looking for a instance with the fewest trolls, bots, and anyone that likes to take things to the extremes.

All the instances are good in their own way, but at least one will irritate you very much, and it’s always different. There are ways each one can make you go “why???”

There are commenters who will call one or more instances bad things. That may or may not be accurate for you.

Each large instance has one or more crazy mods, all instances mostly have decent mods. Each instance will have multiple examples about why it’s good or horrible.