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[–] 153 points 7 months ago (7 children)
  • [–] 25 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    Yes, but that's temporary. They'll get tender after a while 💖

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  • [–] 6 points 7 months ago (3 children)
  • [–] 307 points 7 months ago (11 children)

    Dudes just wanna crack open a cold one.

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  • [–] 131 points 7 months ago (5 children)
  • [–] 12 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    But Lemmy is blue for an upvote

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago (3 children)
  • [–] 247 points 7 months ago

    To pay them less? That's so fucked up.

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  • [–] 226 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    so i guess it was a massive red flag when i asked them how many cameras were in the room during my interview

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  • [–] 78 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    Because the corpses don't tell them how pretty they'd look if they smiled?

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  • [–] 100 points 7 months ago (30 children)

    I mean, honest question that I really do not want to google. Is this actually a wide spread problem?

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  • [–] 42 points 7 months ago (11 children)

    Shitty pay, crappy hours, being surrounded by the dead all the time... You either gotta love the job or end up loving the dead...

    Some jobs need to be done, but who's to do them? Can one be completely sane and handle this kind of life without issue for years on end? Most of the people employed tell themselves it's just a job and spend their time dodging the reality of handling the dead all the time, but a few.. well.. they go all in.

    Normal is a state of mind that has us come to grips with that which is beyond our control.

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  • [–] 56 points 7 months ago (10 children)

    My wife was in the funeral industry for a while and studying mortuary sciences. She says she left because it was too depressing being pressured to upsell grieving families all the time.

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  • [–] 16 points 7 months ago (6 children)

    There is a lesson here. Have these conversations today with your loved ones about final arrangements. I promise you that many of them would rather be buried in a casket from Costco and have the money spent on literally anything else.

    This is especially true if they're going to be cremated.

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago (5 children)

    All of my loved ones want to have their organs donated to science, then have the leftovers cremated.

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  • [–] 2 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    Put my brain in whatever robot you will use to serve as a hard drive.

    What could go wrong?

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  • [–] 2 points 7 months ago (3 children)
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  • [–] 105 points 7 months ago* (5 children)

    I had an ex who worked in this field, she went to mortuary school and worked in mortuaries, before that she worked in organ transplant. She went into the field because of a combination of personal tragedy (a close one passing away at an early age) and seeing how delicately the mortuary handled the event.

    Anyhow, she and I would talk about it often. One of the things she would note on, wasn’t that it was sexual based things men would do (besides general office sexism coming from men on occasion), but more about the level of respect they showed the deceased. Crude Comments they’d make about their weight, features etc…

    So I think it just depends and it would be difficult to verify these other claims because the “victims” are deceased and most things related to it seem to be anecdotal.

    I’m also not going to google necro in anyway

    (Also yes, she was kinda emo/metal an had some pretty sick tattoos)

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  • [–] 13 points 7 months ago (3 children)

    seeing how delicately the mortuary handled the event

    I sure wish I'd had this experience with the funeral home I picked out when my dad died. I called them to arrange to pick up his body, and the answering service was AI and obviously so. I gave them his name and the voice read it back to me to confirm it as "Robert common name R-O-B-E-R-T, Smith common name S-M-I-T-H". Then the owner ghosted me for more than a week and only delivered the urn with the ashes in the night before the internment at 8:00, left it outside and split before I could talk to him. 8 grand well spent.

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  • [–] 10 points 7 months ago* (2 children)

    DoorDash getting in the mortuary services game huh?! Those rascally innovators, wonder what they'll innovate next!

    All jokes aside, I should add, that fucking sucks, and is real gross, and I'm sorry you had to pay through the nose for the privilege of experiencing such a tasteless money-grab. Yuck.

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago* (1 child)

    pay through the nose for the privilege of experiencing such a tasteless money-grab

    My father wanted us to get the cheapest option when he passed and then to spend the money on a party instead. We obliged.

    Well, it turns out that once you go under a certain price, it also starts getting tasteless, even if it's cheap.

    The guy showed up. Nice black suit that is too large for him. Wondering where he got that. After accessing the situation (a corpse on the first floor) he then asks if we could help him carry the corpse down the stairs.

    So we do, and following his direction holdning my father by the arms as we try to solve the "sofa problem" with my father's corpse in my childhood home staircase.. he ask us to shift to the shoulders to avoid breaking his arms off around the corner. As we finally get my father on a rolling stretcher, he asks if we could get him dressed quickly before the stiffness sets in. As we do it, my dead father rips a nasty dead fart.

    Exactly how he had always wanted it.

    Personally I actually enjoyed the process of having to be the one to carry him out of the house feet first instead of having a stranger do it. But other than that, I would advise anyone to not ask for the cheapest option.

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

    Holy fuck, what a ride.

    Wondering where he got that.

    Left me deceased as well.

    I've gotten to experience some bargain basement mortuary services myself - and sidenote, I swear, people say Americans have no sense of culture?! Please!

