I like the idea of self hosting; I'm just concerned about being defederated by an admin/mod that's taken things the wrong way.

I'm not a spicy person, but I'm sure I've upset some people, some how. I say that, but I know I've upset at least one person online.

The person stated they do a thing, and me being curious, I asked them a question about it because I wanted to know more. They replied with a really angry message. It sounds preposterous but it really was as benign as that. I've seen the same person respond to others in the same unreasonable manner. It's this type of person that I'm concerned about.