I've worked 2nd (afternoon), swing (evening), and 3rd (overnight) shifts for the majority of my life. I recently moved into a training position where I'm Monday through Friday, 8am to ~5:30pm (I get OT while I'm cleaning up and writing reports).

As much as the 2nd/swing/3rd shifts screw with your life in other ways, the difficulty in scheduling any kind of life services outside of working hours is maddening. Doctor's appointment? Nope. DMV? Maybe Saturday, if you're lucky. Chaperone your kids field trip? Hahahhah no.

I don't want to burn sick time for a doctor's appointment (I need to save those for when my kid is actually sick), and I sure as hell don't want to use up a "vacation" day for it. How tf are you supposed to get anything done?

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[–] 67 points 5 months ago (5 children)

Jobs paid enough so one person could stay home is how it worked. Growing up, dad made all the money and mom stayed home to do chores and whatnot. It’s just how things worked. These days mom’s living off of dad’s retirement fund since he died early and she’s always surprised when I have to ask her for money even though its her generation that made the world what it is. Even when I am able to find work my wife and I are check to check. It’s stupid.

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago

    Jobs paid enough so one person could stay home is how it worked

    That's a fantasy. In the 1800s and before there was so much at-home work to be done that it was a full time job for someone (virtually always the wife). She had to do the baking, cooking, mending clothes, cleaning, etc. all without any electrical appliances. That included no refrigerator or freezer, so shopping had to be done a lot more often. There were also no cars, so people either had to walk to do their shopping, or they used a horse. But, if they used a horse, then there was extra work related to keeping the horse alive and in good shape. Clothes were also a lot more expensive, so a lot more time was spent either making clothes at home and mending clothes that had holes, worn spots, etc. It wasn't "to do chores and whatnot", it was a full-time job involving more work than a typical a typical job from modern days.

    Then there was WWI, then the "roaring 20s", which is when electrical appliances first started appearing, and then the stock market crashed and the great depression hit. During the great depression, if either the wife or the husband could find work, they were lucky, and probably had to support the whole family. During the great depression, a lot of worker protections were put in place through the New Deal. But, the jobs weren't there.

    Then WWII hit, and for a while the US was manufacturing things for the rest of the world without being in the war itself. That helped the economy get going again. When the US joined the war, the economy was really going, but there was rationing in place so the workers who were earning money weren't able to spend it. When the war ended, the US was in an incredibly strong position. Workers had savings to spend once rationing was removed. Every other country had had its industrial base smashed by the war. As a result, the US manufacturing was in high demand all over the world. For contrast, even though the UK was also one of the "winners" of WWII, rationing was in place until 1954.

    So, high demand for industrial workers, worker protections left over from the New Deal era, labour-saving electrical appliances being available for the first time, cars everywhere... it was a unique set of circumstances that meant for maybe the first time in history a man could work a blue collar job and have a wife who stayed at home and just did "chores and whatnot". That lasted a few decades. People blame Reagan for a lot of it, but really by the time he was elected that golden period for blue collar workers was already ending.

    Also, keep in mind that strong protections for workers didn't just happen. The government didn't just decide that it would be nice to workers. Workers had to fight hard for those rights. The 8 hour day is the result of fights that were very violent. Bombs were thrown at cops. Supposed ringleaders were hanged by the government after show trials. FDR pushed for laws to protect workers because the alternative was rioting. If today's workers want to share in the wealth, they need to riot, they need to be prepared to die. Nothing's going to change if it's just complaining that "this isn't how it should be".

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  • [–] [S] 9 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Eh, except that was only ever true above a certain income level. There has always been a portion of the working class excluded from those perks.

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  • [–] 12 points 5 months ago

    I think the point is that the income level that could afford a stay at home parent used to be way lower than it is today. My parents bought a house in the hood in the 90s for around $100k in their 20s, got by with 3 kids on a single blue collar salary of less than $40k in the 2000s (like ~$70k today), and are doing great financially today. The oldest of us with no kids struggled to buy any home on a double income in specialized skills with degrees. We grew up qualifying for state benefits and pell grants and somehow us kids who are technically "middle class" are doing so much more for less.

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    You're not supposed to do anything other than generate value. Society doesn't care about your DMV needs. Just work and consume.

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  • [+] 31 points 5 months ago (10 children)
  • [–] 34 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    4-day work weeks are great, especially if you have a significant commute, because you're cutting 20% of that right out. the adding 2 hours to every work day, not so much; but the longer hours can mean that traffic is a bit lighter. the guaranteed week day off is huge when you have 'stuff' to do.

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  • [–] 22 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    The people who still had to commute places during that time also learned commuting is not stressful at all when theres barely any people commuting

    Almost like theres just too many people expected to commute to work, all at the same damn times

    Almost like if there was someway to offset start times and keep as many people WFH as possible, our lives would be 20x better

    But no. Fuck you. You show up at the same time as the rest of the city, and you make profits for the overlords just like everyone else, fuck your life and happiness

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    A few months ago there was a major leadership change at my job. The guy who was 50% of the interviewers who recommended hiring me is now second from the top and my direct manager (I'm not third from the top, my company's hierarchy is confusing).

