Absolutely true! I wish people would just not ruin other people's happiness. It's really not that difficult!

Dude tell me about it. I had a girl tell me she was exited about the tswift engagement and I just went full asshole mode for some reason and was like "oh you gonna go to their wedding? Big friends with Taylor?" ... Idk why I decided to be a jerk but ... Yeah I still feel low-key guilty about that but she's said/done plenty worse so I probably should let that shit go.

Anyways, yeah I guess I'm saying sometimes I think people may not be totally aware in the moment of their dickishness so learn from me and just STFU if someone is happy for some dumb shit.

Happened to me way too often as a kid (from other kids, never my family), and I've only just now begun to realize it's why I feel such embarrassment if I ever allow myself to get excited/show excitement. God forbid I ever let myself get animated, I end up laying in bed every night for literal weeks afterwards replaying it through some fucked up filter that just gets worse and worse until I'm convinced I've humiliated myself irrevocably, and I stop interacting with other humans for a long time. The only places I can allow myself to be excited/animated are online and with my family.

Recently went to visit a friend and ended up getting positively hyped while helping one of his friends build a rube goldberg machine. Friend I went to visit ended up having a medical episode, and mentioned in his drugged up state that he was a little jealous of how quickly I and his friend hit it off, and I still haven't recovered. Me and rube goldberg machine guy really clicked, but I haven't been able to bring myself to even text the guy because I can't get past the embarrassment of it. Friend I visited said it was like watching Romeo and Juliet meet.

This is absolutely too general of a blanket statement. Piss all over the joy of fascists, that makes you a good person.

Not to cool your jets, but I've met worse types of persons

Part of growing independence is to develop some internal approval that you will enjoy your life without asking permission of others for you to go be you. You can and will seek out supportive people who will be attracted to your ideas. This is what having a vision is. You see it and that is what is important.

And Lots of other people have their own shit going on. So if they aren’t going out of their way to be cheerleaders: do not take it personally. They might come around later when they see what you got going on. They might not. But hey that’s ok. They are on their own trail. They are allowed this space.

That said if someone is going out of their way to bully you: do not give them permission to make you feel like shit. Their opinion of you is none of your business.

I catch myself doing this sometimes. I don't mean to belittle anyone's excitement — I just tend to default to responding way too analytically/critically. It's a trait of mine that I despise, and I'm trying to be more aware of it so that I can prevent it from happening.

Can someone send this to my parents and everyone I've ever dated?

Lots of people around me are excited for a racist march organised by flag-shagging, far-right knuckle-dragger Tommy Robinson.

So let's call it a guideline rather than a rule.

If I'm excited about something, I am very selective of who I share my excitement with. The comments here verifies that choice.

Well I was excited about making them feel stupid for liking something and you just make me feel stupid for being excited for something... asshole.

What if I am excited about making people feel stupid?

/genuine am i missing something or are a lot of people taking the hyperbole a little too seriously?? like I agree but god forbid someone uses hyperbole??

So true. Being judgemental is stupid and old fashioned in the worst way. If it’s not hurting people, why judge it? Let people live, ffs.

that kid that killed animals for fun when I was in high school and he killed a bunch of other students pets and they all got in trouble for beating him up,

coal rollers and close shave swervers in the lunch room at work,

guys bragging about sexual harassment and assault,

maga,

etc..

This statement captures a huge part of the shitty, negativity first, punching down, and adversarial nature of the conservative white american culture that I was born into.

It is so incredibly pervasive that I think most don't even realize they're doing it. Even thinking of relatives who I have totally good personal relationships with -- I can hang out with them any time, but I am not going to sit around in the living room with everybody because within minutes it turns into non-stop complaining about entire other person on the planet.

It's almost like that "Darmok" episode of star trek, except on this conservative planet the locals only speak in the form of complaints.

Welcome to Germany, a country of 80 million worst types of people.

She's right. That said, constructive criticism is very important as well sometimes, and it can be tricky to navigate when to be positively supportive and when to be critically supportive

I mean, I dunno if I'd support someone being like "Yay, meth!"

Compared my buddies collection of Funko vinyl POP figures to Beanie Babies...crap of self realization.

First time I bought a new car I was pretty excited. It was nothing special, a Vauxhall Astra. But it was mine, it was brand new, and I worked hard to earn the money to pay for it. I go round to my friends house, all charged up with excitement of new car day. I say "You wanna come out an see it?" and he looks at me like Im an asshole and says "Not really. I've seen a car before.". And he was serious too.

There was a bunch of other shit like this, and to this day he wonders why I stopped being his friend.

I wanna know how so many people here know so many others in their lives that legitimately get excited about things like racism and shit. That's the surprising thing to me in these comments

The obvious exception to this is cases of addiction or poor life decisions.

Like if you collect/play Pokemon or whatever as a hobby and are excited to get a rare card, that's great and I'm happy for you.

If you're underwater on your mortgage and your basement is full of beanie-babies - that you're sure will make you rich in the future - but you just won a bid of $1000 for one rare beanie on eBay... yeah I'm not gonna be happy for you I'm gonna recommend talking to a professional

No, no. This is one where offense can easily be intended.

Autistics everywhere furiously clicking the upvote button.