Maybe i am wording it wrong. I did make the comment half joking but my current understanding of how magnetism really works, which my physics teacher was unable to answer has a chapter on wikipedia called Quantum-mechanical origin of magnetism
I have no degrees in this stuff though, i just think about them recreationally.
The carrier particle thing to describe a fundamental force is new to me, and honestly feels very counterintuitive to how i started to understand things.