shoes off is expected, and slippers are just a personal preference. The map is just wrong.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago*

    Same for Japan. No chance they're wearing full hiking boots or sneakers inside the house in Japan - the shoe cabinet is built in right next to the front door of houses, tiny apartments, temples, many restaurants, etc. I assume the schools still do too.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago

    No, in "shoes off" countries it is very normal to wear slippers or other kinds of indoor footwear, so it wouldn't make any sense to count those as "shoes on". I just think the data used for this map was very faulty.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (3 children)

    Canada is labelled as shoes off but we also have slippers.

    Although not sure about Nigeria, are slippers and flip flops like expected to be worn or just available?

    For me I have slippers which are worn often but it's not expected that anyone inside wear them. Most people just wear socks if they come to visit. And myself I go barefoot unless my feet get cold then I grab the slippers.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

    Although not sure about Nigeria, are slippers and flip flops like expected to be worn or just available?

    In my (limitted) experience, its expected. When I visited a friend who was Nigerian, they offered me slippers to wear in the house, and they felt uncomfortable going barefoot in my (Canadian) house.

    Edit: Talked to my Nigerian friend, shoes off is expected, and slippers are just a personal preference. The map is just wrong.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (1 child)

    Yeah that's probably why it's labelled as shoes on then I imagine and why Canada is labelled shoes off since any sort of foot covering is expected / not expected.

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  • [–] 6 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    I reckon it depends on how warm someone's home is and how good their circulation is. If I don't have shoes on indoors, then for half the year it feels like my feet have been stabbed because they get so cold (slippers are not enough), but I don't wear the same shoes indoors as outdoors. I suspect that if we set the heating higher and the house wasn't constructed in a way that makes the floor always much colder than a few inches above the floor, this wouldn't be a problem.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago*

    To me, the big decider is plush carpets. The first level of my house is mostly hardwood and tile. The second floor, and living rooms have plush carpets. So if someone is unloading a car, getting ready to leave, or just general in/out stuff, sure leave the shoes on. Once you’ve decided to stay, get those shoes off and be welcome in the cozy areas of the house.

    Which, coincidentally, is also the areas where other warm stuff is.

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  • [–] 5 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    Grew up in the UK, in a "shoes on" household. We just gave them a good scrape on the doormat when coming inside.

    Since then, I've lived in a few different countries and am 100% converted to the shoes off way of being. I agree it's much better.

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  • [–] 5 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    Weird. I also grew up in the UK, and I'm in my 50s now, it's always been shoes off in my and my family's houses. Unless it was a quick visit.
    Same goes for my friend's houses.

    I've worked in the other people's houses for well over 30 years in different capacities, from 'clean' jobs such as surveying to the more physical jobs of handyman, plastering etc. And a high percentage of the time it was shoes off as well.
    Or separate clean shoes for inside.
    Basically it's easier to change my shoes than it is to clean a carpet or floor after I have trampled dirt around.

    Ok, yeah, you'd get people say "don't bother about your shoes" if I was only doing a survey, but I took them off anyways.
    The only time I wouldn't remove my shoes is if the houses were cleaner outside than inside, but that hardly ever happened.

    If I had to guess I would say that in all the thousands and thousands of houses I've visited in the UK that 90% were shoes off.

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago

    That's funny because, thinking back on it, I'd say about 90% of my friends and family were shoes on.

    Perhaps it's regional. I grew up in the South East, for reference. Not London, but in one of the surrounding counties.

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  • [–] 5 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    The same in NZ. Is this that you never ever wear shoes on inside?

    Is it acceptable to walk into your own house and walk around with shoes on? Sure.

    Do most people do that most of the time? In my experience, people will be shoes off in their own home most of the time, but it's not some big taboo to keep them on if you're popping in to grab something.

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

    Does anyone here do shoes on indoors?

    In/out doors doesn't really make a difference. If I need shoes outside, I'm probably wearing them inside. And vice versa.

    It would be different if I had carpet. Carpet is impossible to thoroughly clean in situ. I would never want outside shoes on non-rental carpet. But I've got 100+ year old hardwood floors that have seen way worse than I'm tracking in.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago

    So when I visited my friend that moved there, the rule was if you aren't muddy shoes on in the first floor is fine but no shoes on the second floor.

    They also have guests slippers for the first floor. I think this kinda makes sense since they like having parties then they don't allow anyone upstairs.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (4 children)

    My parents keep their shoes on, I take mine off.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    the opposite for me, my floors are dirty, i can handle it

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    wouldn't be dirty if your shoes were off!

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago

    yeah but then i have to take my shoes off and put them on multiple times a day which is annoying

    also i can live with a dirty floor, does not bother me, full of essential dirt to help keep my immune system on edge 😁

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  • [–] 69 points 9 months ago (34 children)

    I have no idea why anyone would want to wear shoes in the house.

