He means more to me than I thought.

I was raised in an abusive home, and Star Trek TNG was one of my few escapes. I remember wanting to be like Captain Picard when I grew up. Confident, kind, direct, capable, and loving.

I don't know if I'm there yet. But I'm trying.

I already miss you. So very much.

Would you mind sharing what he meant/means to you? I think reading your words will help.

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[–] 64 points 1 week ago (7 children)

His character as Picard is one of the clearest role models of leadership, something I want to aspire to.

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  • [–] 33 points 1 week ago (6 children)

    I don't know if you knew, but Patrick Stewart was also raised in an abusive home, and used acting as a way of escaping.

    I'll always remember the scene from Extras with Ricky Gervais. Sure, he was an amazing actor, but it showed how effortlessly he could turn his hand to sublime comedy.

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  • [–] [S] 12 points 1 week ago (4 children)

    I had no idea, thank you! And I'll look that up.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 week ago (3 children)

    I didn't know either. But you and your wife are two of my favorite Lemmy stars. ❀️

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  • [–] 26 points 1 week ago (2 children)

    [off topic]

    I once heard Jean Claude Van Damme say that he was always tried to be kind and respectful to fans, no matter how tired or annoyed he was, because there were people who'd been looking up to him all their lives.

    There are a lot of people who have looked up to Picard for all their lives.

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  • [–] 25 points 1 week ago

    I used to go to sleep listening to the furnace and pretending it was the hum of the Enterprise with Patrick Stewart at the helm. I was safe because he was there. I'm in my fifties now and still that sometimes helps me get to sleep.
    His passing is like a gut punch. My stomach is in a knot and my eyes are all welled up.
    RIP Patrick - you will be missed.

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  • [–] 23 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    I was raised in an abusive home

    As was he. He gave to/worked for organizations that fight domestic violence as a result.

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  • [–] 22 points 1 week ago (3 children)

    Exploration. Morality. Intelligence. Dignity. Honor. Confidence. Empathy. Curiosity. Dedication.

    In a lot of very real ways, I realize that I have, for a long time, considered Stewart’s portrayal of Picard to essentially be the reference standard of what outstanding leadership can and should be.

    Also, as to Stewart himself: I’ve always thought he was, at his core, a genuinely good human.

    Fuck, man, I haven’t felt this heartbroken about a celebrity death since Anthony Bourdain.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

    Same. I normally don’t particularly care that much about celebrity deaths. I mean, it’s sad in a lot of cases, but it doesn’t usually well my eyes. But when I found out about Patrick, I felt a huge gut punch. The last time I felt this was Robin Williams :( they were both good people who did not deserve dementia :(

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  • [–] 19 points 1 week ago* (1 child)

    One line from Prof Xavier in Xmen means a lot to me.

    "Just because someone stumbles and loses their way, it doesn't mean they're lost forever. Sometimes, we all need a little help."

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  • [–] 17 points 1 week ago (4 children)

    Oh no, this is how I find out? 😒

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 1 week ago (3 children)

    Well shit... I'm sorry you found out this way.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

    Same here, but honestly I'd rather it be this way than from some crappy YouTube ad or news program. Here I can read other people's notes on their feelings and happy memories.

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  • [–] 15 points 1 week ago

    Patrick Stuart as Picard gave me some of my favourite moments in all of media. This out of place, British/French/Space man, speaking softly and at length about morality and the human experience. Showing us that diplomacy is about conversation, rather than yelling, posturing and finger pointing. He still continues to give me hope that Humanity can eventually surpass the greed, hate and fear that hold us all down. Hopefully, we can see a glimpse of it in our lifetime.

    If you haven't, give Star Trek, especially TNG a go. It's messages are still relevant today... Just don't start with season 1. "Measure of a Man" was what made me fall in love with Star Trek and Picard as a character. In fact, I'm going to watch it right now.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 week ago (3 children)

    He represents a central figure in media mythology that everybody knows stands for integrity, earnestly trying to do what you think is right, and hope for a better future. Because if we can dream of making it to the stars, people will keep dreaming of making it to the stars.

    Star Trek is culturally centralized as a pillar of hope and wonder that everybody can reference. If you know somebody likes Star Trek, you can basically know that they're a good person. And Patrick Stewart is the figurehead and father figure we all know, strive to be, and hold as the gold standard of.

    His character's words were written by writers, sure. But, CULTURALLY, we all collectively know that he represents that hope and wisdom.

    It's odd and impossibly human how something so incredibly real can come from all of our dreams when they're put together.

    And while I know that his passing isn't the loss of that message of hope by any means... But I'd be lying if I said it didn't feel that way. It really does feel like it's our duty to ourselves to continue the hope that we know and feel, even if, right now, it feels a million miles away and fading.

    Sir Patrick Stewart didn't die. He's become more powerful than any of us can possibly imagine.

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  • [–] 12 points 1 week ago* (1 child)

    Before he was Starfleet, he was a Paul Atreides’ mentor. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gurney_Halleck

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  • He was Picard and even more than Picard.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 week ago

    Between the lines he delivered as Jean-Luc Picard and Professor X - even if they were written by someone else - they shaped my worldview.

    The perspectives he spoke in my formative years on the human condition and being a singular representation of true leadership are hallmark examples that I strive for. I know he was acting - it doesn't matter, it's aspirational.

    His love for life, all life; transcended the screen, as evidenced by his hijinks in recent memory with another anointed knight - Sir Ian McKellen.

    We are richer for knowing him and poorer for having lost him...

