This guy is basically an anti-vax pediatrician btw, so he's working hard on giving parents that free time back in the absolute worst way.

🙄 It's not a given! Plenty of people have another job, do passion projects, volunteer, assist family, attend schooling, etc. None of that is "free" time! You aren't automatically noble or harder-working if you choose to spend your time parenting...

People like this are awfully cavalier with how other people's time should be spent. Apparently if we don't spend it the way they do, it's just free.

You know what? I'm not busy. I understand exactly how much free time I have.

I get to sit on my ass and do whatever I want for several hours a day and wake up refreshed at the time I want.

How about the parents?

The top line tells the tale

Time and money and a lot less worries. Ahh.

Oh yes, never seen such an accurate poster being held up.

Because I have always lacked the ability to look at others and see the decisions they have made and how those decisions impact their lives.

I have never known anybody with a child. I have no basis to judge if having a child takes a lot of time or not.

I've never heard anybody complaining about how children take time, money, and emotional energy.

So of course I'm completely unaware of anything to do with what it means to have a child

I further speculate I didn't have a child by accident. By accidentally never coming in a woman who was not managing her fertility with birth control, by accidentally using condoms, by accidentally ensuring all of my partners and I otherwise exercise caution. It's not because I was aware of what it means to create and rear a child.

Oh, we know. And we'll still complain about being tired all the time whether you like it of not.

Maybe this is supposed to piss me off. But it doesn't, just reminds me to not take my "free time" for granted.

I think Sunday I'm gonna take myself out for a date, go the park and chill for like an hour and listen to music, go get a new record, and have a nice lunch, then maybe go see a movie.

My partner and I will be married 9 years in January. We don't have kids.

We are very well aware of how much free time we have.

The kids wouldn't have so much free time if you'd just put them to work

Oh I understand. That's exactly why I do not want to have kids.

I do not envy my coworker with five kids in the slightest. He has shown me clips from his house. Looks like a fucking war zone.

Fully aware and taking advantage of it. A previous colleague asked me "just what are you doing with your time that you can't make time for kids?" It was very difficult not to laugh out loud. When I ran down the list of activities and projects I was working on, it looked like they had died inside a little. The response was a meek "oh... I see".

Who knows, maybe the response was an "poor guy, doesn't know what it is to be happy with kids" or "I wish I had that sort of time". Regardless, I'm enjoying my free time. Especially travelling off season and outside of the school holidays... you can definitely put a price on that.

Remember before you had kids?

It's kinda like that.

Almost everyone I work with has kids, and when they talk about them it's universally complaints. How expensive they are, how much time they take up, how draining they are on their resources and energy. And then in the next sentence they'll turn to me and ask me why I don't have any kids.

Well, I gotta say, once they grow up you get loads of free time again. And then you die.

Shouldn't have kids because you want to spend your time that way?

get fucked panel man

Dr Joel doesn't fully understand how difficult and confusing it can be to find new and interesting ways to waste one's precious free time. Let's call it a communication barrier

Right, just like how I have enough money I rarely need to check my bank account or worry about bills. That's the whole point my guy. I don't want to be anywhere near a situation which requires me to plan every single day in six minutes intervals.

thats why i wear a condom

Fuck this guy for forcing his kids to wage slave and pay rent their whole lives. At least my unborn kids will never suffer this world and people like this.

I quit my job and lived off savings for two years. I did a bit of travelling but found what I enjoy most is smoking cigars on my porch while watching anime or reading manga/light novels. I downloaded The Sopranos, The Wire, and Breaking Bad but managed to not watch them during my completely free time but managed to complete some objectionably awful anime.

No, I actually don’t.

Every time I make plans with friends who have kids, I tell them they can pick when we hang out on the basis that I have abundant free time and they have very little of it.

My youngest is now at uni. The family home feels quiet now. The kids bring lots of joy and challenges. But my god I love the quiet.

I purposefully didn't read the guys name since that's the only reason they said this thing.

Obvious implication here is that we should be using that free time in some way that this parent deems worthy.

The is no authority I respect to dictate how I spend my free time. I did not ever choose to be here (And I'm not super happy about it anyway) but I'm definitely going to choose how I spend my time now that I am.

If you do have kids you eventually figure that out when you retire.

source: did

Every evening is my playground. The weekend... seems to stretch on forever.

This is especially true once I quit drinking. I just had so much time and energy for fun projects all of a sudden.

My friend without kids asks me all the time so did you play that game today? And every time I explain to him I don't think you ever get it, but I have kids and a lot of things on my plate so no I did not get to play that game yet lol. He has lived his entire life gf free and only goes to work. Everything else is his time. He just says ohh yeah I forget. I absolutely wish I could turn back time and blow a tire on my way to my first date that lead to this so I could have done so much more or at least the many things I want to do and never will. I fell for it, i hope others make better decisions.

Hey! Your life choices are not my life choices, you are wrong and I will agressively boast about how much happier I am having made those decisions. In fact all opositional points to my life choices are just a coping mechanism for your lesser lifestyle.

Both sides of this argument are stupid.

It should be okay for children to go spend time (2 weeks) at others, like friends of parents or distant aunt, whatever. I think we could all benefit from it. I've made peace with zero point zero time and having kept only the coolest side projects among the 3 millions I had. But I also feel like something doesn't carry over well to childless adults here...

I don't think people with kids understood just how much free time they had.

I do, for one, but my time with my kids is better spent, for me. Everyone is different.