    It's so constricting and unnecessary. Do y'all not clean your floors? Do you feel like your floors are gross and shouldn't be touching your bare feet?

    When you lay on the couch do you need to take your shoes off and then put them back on when you get up to go make a snack in the kitchen?

    Makes zero sense to me

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  • [–] 13 points 9 months ago (8 children)

    What if you have to quickly go inside and grab something? Do you take your shoes off for that or just walk inside?

    Shoes are ok inside they’re not mandatory

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  • [–] 27 points 9 months ago (4 children)

    Yes I take my shoes off? I don't want to dirty up my floors

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    Everyone cleans their floors 🤷‍♀️ the common living spaces don’t have to be pristine and most people don’t wear their shoes upstairs to their bedrooms where you would more reasonably expect an immaculate room

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    Everyone cleans their floors but obviously the floors get a lot dirtier a lot quicker if you just waltz in with your shoes you've walked around in outdoors.

    Maybe it's a level of cleanliness thing but I wouldn't want my floors to be as dirty as they get when walking around with shoes on tbh. If it doesn't bother someone then it doesn't bother them ofc.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    Could be a level of cleanliness thing in part but I also think you’re overestimating just how dirty things get

    Very few people take muddy boots inside lol but there’s also little reason to care about mild dust and dirt you can just sweep.

    I mean kids can actually develop asthma if your house is too clean so I’m highly skeptical what is almost always an unnoticeable amount of dust and dirt actually matters with regards to a healthy standard of cleanliness

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago*

    I wear shoes. I know from my front hall (whatever is the correct word for room where people leave shoes, coats etc.) how much dirt shoes carry to the house. And from visiting people in the same building who don't take their shoes off. I just can't imagine why someone would choose to carry that dirt further into the house.

    I just couldn't get used to that. I like things neat.

    almost always an unnoticeable amount of dust and dirt

    I guess you're used to that dirt and whatnot but for someone who leaves shoes in the front hall, it's definitely not unnoticeable lol.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago

    Do you take your shoes off for that or just walk inside?

    Yeah shoes off. It's a pain in the butt.

    However, you often wear shoes that are easier to take off / put on.

    Also, you just learn to really check that you've got everything before you put your shoes on.

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  • [–] 8 points 9 months ago (9 children)

    I got in and out of my house about 50 times per day, and my feet are size 13.5s, so all my shoes are tight (they don't make most shoes in anything larger than 13s). Plus my back isn't what it once was. If I had to bend over and take my shoes off 50 times a day, I'd actually lose it, "it" being my L3-4 disc.

    Whereas, litereally nothing bad has ever happened to me because I wear shoes in the house. It's all some hypothetical ... I don't know what exactly. Grossness? Is grossness hurting me?

    Tell you what's 'gross,' as a thought exercise tho - walking around barefooted where my dogs and cats walk barefooted, they're not exactly wearing shoes outside, or in the litterbox, nor are they putting a handkerchief down under their assholes when they sit down.

    But a pair of flip-flops for in the house plus floor cleaning regularly... I don't really worry about it either way. IDK why anyone does.

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  • [–] 11 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    You dragging in shit from outside is not a "hypothetical" lol

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    I'm sick less than most of my friends on average and I wear shoes indoors when it's more convenient than taking them off. Germaphobes can hate it but I hardly think it's really that bad for anyone's health

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  • [–] 7 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    I was thinking about just keeping to floors cleaner lol

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago

    Well that's fair then. I do clean my floors once a week. Maybe they're dirtier than others' on average, but I think I'd clean them once a week no matter how much dirt there is. So I guess to me it doesn't make a noticeable difference, but I would agree that wearing shoes indoors objectively brings more dirt into the house.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago

    IDK why anyone does.

    My floors are dirty enough without wearing shoes inside. Shoes would make it ten times worse. Shoes are uncomfortable. And I don't want to turn my socks black because my floors are so dirty.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (2 children)
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    I got in and out of my house about 50 times per day

    I mean I just wouldn't wear enclosed shoes at that point. Flip-flops outside and barefoot/socks indoors. Proper shoes go on when going farther away from house.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago (5 children)

    Laced shoes are a pita to flip on and off. If you're in a dry area there's no reason to take off your shoes.

    If you can wear sandals, or it's a wet sloppy environment, then yeah it makes sense to take them off at the door.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    I mean, if you're doing yard work or something understandable to leave your shoes on in your own home if you're coming inside for a snack or to grab something etc I do that all the time.

    But like, if I invite someone over to hang out for a few hours I expect them to take their shoes off tying the laces isn't that complicated.

