Why wasn’t the family just escorted off the plane? Canceling the whole flight seems excessive.
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That's not a children problem. That's a parents problem.
I think if I had done something like that and refused to listen I might have ended up with all 4 limbs broken. That's probably not the best way to deal with the situation either, but surely there's some level of middle ground.
"Are you sitting down or am I putting you in your seat? If you don't choose, I will put you in your seat".
Follow through in 5 seconds, problem fixed. The kid might cry, but oh well. No need to be rough or scream.
My father would have literally sat on me. I know this because he did it. Several times.
If I had behaved like that, my parents would have kicked me out of the plane without a parachute. And if I survived that, I could walk home bare foot in the snow. And my room had better be cleaned when they got home.
i swear sometimes you can just 'see' through their behaviour the adults who were never disciplined at all and were allowed to do everything with abandon. Everything - including completely cancelling a flight of 150 passengers and being told its not their fault when it clearly was....
Every time I did something like this my parents ensured that I 'eventually obeyed' . And YES they did go overboard most of the time in most of these situations cause they are not the best of parents , sadly. But you have to find the middle ground when youre dealing with children in situatiins like these. Tell the kid:
"You enjoy when we fly out to see aunty right?" The kid: "well...yeah." "OK! So you have 3 options. Either stay in your seat and be quiet until the end of the flight, Ill duct tape you to the seat to ensure you dont move anywhere, or Ill take both of us off this flight right now and youll never get to see ANYONE for the next 3 years cause youll be grounded for the next 3 years....Pick Now!"
Theres a notable amount of situations where a child / teen will not learn anything until you or even society forces them to learn something. People get mad when we convict some people to life in prison without parole but there are some so thoroughly-incorrectly-raised adult-children out hrre who you HAVE to give a life sentence cause it would take them no less thsn 100 years to learn the lesson(s) they need to learn.
"Police your chidren...or the world will."
If my offspring is being such a demon that we can't stay on the plane, I guess the trip's cancelled.
Of course since mine is currently a hyperactive 2 year old, we're just not going on any flights any time soon. In a few years if things haven't gotten better, I'll have the lil' demon checked for ADHD as I have it myself, just lucky enough to be inattentive rather than hyperactive myself.
So far I've gotten through all this hell without any physical punishment whatsoever by 1) avoiding situations where said demon spawn has opportunities to be an even bigger demon (hence no flights), 2) being very clear about what "no" and "stop" mean and 3) making good use of a more stern voice when something's wrong, to the point that a stern "no" is met with pouting and acceptance rather than protest most of the time. Also most of the time I do say no, I also explain why something shouldn't be done. It's pretty damn difficult being a single parent of a barely verbal sonic the hedgehog and I'm sure my methods are far from perfect, but I'm just hoping that I get more things right than wrong.
I also think that boy's parents have no excuse. I've gotten my kid to behave fairly well compared to a year ago, I'm still not going on a plane any time soon. That boy is at least a few years older. You know your kid's personality by that time for sure. If you know it's going to be hell, then just don't fly with him unless it's an absolute necessity (which it rarely is).
Some people just don't discipline their kids at all. All 3 of my friends kids were fucking monsters until they got to be like 11 or 12. Anytime they were told no it would turn into an immediate tantrum until they folded and gave the kid at least part of what they wanted. I never saw them without their parents around but I heard their grandparents make comments about how they didn't act like that when they had them because it didn't work. Their mother also would get pissed off if anyone else told them to stop doing something bad or declined to give them something they wanted "because they're autistic" which as far as I know they were never diagnosed and I never saw any other signs of.
I also have a severe adhd kid, and yeah. The moment he made a fuss I couldnt control, we'd have been off that plane.
Seriously, just toss the little shit into the seat and buckle them up. Why is this so difficult for some parents to do? Kids weigh next to nothing; just pick them up and force them to comply.
Edit: Downvoted by two six seven bad parents who are afraid to control their children. You're the adult; you're in charge. Act like it.
Family couldn't sit him down, put the seatbelt on, and hold his hands on an armrest so he can't un-buckle? Must be one strong kid.
Or, the more likely explanation, the parents are permissive shits who think they should never make little timmy uncomfortable
In the end, there are some pretty large questions:
- How much did this cost (presumably) the airline?
- Who pays?
- Are the culprits (mother & son) on a no-fly list now?
If the answer to # 2 is us through elevated ticket prices then it's a problem. It either takes a village to raise a child and pay for their mistakes therefore societal norms are individually enforceable, or, it is exclusively the parents responsibility to raise the child and pay for the mistakes. It must be one or the other, there is no in-between.
If the parents weren't a couple of shitbirds, that wouldn't have happened. Not everyone should have kids, even those already with them.
I don't hate children. I hate parents that would rather ruin travel plans for 150 other people than enforce rules for their precious golden boy...
"Join us"?
People do start out not having kids, so to "join us" would mean........ they have kids AND GET RID OF THEM. (ಠ_ಠ)
I have a vivid memory of a parental figure placing a hand on the back of my neck and like pinching the fingers super hard when I was doing dumb shit. Is that not a thing anymore?
Child abuse? No typically it’s advised against.
