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Justin Ling: I’ve studied the ‘incel’ culture that fuelled the Montreal shooting and solutions are hard to find (www.thestar.com)
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[–] 5 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Its really tough if you're an attractive girl and can't get any friends. I am a guy but I haven't dated in more than a decade. Also I am a huge voluntary loner. Not an incel or a freak, but it would still feel strange for me if and when I go out on a date, and while I am not a virgin (far from it) if I get it on with another girl after all this time I might as well be.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago* (1 child)

    I'll admit it's not hard for me to get a date since, well, I'm the product dating apps are selling. But it's genuinely hard to meet like... friend friends. Lots of guys who wanna bang and thats fine, but none that I'd wanna play D&D or HD2 with. And no women, even on the "meet platonic friends" apps they just serve men. Honestly, its getting pretty disgusting how they commodify their userbase in a way that reinforces the exact kind of social isolation that fuels the problems with society that spawns incel culture, all to extract "premium memberships" with the promise of oneday going on dates with women who are never even given an opportunity to know they exist.

    ... I'm ranting but I genuinely just hate this shit.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago*

    That's fine. For me I would want to meet girls for a relationship. I really am not looking for quickies and the times when I said I was I was probably lying to myself in times past.

    But one thing for me is I refuse to use dating apps or online dating. I did have bad experiences with them ever since I first used them many years ago. I am also someone who is described as terminally online spend most of my time in front of a computer. I am sick of it, I am sick of 'long distance' and 'remote' relationships. I want to meet people face-to-face. It is possible, always hard I know, but I really would rather meet someone directly than indirectly.

    Edit: And it sucks that you can't even meet platonic female friends online. That is some bullshit right there.

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