    And if I am taking the day off and don't really need to leave the house for any reason I won't even touch my shoes I'm going to be barefoot or in slippers all God damn day.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    ?! You wear your yard work shoes in the house? Those usually come off before I go inside even if it is a quick grab n go.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

    Only if it's a quick trip <3 minutes after using a boot scraper and brush. Unless I know I've stepped in something particularly sticky like mud.

    Edit: and only if it's my own home, not someone else's

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (8 children)

    My friend told me he felt the same way about jeans which is why he wears sweatpants everywhere. I didn't understand it with those and I don't get it with shoes. Both are super comfortable to me. Only times I'm not comfortable in shoes is when I'm forced to wear anything besides tennis shoes (mainly work boots and dress shoes).

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  • [–] 9 points 9 months ago (7 children)

    Actually I absolutely agree with your friend and I don't even stop at jeans.

    If I get home after work and I have zero plans to leave the house again or have anyone over I am in my Pajamas as soon as I can get my pants off, even if it's only 5pm lol

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago (6 children)

    That's not me. It's not uncommon for me to sleep in my regular clothes as soon as I get home cause I'm too exhausted to bother changing. My pajamas only see use early in the morning unless I'm jumping immediately into the shower after waking up (which is usually what I do on weekdays).

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    You sleep in your clothes, wear shoes in the house, and prefer jeans to softer pants..? 😳

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    I just find regular clothes so uncomfortable in a relaxing setting like lying on the couch and watching tv.

    Perfectly fine with them If I'm at work or going about my day outside but pajamas and loose clothing are just so much nicer to me than jeans or collared shirts at home

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago

    Collared shirts aren't even as bad a jeans for me. I can unbutton a little and be just fine, the jeans are pretty thick and have seams though. They can get uncomfortable quick.

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  • [–] 63 points 9 months ago* (9 children)

    Buncha weirdoes ITT. As soon as I get in the door, my house or yours, you can bet I'm stripping down to just my shoes and nothing else.

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  • [–] 6 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    Fuck society and their oppressive insistence on wearing “pants”.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago* (2 children)

    I gotta say it’s one of the benefits of kids being at college - everything constricting comes off as I walk in the door, there’s no one’s objection to consider. You might not want to make a surprise visit unless you’re ok with seeing me in my underwear

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  • [–] 41 points 9 months ago (9 children)

    Do shoes on people immediately put on shoes as soon as they wake up or something? I don't even put on socks!

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  • [–] 39 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    Rookie mistake. You sleep with your shoes on.

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  • [–] 3 points 9 months ago (3 children)

    I used to be shoes on.

    You just wake up, put on underwear, pants, shirt, socks and shoes, in that order.

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  • [–] 1 point 9 months ago

    I'm not judging you but this just seems so uncomfortable to be.

    I sleep in these cool long john pant things. when I wake up I put a shirt on and potter around for a few hours in that outfit doing my own thing before the kids wake up. Only then do I get dressed for the day.

    Everyone has their own routine I guess.

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  • [–] 33 points 9 months ago

    Shoes on is fine... if you live in a barn.

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  • [–] 26 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    I am Australian and we are a shoes off household - don't care if you wanna have shoes on in the house but why would you wanna wear shoes in the house?

    We barely wear shoes in public let alone in the house - shoes are just foot prisons, barefoot is best

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago

    I appreciate you not wearing shoes but please put on the house slippers. Also please switch from house slippers to toilet slippers, and switch to the garden slippers when you go into the garden. Please make sure to not mix up the slippers, it will upset my family.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago

    Yeah. I'm "barefoot shoes" on outside for the minimal amount of time necessary, and off as soon as I can manage it. If it's summer and I'm in a park, I take them off so I can walk on the grass with bare feet. If I'm at someone else's house hanging out outside, you bet my shoes are already off. If it's winter and I'm at a movie, I'm not leaving my feet in winter boots rated to -30C for the whole 2 hours.

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  • [–] 25 points 9 months ago (7 children)

    I'm in the US and shoes off inside.

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago (4 children)

    Yeah maybe the dude is in the interior? Anywhere near the coast is shoes off

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  • [–] 4 points 9 months ago (2 children)

    Places with diversity, basically. You visit a Japanese friend and realize how much better that is, lol.

    That, and have you seen interior people's floors? The shoes are sometimes cleaner, oof.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago (1 child)

    yeah, last time i visited the statesian interior (utah), the floors inside were cleaner than the floors outside until you got to my buddy's home who used to live someplace civilized. so i get your point.

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  • [–] 2 points 9 months ago

    I'm kind of poking fun as a Missouri friend of mine who had dogs who came and went outside freely. Obviously when you've got animals coming and going, the floor gets really dusty and dirty.

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  • [–] 25 points 9 months ago

    I'm an American and you take your shoes off at the door, bub.

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