    Suddenly, after most of a decade of it never once being a problem, I have been forced from my 4x10 schedule into a standard 5x8. I fucking hate it.

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  • [–] 3 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I thought you were saying that the other way around, and was hoping to hear why you like 5x8 more

    because yeah, I like 4x10 more. actually, I like having the flexibility to do either one based on how I feel that week and the needs of the company. I like knowing that I can get my 40 hours in and fuck off whenever I want Thursday afternoon for a 3-day weekend, or I can bleed into Friday as much as I want if there are meetings that need to have happen or other work I want to get done by end of week.

    I get that some people would prefer 5x8 because they have before or after work obligations, but that's not me so I would rather have a proper weekend.

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  • [–] 58 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    Where I work, they don't really give a shit if you have to go to an appointment or whatever. You just let people know you're going to be out at such and such time and that's it. No micromanaging of time since we're all adults and know what our deadlines and deliverables are. It's a salaried position, though.

    If I had no flexibility at all that would definitely be pretty miserable.

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  • [–] 21 points 5 months ago

    I come from a decade of high flexibility and autonomy. I now have a boss who basically breathes down my neck until the moment i need help, then is a ghost.

    The "you have to be sitting at your desk the whole day, every day" thing is fucking insane. I can't believe how much I dislike this job because of it

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago

    Same, brother. After working at a job that really doesn't want you to randomly be absent by any reason to a job where you can come and leave any time as long as you got 40h a week - that is life changing.

    Unfortunately, not all jobs can be like this. My previous job, just because of it's nature, would never allow this freedom.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago

    Yes exactly. And all of those appointments are even considerd work time.

    In our company we also get a splndid lunch for €5 every day. I honestly can't complain about my work life balance with this much planinf freedom.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    Same here, middle of the road salary but as long as I can stand on business in meetings people generally dont care. The difference is I'll finish early to collect the kids and then do an hour or two when they are in bed.

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  • [–] 51 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Nice office jobs you can slip out for doctors appointments, but you kinda sorta still have to make up some of the time.

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  • [–] 11 points 5 months ago

    Yeah, this. You schedule of days or you ask your boss if it's cool if you come in at 10 so you can get a new glasses prescription.

    It depends a lot on the work culture where you are.

    This is also a big reason people get married. It helps a lot if you have two people juggling this stuff.

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  • [–] 37 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    I think there was a time, maybe a few decades ago, when it was entirely acceptable and expected for a full time employee to say "I'm taking off early today, I've got a few errands to run." from time to time. I'm very lucky to be able to do that, but it sounds like it's getting less common.

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    This is exactly why I've stayed working for the same company for the last 6 years. I could definitely go elsewhere and get paid more (job hopping for higher salary is pretty common in my field), but I seriously doubt they'd be as cool with my senior dog's frequent vet appointments.

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  • [–] 99 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    that's the point. the capitalists want every minute of your life they can get to work for them, then make you scramble to fit the rest of your life in the gaps. they make more profit and you have less time and energy to educate yourself, think, and organize

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  • [–] 15 points 5 months ago

    That's why we need strong communities, solidarity and mutual aid. Get the burden off of individual shoulders and make space to organize.
    It's as easy as asking your neighbours if you wanna take turns cooking dinner for each other or something like that so you have an hour to spare.

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  • [–] 34 points 5 months ago (4 children)

    Honestly? It's hard. I'd literally kill for a 4 day work week. It's become ridiculous.

    My gf and I don't even have kids. I can't even imagine having kids to manage on top.

    My weekends I barely have time to socialize or engage in my hobbies or leisure. When I do, my weekend chores overflow on my Monday evening. I'm tired all the fucking time.

    It feels like a god damn cage.

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  • [–] 12 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Whenever I get a 3-day weekend, it feels like that's how a normal weekend should be.

    When I get a 4-day weekend, it feels luxurious.

    Those 4-day work weeks are nearly as productive as the 5-day work weeks. Those 3-day work weeks are tight. But I could make it work if I really had to! Lmao

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  • [–] 4 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I tried out a 4x10 work week for a while and it was alright, but not as great as I thought it would be. Mostly because I had effectively no time during the work week to get any household chores done, so we ended up just cramming everything into the weekend anyway, largely negating the purpose of having the extra day.

    But yeah, if I could do a 32 hour work week that would be incredible.

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  • [–] 30 points 5 months ago

    Thats the neat part, we dont.

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  • [–] 30 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    That's the neat part. You don't.

    Okay but really, you have to take time off.

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  • [–] 5 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    Also depends on the country you're in. In my case "sick leave" doesn't have a limit. If you're sick or you need to take care of someone who is, you just don't work. There's no day limit.

    Also, if you need to go to a bank appointment or something like that, most places will either not even ask you to "recover" those hours or (at worst) you'll just work an extra hour a few days.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    In addition to what you've mentioned, in my country if you have a government job doctor appointments count as work. And works days are 7.75 hours a day in winter and 7 in summer, including lunch.