Sure, we know what not to do, but do we also know what we should do instead then? Sometimes you need kids to comply within a certain time frame and that's going to require some pressure one way or the other and no, it's not going to scar them for life
It is a parenting issue, not a child issue. You don’t harm a child just because you’re pressed for time. You learn how to communicate the urgency, you learn how to distract, you teach them about action and consequence. This kids parents apparently were not having a good day and to a certain degree I empathize with them, but they shouldn’t have been in that situation to begin with if they just worked with their kid.
You talk to them. You tell them what's going down. You give them details. Children are not animals. They can listen, understand, speak, hold a conversation. If you need them to do something specific, in a certain time frame, for a certain reason, you tell them.
I feel like people underestimate the mental faculties of kids all the time. If you treat them with respect and just talk to them, you usually don't have to resort to abuse tactics.
"Just talking to them" doesn't always work (e.g. toddlers, children with pathological demand avoidance, etc), but I agree that abuse is still never the answer.
Sure, no solution is perfect and there's exceptions to every rule.
But the original question is "what options do I have aside from abusing my kid?", and while "just talk to them" is an oversimplified answer, I feel it's an appropriate response to such a thickheaded question.
Adults don't always understand. Sometimes force is actually required.
EXACTLY.
What are they talking about? There are fully grown adults who act like this and the only way some of thesr adults ever complied to anything was when you forced them to comply.
...So youre telling me that ALL kids are smarter than these types of adults? Pft!
Kids are smart. But they don't always have the same thought process as adults. There have to be consequences for actions. And a stern talking to just isn't going to cut it for a lot of kids.
Punishments like spanking give an immediate reinforcement and I wouldn't consider that abuse.
Different situations require different ways to handle kids. On an airplane where the kid won't sit still, I would certainly consider something immediate that doesn't need a lengthy explanation.
Usually yes, and I will acknowledge that skipping this step is showing laziness or incompetence, but I don't think children are already reasonable, especially when they're tired (this happened late in the evening) and already committed to throwing a tantrum. And in this case the whole situation might have been already stressful for the parents anyway, which doesn't help. Probably they should have talked about it more way before they entered the plane, and prepared the kid for what was going to happen. And maybe they did. But the situation then being what it is I think options can be very limited, and there probably wasn't much time to try reasoning with the kid
That child totally alpha'd everyone hard. He got his way and 150 losers didn't. Future president.
It's times like this where it should be legal to just straight up punch the parents.
Another appropriate time is At a brewery where the kids grab 4 board games, dump them over a table trying to play then abandoning them so they can run up and down the corn hole boards while throwing the bags at each other
Alright guys we remind this kid when they're 18 of what they did. They'll probably cringe to death
Whenever there are enough events of delinquent behaviors from any groups, which events would leed to collapse of a society, it always creates a social reaction that leads to social change.
Many times before, for instance, actions and movements against the abuse of alcohol, social changes of historic proportions did and will happen.
Before being ready for education, children have to be raised above animal level. This, it appears, is not well pondered or understood in many modern decadent societies.
They can't just kick that family off? If I was another passenger I'd have a vendetta against that kid's parents.
tldr: they did, by the time the family and their luggage was removed the runway had closed for the night.
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I could see my autistic son doing this, but I'd get off the plane if that happened
I'm sorry, but if you can't control your kid to that level, you're doing children wrong
On the one hand, the eventual slap on the butt (Now supposedly prohibited world wide?) never hurt anyone and does wonders
On the other hand, if you have, say, a severely autistic child with special needs that sometimes just behaves like this, then I feel for you, my brother was, is like that, but I also do expect you to find ways to make it work somehow before you get into an airplane
On the one hand, the eventual slap on the butt (Now supposedly prohibited world wide?) never hurt anyone and does wonders
My PTSD and multiple other mental health problems say otherwise.
"join us" wierdos.
Not the kids fault, the parents should have stepped off the flight when the problem arised.
It doesn't sound like the parent is the reason why the whole plane had to disembark.
My guess is that the airline doesn't have a process that allows them to fetch just one passenger's luggage from the plane - that they have to unload all of it, find the bag, and reload. And that the airline requires the flight to be cancelled to accomplish that - probably because of the time involved.
Clusterfuck all around.
why did the parents not just leave the child behind? I'm sure once he saw them boarding the plane without him and the fear of being alone so far from home would have been enough to scare the child into compliance.
as a parent the most powerful tool to teach is deceit. "if you don't stop this scary thing will happen that you won't like". fear is a wonderful motivator.
as a parent the most powerful tool to teach is deceit. "if you don't stop this scary thing will happen that you won't like". fear is a wonderful motivator.
if you don't stop this behavior the air Marshall will come and shoot us in the head. do you want us to die because you refuse to sit quietly and wear your seatbelt like a good child?
not only does it incorporate fear, but guilt as well!
I love children. I like the shenanigans like this. I don't like how we do parenting and not allowing the crew to strap this brat
The kid was a brat, but strapping him forcefully would have resulted in a hysterical kid for the duration of the flight, making it everyone's problem still.
Removing the kid and parents was the right move, just sucks the parents sucked so much.
Agree. I think the family should be put on a no fly list for a few years after that. Clearly kid isn't ready to fly and parents don't know how to parent properly.
A few 20 hour road trips together stuck in the car thinking about how they aren't allowed to fly because of their shit parenting decisions aught to clear that up.
“I love kids”
“We should belt children”
Coming out with that in the same breath is wild. Please don’t have kids.

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