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  • [–] 10 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    Picard thought me more about morals and ethics than any of my teachers. RIP buddy

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  • [–] 8 points 1 week ago*

    Not much sadly, I was more of a Stargate and Star Wars watcher, but the few non acting vids i saw of him he looked really nice, down to earth, and just very cool in general

    edit: sorry I lied, I forgot I watched him as Prof X

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    CAPT Picard is everything that leadership is supposed to be. Rest in power Jean Luc.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    I just started to get into Star Trek in 2024, right after our union won recognition, because a coworker recommended that I watch Bar Association. Needless to say I fell in love with the franchise, and started watching the other shows.

    In December of 2024 I was illegally fired, allegedly for "professional misconduct". Around the same time, I started to watch TNG. The show prevented me from having a mental health crisis much sooner than it would have otherwise occurred, and helped me recover afterwards.

    Sir Patrick Stewart was the light of wisdom for my ideals during this period. He didn't necessarily save my life, but he saved my soul. In August, I lost my ULP. A song in TNG echoed in my head then as it does now:

    "Land of Song!" said the warrior bard,

    "Tho' all the world betrays thee,

    One sword at least, thy rights shall guard,

    One faithful harp shall praise thee!"

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  • [–] 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)

    If your online persona is indicative of your real life persona, then you've pretty much nailed his screen persona. πŸ€ͺ

    You seem kind, strong (you made it through a bad burn, with the love, support and nursing of a wonderful wife!), you keep pursuing your hobbies and dreams, and rescue your damsel when she's distressed. That may not be larger than life, but it is real life, and that's better. When the masks melt away, or if they're lovely masks, become the face.

    TNG was after I moved out, but I really liked it a lot. I liked Captain Picard, but felt more drawn to Data, as he developed and worked through complicated human issues. In the original show, I was drawn to Mr. Spock, because he represented emotional equilibrium that was never present in my nuclear family. I guess Troi was closest to my heart, because it was my grams that loved, nurtured, soothed, accepted. When they buried her, they buried the best part of my heart.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    Coming home every day after being bullied at school and watching TNG is probably a major contribution to keeping my sanity when I was young.

    I am very sad. Patrick Stewart will be missed.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    There's lots but the triple take story is for some reason at the forefront.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 week ago (1 child)

    Sir Patreck Stuart

    You misspelled Patrick Stewart on the title, btw.

    (Also Patrick Stuart is a completely different actor)

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  • [–] 5 points 1 week ago

    I think his character on star trek is what got me into the show, I think he did such a great job and made the show immersive. I had a pretty abusive childhood, that show was all I had. Its responsible a lot of my views and morals, extremely formative. Outside of his acting, he seems like a he was a wonderful person and the world is less bright without him.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 child)

    Confident, kind, direct, capable, and loving. I don't know if I'm there yet. But I'm trying.

    Just by saying that you want to be like that, already makes you the best version of yourself right now.

    As to your question: a lot...the character(s), not the person behind it (I didn't knew him personally). Like all characters in all trek. In an evil capitalist hellhole-world, this stupid silly utopia, where people exist to better themselves, is still a refreshing and creative take. A dream how humanity COULD be but never won't be.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 week ago

    One of my first super hero movies I watched was X-men 2. (Classmate gave me a illegal recording of that and Transformers.)

    I used to complain that super hero fatigue was real, Ive been watching them since age ~7 , and now I'm 27. I've seen enough super heroes. But now I will buy a ticket to doomsday to see Stewart one last time

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  • [–] 4 points 1 week ago

    One of the few good memories growing up was watching TNG reruns.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago

    Honestly, I don't really know. He was a celebrity, not my friend.

    I loved quite a lot of the things he started in. TNG is a significant part of my childhood. Outside of acting, he seemed like a class act.

    But I never knew the guy. His death brings me sadness, but I don't think I'm in mourning. Not for him at least. His death just feels like another piece of the world I was born into going away.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 week ago

    He was fantastic as KARLA in the Alec Guinness George Smiley miniseries.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

    there are four lights!

    Man gave a stellar performance and taught me to speak my truth even if any and all are trying to mess with you

    Also, so sad we've never got to see him play Spider Jerusalem in an adaptation of Transmetropolitan. He wrote one of the forewords in the TB, and really would have loved to do the role.

    RIP . Captain

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  • [–] 2 points 1 week ago

    Nothing, I never met the guy. but he always seemed kinda cool for an old man

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  • Nothing really. I grew up with always knowing who he was, even if I didn't watch Star Trek. He was a great Professor X.

    He just seemed like a cool, nice dude. I enjoyed just hearing him talk. RIP.

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    Was he the reason you joined a heinous institution to kill poor, innocent brown/black people around the world in the name of billionaires?

    Are you this brainwashed to think you made a difference? No, you were just fighting for greedy fascists.

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    So you were a murderer corpse collector. Thank the Cosmos less murderers were kept alive. Being poor made you unsympathetic to struggle of innocent people killed by you and your ilk, but normal poor people who don't live under a brainwashed money chaser mentality can choose, and have choosen, better. And you feel somewhat morally superior to enter other people country to kill them. Hypocrites like you make me sick. The system you're trying to defend, a 2 centuries old war machine, must be destroyed.

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    The vile ones are the invaders bringing death to innocent people worldwide. The rat piss found in a garbage bin is worth more than the blood of those unrepentant killers. And the country is in the same moral septic tank. The gall of monsters dead inside pointing fingers to others denouncing their violence.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 week ago

    nothing ? he was an actor on a few tv shows, he seem'd a nice guy but then so is my neighbour.

    I guess I find it a little depressing that there's any reverence for actors, they are... acting. The local plumber, nurse etal do more good in the workd.

    Jonas Salk however, mucho respecto.

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