Take the W, OP.
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I'm a straightish 6' dude built like a plumber but the lesbians in my DnD group declared me an honorary lesbian.
All you had to say was plumber. Pretty sure plumber - bigot = honorary lesbian
Sounds like Anon doesn't appreciate the fact that he's part of an inclusive friend group.
Fake: Anon has friends
Gay: Anon is presumably built like a twink
Or has egg vibes, and has been preemptively adopted by her soon-to-be girl gang.
Basically, someone who hasn't quite realized they're not entirely cis yet. "I thought everyone had dreams of being a boy/girl." "I don't get all that upset when I'm mistaken for a guy/girl on the phone." "I don't really feel comfortable hanging out with other guys/girls. It feels boring."
Stuff like that. Other trans people can (usually) spot an egg a mile away. But like everything else in queerness, it's never cut-and-dry, black-and-white, easily defined. They could always just be comfortable enough in their birth-assigned gender to not give a shit, and that's valid.
It's considered rude to assign this trait to someone you know personally, and the topic is only broached if the person in question chooses to be vulnerable and ask you specific questions about gender. Otherwise, they are (as always) your friend first, and treating them with care and respect always comes first.
The typical protocol when one of your friends says or does something a little 'eggy' is to quietly notice it, treat it neutrally and passively, and not say anything for or against it. Let them figure things out on their own. If they are trans, they know they can ask you things. If they aren't, then they're just happy and comfortable being themself around you. In either case, it's not a bad thing.
Non-binary/egg-gender
Is sperm gender also a term that's used? Or only egg?
No.
Its a trans femme meme of "when am egg cracks a chick emrges".
Or so the legends I saw.
when am egg cracks a chick emrges
So obvious in hindsight. Thanks for sharing.
Is there a trans masc term or are they also eggs?
*Tell us what really happens when a group of girls hang out together. Is it true they do cliche things like: rituals, eat, fart and poo??
What else can humans do?
Just watch out for when they start lezzing out
When I was in middle school we had a pull-up test in gym. First all the boys did theirs, then they had to leave and the girls did theirs. Nobody minded me staying because I couldn't do one just like most of the girls.
I kind of giggled at this, not trying to put you down. I did like around 20-30 and I was like maybe I should stop. -_- I had a military style workout routine every day, not by choice. I don't like to brag but just vent out the daily torture routine. I think it's funny that the One Punch Man workout routine is, heh, like nothing.
I don’t like to brag
Hey now, no need to lie. If you had said it while appearing more honest, something like "I wanna brag, because I have put so much effort into this", you might have gotten a better response. Now it just sounds like, you are bragging, and also a liar.
With all the experiences I've had in my life, some of them I wish I was lying about. I could have written I did 50 normal push ups, 50 knuckle pushups, 50 finger pushups, 25 one had push ups for each hand. I mean I could go on with the details of the routine. That would be bragging. All I was trying to get across was that it sucked. My friends were playing outside and there I was working out. I felt that it took away from my childhood. It's not a brag to say that doing that shit everyday with gym in school, martial arts and track when all I wanted to do was play world of warcraft. To a certain extent, I want to stay anonymous with my posts, you don't have to believe me.
Yeah, no, I did not mean to imply you did not do all that, that is a communication failure on my part. Just pointing out, that your wording about not bragging, made your message read as something else, than what you likely meant. Unintentionally failing at communication is a big issue online, and I often try to point out, where the miscommunication happened, so that can be avoided in the future. That does not save me too, from failing from time to time, though.
No hard feelings, I just try to convey things as best as I can and it's a infinite learning process. That's why I like it here at lemmy, it's a place I can write about things I can't bring myself to say in person. And I get that it's a bit selfish.
I like lemmy too, since I can have interactions like this, where there is communication failure, but we can figure it out. Keep writing, it is not selfish! There are always people like me, who enjoy reading the comments :)
"There are always people like me, who enjoy reading the comments"
I like that, even if you disagree or point out my flaws; it's all good. It's why I left reddit. It's refreshing to have someone point out things instead of just downboating you. I'll admit, if you read through my comments, the first thought is--you're full of shit, it doesn't surprise me. I like to write here, like a diary, of my experiences in life because the older I get the more I realize how abnormal my life was--is.
It’s refreshing to have someone point out things instead of just downboating you.
This is essentially, why I try to do it. I think there would be a lot less miscommunication, and overall better discussion athmosphere, if people just stopped to say, "hey, you sound like [this], maybe you did not mean it", instead of just downvoting - or worse, starting to hurl insults around. Nobody learns a thing, if there is no good feedback given. I know this sometimes just pisses people off, but I think it is still worth to try. Sometimes I get discussions like this one, afterall!
And I think I understand, what you mean with the difficulty, of conveying an unordinary life. I like to keep things more private here, but every time I explain the downward spiral of unfortunate things, and new and new chronic illnesses, my life has been so far, to someone, it sounds like a bad sitcom...
