BigDanishGuy, I said no toys at the table.

They can sting, but they (anecdotally) sting less readily than some other species of wasps. I've been around them all my life and never have been stung. But, I've never intentionally messed with them. On the other hand, I've been stung by a couple other species that were far less patient with my presence in their general area.

mud daubers usually are as far from aggressive as yellow jackets are assholes.

I'm ngl I also been told that and believed it. I don't really feel very gullible since I've never actually been stung by one? Even destroying their nests doesn't seem to make them aggressive.

Lol my dad did the same. I never got stung tho and avoided some anxiety

You still kinda have to smash them with a mallet.

That graph does contain bees among wasps.

To be specific, bees are a "Cladistically included but traditionally excluded taxa" of wasps, since they are within Apocrita.

The common-language definition of wasp is literally "A member of Apocrita ... except bees (and ants)".
It's the same situation as saying a chicken is a dinosaur, and why the field often uses "non-avian dinosaurs" instead for clarity.

This wikipedia diagram from the Aculeata article is a bit more concise:

Take now for example Stephanoidea, "a superfamily of parasitic wasps within the Apocrita". Clearly wasps, yet equally closely related to yellow-jackets and honey-bees.

Edit: mixed up Aculeata and Aulacidae. Edit2:

If you go further into Apoidae, even there you still find plenty more "clearly wasp" type species:

Take Sphecidae:

Or Philanthidae:

All on the same level as actual bees (Anthophila).

I think also in terms of vibes it feels right to call bees a subset of wasps.