So often the real thing is other men don't know how objectifying and creepy their womanizing friends are, because they aren’t the target. They don't see the behavior, often because they don't want to, so its easy to ignore.

That was the perfect question to clarify the divide between okay or not, I can’t recall if they were unsolicited or not with certainty. I’m pretty sure they were not because I would’ve been upset and confronted him and I would probably remember the tension of the moment.

I’m almost sure these were people he initiated conversation with already, with a, “damn girl you look good” type of thing.