It sounds like you've had your fair share of struggles. Happy to have you here. I like a good chat and I don't take personally. And besides my writing style has been a bit of a mess, I know other languages and still am studying others--it's like a hobby at this point. I'm kind of interested in reading about your life with the last statement.
I'm a 6'6'' man, but I dream of being a 4'7'' femboy.
Fake: OP is >6ft tall. Gay: OP turned into a les(trans)bian.
I had a scenario like this when I was couch surfing while going to college. So there I am in a attic room surrounded by 5? girls and I thought to myself wtf am I doing here. I just came here to do my laundry, my friends girlfriend said it was okay and I could take showers there as well. In hindsight, I realized I'm an idiot. She showed me her room as well. I totally missed the subtle messages; she was very intelligent, she explained her school project about the function of ATP (Adenosine triphosphate). But hey I was a brain dead skateboarder then lol
Idk, sounds to me like they feel comfortable around you.
I have a few close female friends, one I even usually share a bed with on trips. I asked her why it's like this once and it boiled down to "you don't expect anything from me".
I do have a partner and usually hang out mostly with women, so maybe I'm just not attractive, who knows
I mean looking back, I don't disagree. One of the girls would help me with random stuff. Another always wanted to take photos together and put them online, I said no thank you to that. I think that people have different interpretations of attraction. In a way I found being taught about ATP very attractive but I wasn't going to interject myself between her and my friend. So you probably have an attractiveness beyond a physical appearance.
I don’t know if you’re the idiot you think you are. You didn’t do anything, which rationalised the trust and why they let you in that circle in the first place. That’s a pretty decent level of trust very few men get to.
I would say I'm oblivious at the least. Working in retail I made quite a few female friends, understandably my girlfriend at the time didn't like that even though I was trying to find friends for her to hang out with after moving to a new place since I could just talk to my friend group on teamspeak and I didn't want her to feel lonely. I learned the hard way they liked me basically.
And they had reason to, you’ve shown it again
I don't understand I'm a braindead biker

I had turned into a biker at one point. It was about an eight mile ride to get this shot. Probably one of my favorite, and probably because riding all the way up there.
Maybe because OP is the first man they meet that doesn't treat women like sex objects
I was always "basically a girl" in a gir group. It's great, i don't even jnderstand what the problem is.
Hey now dudes over 6 feet can be femboys too. Don't let your height limit your possibilities, king (?queen).
Wife's friends always requested that she bring me along even though none of the other husbands/partners were coming. When she'd ask why they would just tell her "he's fun". I assume, "without being a tiresome asshole" was the unmentioned part.
He won, but at what cost?
I joined a book club on discord, and ended up playing games and watching stuff as well. I am the only guy that shows up to most of it.
But this has also always been how it is. I sat with the girls during lunch years ago when I was in grade school. Most of my mothers family was women, so when I got dragged off to spend time with them for the weekend it was just like that. Joined a frat in college, but ended up spending more time with the sorority girls.
It just be like that.
Being one of the girls > being one of the guys
as an nb ambassador in the gender demilitarized zone it's really crazy to me that people choose either/or
It's something that other people chose for you, you don't pick it yourself
it's something you pick through your own behavior.
That's kinda like saying you can pick your own nickname through behavior. Like, yeah, you're probably never gonna get called big tuna if you never touch the stuff at the office, but not really
That's exactly how someone would get called Big Tuna. It's like a huge guy named Tony Tiny
I don't think I've ever heard of an ironic nickname applied to something that someone is totally neutral about. Maybe if they make a big deal about hating tuna? But that wasn't what I described
Or maybe they used to work for a cat food cannery idk how some nicknames happen
Well then all your coworkers do, to, so they're probably not gonna call you that, and it would be unusual between spouses and other friends but I guess not impossible? That's kinda the thing about nicknames, you don't really have much control over it, it's really subject to the whims of other people
In fact, getting a nickname at all is never a sure thing, just like being one of the girls or the guys
Not like that at all. I want to hang out with men and women so I make friends with men and women. I invite them to stuff and they invite me to stuff. Sometimes I go to hang out and it winds up being mostly or all men. Sometimes mostly or all women. It really doesn't matter and the only thing that really makes the difference one way or the other is who is available at the time.
Avoid people who view their gender as an enclave cause they are for sure misogynist, misandrist, or both. Make yourself open to people who are more gender-agnostic if that term I just made up makes any sense.
It is a choice. You get to choose your friends. It's not RNG.
Most of that is not especially relevant. Being one of the girls or one of the guys has nothing to do with gender as an enclave or misandry or whatever. Clicking with any group of people isn't even guaranteed and you can absolutely hang out with a diverse mix of people and be considered one of either or one of both. But it's up to the group and the group dynamics, not you.
Being annoying and pedantic is a pretty good way of never getting picked as either, though.

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