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[–] 122 points 1 year ago (38 children)

Plant growing is gendered now?

All the cishet men I’ve known who have had gardens grew all kinds of stuff, from fruits and vegetables to culinary herbs and flowers.

Maybe I’m in a bubble but damn I feel sorry for the dudes in the OP.

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  • [–] 40 points 1 year ago (22 children)

    Yeah this is weirdly sexist. I only know one person this describes because he's growing weed (legally) in an apartment so he can't have a outdoor garden

    Hell, I know over a dozen men with gardens and only two even grow peppers. Everyone grows tomatoes, though..

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  • [–] 14 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    Fresh tomatoes out of your own greenhouse are amazing, that's why

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  • [–] 13 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    My old coworker told me he had only ever eaten the transparent slices of flavorlessness fast food restaurants call tomatoes until he moved from the slums to a rural town and had a fresh one. It blew his mind so much he went on to spend 15 years as a chef.

    My dad's been growing tomatoes my whole life so I've been spoiled

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    I grew up somewhat poor, small town with no fast food, post-soviet nation. We had a garden and a greenhouse. I was a teen when I found out how flavourless tomatoes can be. Because we'd always grown our own and didn't use them as much in the winter when they needed to be bought from the store lol

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (15 children)

    Hornworms and squirrells always wreck my tomatoes:(

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  • [–] 5 points 1 year ago (6 children)

    I have a raised bed and just hang a loose net around the whole thing so the squirrels can't get in. Otherwise those little buggers will take one bite out of each tomato and leave the rest for me to clean up.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (5 children)

    It's not immediately clear to me how this deters such pests.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    The netting isn't big enough for squirrels to get through. It's draped down from the trellising, and pinned down to the ground. There's no way for the squirrels to get in unless they climb up and over, and they don't seem to be able to figure that out.

    Not sure what to do about the horn worms though.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Oh, so there are also trellises of some sort. What else is there? It's also still it quite clear how this is configured - are these frustra surrounding each plant? Because that sounds like a lot of work for each tomato.

    As for hornworms, best we've found is a daily sweep with a jar of soapy water for ritual executions.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Fucking stink bugs! My plants got a little out of hand this year and I had to pluck stink bugs off them every day. Still 60+ lbs of tomatoes tho

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  • [–] 1 point 1 year ago (2 children)

    Bro how big is your fuckin' garden

    Also may I have some tomat plz

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  • [–] 2 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    Do what my dad does and plant like 40 of em, they can't eat them all!

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  • [–] 16 points 1 year ago (5 children)

    Seriously. Who could talk shit on local wildflowers? I'm feeding bees up in this B.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago (4 children)

    I'm encouraging wild flowers to grow in between my berry bushes.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    Nice. I just threw down some plugs and watched em go

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  • [–] 15 points 1 year ago* (5 children)

    yes. everything is gendered for gender warriors.

    i'm cishet and i have a garden and most women i date think it means I'm secretly gay. the cat doesn't help.

    gardening is considered feminine, or for old people. not for younger men who are supposed to be virile and dominant. they should be hunting.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 year ago

    That’s wild, I’m sorry you gotta deal with that.

    Survival skills + demonstrated empathy/care with other living beings are positives for any person. Hopefully you find someone who appreciates that. /gen

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  • [–] 4 points 1 year ago*

    Sure, but the OP doesn't say "gender warriors", it says "Western man", which includes a whole lot more people than the tiny minority of those bigots.

    Sorry that you live in a bubble of bigots, but it is not a general or universal experience.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 year ago

    Same, I don't know any dudes into gardening that care about that shit. One of them does grow peppers, but it's because he likes peppers, not because he's worried growing other stuff (which he also does) will make him look like a pussy.

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  • I grow several varieties of peppers from sweet bells to habaneros, tomatoes, okra, cucumbers, and mint, plus a few odds and ends that look cool at the garden center. I tend to grow plants that either produce more per dollar to grow than I can get at the store, or in the case of tomatoes, of better quality. And mint is eternal.

    I also harvest beautyberries that have sprung up wild on my property, and have recently learned that the big weird thing looming over my wood shop is a black walnut tree, so I think I'm gonna go nuts next summer.

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