    We got to enjoy a mortuarily-approved ($$$) small plastic bin for the remains in question in our case, as well as a quiet little moment of our own on the wee spot on the (public access 😅) coast she favored. Anyway, with ours ending up more Lebowski than Tucker and Dale lol.

    We weren't asked to help carry, at least. Yeesh homie.

    [Edit to add - glad pops woulda found it just right, frankly, in my experience, the universe sometimes does work out in strangely lovely and hilarious ways like that, your story is rad]

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  • [–] 5 points 7 months ago

    True. Humans only become valuable once they are dead.

    They only say you were a good person once you are dead, say you were too young, they go "if only we knew, they seemed fine" if you kill yourself, then go to imvestigate, once you are already dead.

    How many writers were ridiculed and rejected, before becoming famous AFTER their death?

    Once you are more like an object, once you have no more feelings, is when they start actually valuing you for what you were.

    Same as how people will value their cars, or precious things more than people.

    Same as how people romanticise native americans, years after they were almost exterminated completelly (while mostly treating those still alive like shit).

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  • [–] 17 points 7 months ago* (3 children)

    I'm guessing it's hard to come by reliable stats. It's on the same level as priests abusing children, the cover-up would be extensive. But, it's even harder, because the corpse can't testify in court, or make a YouTube video.

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  • [–] 42 points 7 months ago (1 child)

    Bless my heart for thinking it was for corpse makeup...

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    [–] 53 points 7 months ago (38 children)

    Because, they can shamelessly pay them less and get away with it?

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  • [–] 20 points 7 months ago (37 children)

    No because men rape the dead bodies of women

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  • [+] -23 points 7 months ago (32 children)
  • [–] 11 points 7 months ago* (9 children)

    Why wouldn't you? There are very few instances in which one can assume they have consent over another person's body.

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  • [+] -12 points 7 months ago* (8 children)
  • [–] 8 points 7 months ago (4 children)

    Hey, what kinda person are you?

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  • [+] -1 points 7 months ago (3 children)
  • [–] 2 points 7 months ago* (2 children)

    So, the closest thing I've had to a childhood hero is Spock from the 60s Star Trek show. As I've grown older and more aware of of the world around me, I've realized elevating rationality to a virtue by itself isn't enough to form a coherent ethos. In fact, I think individuals are actually very bad at rationality. Everyone who puts rationality on a pedestal, from Zizians to SBF to Reddit atheists to Elon Musk to Randian libertarians, is really just forgetting how subjective rationality can be.

    I firmly believe that compassion is just as important as rationality when it comes to building strong, honest societies. You need both. We want ethics that are internally consistent, sure, but rationality and internal consistency don't themselves give ethics purpose.

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  • [–] 4 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    Putting aside the discussion about bodies and objects, the primary concern is consent - which also applies to objects anyway. Would you steal a dead person's wallet "because they don't need it anymore"?

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  • [–] 3 points 7 months ago (19 children)
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  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (3 children)

    A dead person isn’t equal to a shoe. As humans we show more respect to our dead than old shoes.

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  • [+] -3 points 7 months ago (12 children)
  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (4 children)

    What do you mean never? When they were alive they could consent. Why does that change when they die? Just because someone is incapacitated through death, doesn’t give us the right to rape them. When consent is not given it is presumed you don’t have it.

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  • [+] -1 points 7 months ago (3 children)
  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (4 children)

    And calling people objects is why the right is crazy.

    If a person drowns and has no heartbeat, is it okay for you to have a quickie with them before the paramedics arrive to save him? Clinically they're dead, so... by your logic, they're an object, and never had the ability to consent in the first place, so quickly fucking them up the arse should be a-okay, right?

    Or is there like a timer you have for when a person goes from a person to an object, which then retroactively never had personhood anyway? Is it just time, or is it temperature, or as soon as the smell sets in? Some people have been clinically dead for half an hour in cold water before being resuscitated, the cold helping protect from brain damage. And some people smell like dead bodies while alive.

    I'm just curious as to your personal criteria.

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  • [+] 0 points 7 months ago (3 children)
  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago (2 children)

    Yeah. People aren't objects. Even if human remains were, you'd have a hard time arguing when a person stops existing without "well once they've rotted for a week, they're definitely not alive." yeah no shit

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sorites_paradox

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  • [+] -1 points 7 months ago* (1 child)
  • [–] 1 point 7 months ago

    Again, too vague, and you still have the problem of when.

    Also, Google "man wakes up in morgue", you'll find tons of documented cases of people waking up at the morgue, because someone was mistaken about them being dead.

    Things like that is why necrophilia is generally frowned upon. Even necrophiles probably wouldn't like to fuck the bodies which are every clearly dead, as in, say, a bloated corpse recovered from water. There's no mistaking whether someone like that is dead or not.

    But someone at the morgue who's been there less than 24 hours is still possibly alive and definitely a "they" and not an "it".

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  • [–] 52 points 7 months ago (2 children)

    There was some (mildly) famous case, I think a book was written about it, of a woman who was a necrophiliac and worked at a morgue. There was a big reddit thread about it years ago.

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