Depends; Closest thing to lemm.ee? Maybe lemmy.zip?

Here's my own choices:

• lemmy.dbzer0.com (totally unbiased 😏)
• lemmy.zip
• quokk.au (not lemmy, piefed)
• sopuli.xyz

Dbzer0 and zip are probably the closest thing to lemm.ee in terms of defederation.

You might like https://piefed.social.

• Usual controversial instances (hexbear, grad, hilariouschaos...) are banned here,
• Posts and replies with many downvotes are collapsed by default,
• You can individually block any (whole) instance, community, users and linked domains. You can also filter the keywords,
• Any much-downvoted user will appear with red warning sign

.zip has the closest instance policies to .ee. A lot of .ee refugees moved there (me included). Some also moved to piefed if you're considering that.

Maybe dubvee? That's kind of the exact vibe we're fostering.

Site info: https://dubvee.org/site

I'm looking for a instance with...

• the fewest trolls (they're site-banned upon discovery)
• [the fewest] bots (see rule 2: "No fscking bots"). Some bots are allowed, but only ones that are just a human queuing up things to post on a schedule.
• and anyone that likes to take things to the extremes (See Rule 8)

Cons are that a lot of accounts are banned (rule 8) and we don't federate with some instances: .ml, grad, hexbear, lemdroid (too much spam originates there). We're kind-of the opposite of lemm.ee in a lot of ways, so it might be a bit jarring if that's where you're coming from.

My recommendation would be to find a local instance - one that's closest to you - and sign up for that. I'm not in Atlanta, but I am in Georgia, so I signed up for the yall.theatl.social instance (the server is in Atlanta), and I couldn't be happier. It's a smaller instance, but I converse regularly with the admins when I have a question or a problem, and they are accessible and always open to suggestions.

I like it so much that I also use the theatl.social Mastodon instance as my main Mastodon as well. I throw them a few bucks every month to help with costs, and I'm happy to do it.

I would agree with those who say smaller instances are the way to go.

I've been pretty happy with how the instance I use has been run thus far, but it is focused around furries, so it won't be something most people outside that subculture like I expect. Still, the fandom is big enough that someone in it looking for an instance might look at this thread, so I mention it anyway.

try lemmy.dbzer0.com. (totally unbiased)

we have pirates, memes, and shitposts galore (ahoy, matey!)

.world

Sh.itjust.works

Sopuli.xyz

Lemmy.cafe

I don't see a lot of the things you're trying to avoid on my instance. But I almost always browse "subscribed" and mostly have no idea what's going on in communities I'm not subscribed to.

Since you mention you have no real opinions about lemm.ee. You were just on there by chance.

I’ll propose you the style of blahaj which is to have downvotes disabled, its quite a different way to interact with lemmy, maybe a bit weird to get used to. But it feels much less hostile. And it fosters a good culture of just ignoring shitty takes and replies.

As far as “no extremes” you mentioned you prefer, blahaj blocks lemmygrad and hexbear (ultra authoritarians) and any far right instance (think hilariouschaos)

lemmy.dbzer0.com

You dont need to limit yourself to just one, feel free to diversify your presence.

But for a real answer: The smaller ones; The smaller the more respecfull they feel.

Though more users does demonstrate capabilities. Not every server is fast or stable.

Discuss.online is pretty awesome. 🤓

Pawb.Social 😋

looking for a instance with the fewest trolls, bots, and anyone that likes to take things to the extremes.

All the instances are good in their own way, but at least one will irritate you very much, and it’s always different. There are ways each one can make you go “why???”

There are commenters who will call one or more instances bad things. That may or may not be accurate for you.

Each large instance has one or more crazy mods, all instances mostly have decent mods. Each instance will have multiple examples about why it’s good or horrible.

with the LEMMY.EE coming to an end there definitely will be multiple accts to diff instances just in case one gets offed again. definitely avoid the the triad of tankie instances, plus some that pretty political views, unless your into that kind of thing.

I've found that self-hosrinf my own instance has been a very good way of keeping the number of bits, spammers and people that like to take things to the extremes at a nice and consistent 0.

Sure, self hosting your own instance isn't for everyone but it's definitely doable and I'm satisfied with my experiences so far.

I choosed lemmy.ml cause it was first i saw with no email registration

the one I'm on is pretty nice