[–] [S] 1 point 3 hours ago (1 child)

To me, this smells like "I would if I could".

What I said (and what the original poet is saying) is "I won't, and I can't anyway". That's not the same thing as "I would if I could".

But would you consider it, if you knew you would be a good father?

Fuck no, I don't even like kids.

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  • [–] [S] 1 point 15 hours ago (3 children)

    That's NOT a good reason to transition.

    Don't think that's for anyone to say but them tbh

    there is nothing wrong about talking to a therapist.

    Absolutely. I'm in therapy myself. That said, even someone who's fully processed their trauma in therapy isn't necessarily willing to have kids and potentially inflict that trauma on them. I know for a fact that no matter how much healing I do, I'd be a terrible father because I've gone through far too much to ever consider dragging a kid into the world and exposing them even in the slightest to the shit I was put through. The fact that she's able to express these emotions so clearly and concisely speaks to the fact that she's very likely processed all of this already and come to a conclusion

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  • [–] [S] 6 points 22 hours ago (5 children)

    A lot of people are childfree because they have severe generational trauma that they're afraid they'll inflict on their potential kids and therefore be terrible parents. That's as good a reason to be childfree as any.

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