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  • [–] 27 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    I had a boss tell us we should forget about work-life balance.

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  • [–] 25 points 5 months ago (6 children)

    Burn PTO. Already get up at 6 to get the kids off to school, straight to work, straight to dinner, pick one chore until i pass out, get up at 6

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago* (4 children)

    If you have PTO. Contractors do not. Finding full time employment these days is hard. Finding full-time contracts is a lot easier.

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  • [–] [S] 4 points 5 months ago

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  • [–] 24 points 5 months ago

    How tf do people who work 8-5 M-F get any life done?

    Ha ha. Ahhhh ...

    sob

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  • [–] 23 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    When I tell people I work 3 days, 12 hour shifts. They say something like "That's way too long I could never do that."
    They don't think about the fact that I get a 4 day long weekend... EVERY WEEK!
    I could never go back to a 5 day schedule.

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  • [–] 8 points 5 months ago* (2 children)

    I did that for 10 years and it was great indeed, but it was a cushy job though. I reckon I couldn't do manual labour or serious thinking or concentrating for 12 hours a day. Just to say, it's probably not ideal for all professions.

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  • [–] 7 points 5 months ago* (1 child)

    I'm an X-Ray tech at a University hospital with Level 1 trauma. It's a lot of physical work. A few miles a day of walking, pushing x-ray plates under patients, moving patients to and from the table. It's also cognitive work, problem solving. Deciding what order to do exams in. Coming up with a way to get the image when the patient can't move properly. Is this exam even right? Does it make sense? Do we need extra images due to a fracture, or fewer images because the patient says only this part hurts, not the whole arm that was ordered?

    I can say to everyone, any job you can do for 8 hours, you can do 50% longer. It's surprising.

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago

    Sadly, it's been shown that in general, cognitive performance takes a nosedive after hour 8 of mentally straining work. Of course not everyone is the same, but the long hours especially in the medical field (where everyone involved should know better) should be reduced and allow for a level of rest appropriate to the potential cost of mistakes.

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  • [–] 22 points 5 months ago

    It doesn't work for anyone. People use up their vacation days.

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  • [–] 21 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

    I haven't got a fucking clue. I always hated normal jobs, but I do enjoy having both food and shelter (how decadent of me, I know), so I did what I could to scrape by. And what I "could" usually translated to "could find".

    Then my proper career started in 2008, and it was an offshore rotation. Give weeks offshore in various corners of the world, followed by five weeks at home. It paid well, and I got to see the world. I worked my ass off for five weeks straight, 12 hour shifts every day, and when I was home I was free ro do whatever.

    Then came 2011: The company wasn't doing too well, and I had contracted a family. I wanted to spend more time at home, and while I wasn't completely prepared to change careers just yet, I was mentally toying with the idea.

    In spring 2012 I decided it was time to find a "normal" job, so I could spend more time with my family. M through F, 0800-1600, mostly at a technical workshop, sometimes at clients' places, and once in a blue moon at an office.

    It. Was. Miserable. But having a normal job was what I was supposed to do, right? Well, the money wasn't bad per se, but it was nowhere near what I used to earn. Plus, when I got home from work I was so exhausted I rarely had energy left over. The family life I was aiming for was severely limited by my stamina.

    In 2019 I concluded that nor.al jobs are for normal people, so I reached out to some old colleagues of mine, and suddenly I found myself in a job interview. Got back offshore, and never regretted my change of heart.

    It's worth noting that I don't really go offshore any.ore, as I have since ended up in a supporting role, where 90% of my job is done via email or VPN, from home, saving up energy for when my kids (now plural) get home.

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  • [–] 20 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    Use up vacation days. Yes, really.

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  • [–] 20 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    I work from home, and I'm paid based on various billable tasks. I work up to three times as fast as they think those tasks should take, and I only really work from 11am-3pm most days.

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    A 9.5 hour work day is insaaane

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    We don't. We come home around 7 and start doing the bare minimum to keep up the household letting daycares and schools raise our kids.

    We clean and cook and pay our bills then we go to sleep irritated and tired and sick of the rat race.

    We have sex once or twice a month and go to fucking florida once a year. That's it.

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago

    As someone who had to take tomorrow off to visit the vehicle inspection place, I'm getting a kick...

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  • [–] 19 points 5 months ago

    I am sorry you don’t want to burn up sick time or PTO… you have no choice, or find a care giver that works on weekends.

    It really sucks.

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  • [–] 18 points 5 months ago

    Privileged to have flexible time, WFH, paid OT.

    Trusted professional career where as long as you get the work done, then if you start later, have a longer lunch or finish earlier every now and then no one bats an eye.

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  • [–] 18 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    You don't. That's why I am only working 4 days a week (with respectively reduced pay). But it's worth it, I much rather reduce the money I have available for my free time, but have a much more relaxed work week.

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    Eh that makes it a complete solution, but there's a lot of daily tedium that can be knocked out with a cell phone, and in some cases dipping out to swing by whatever shop/service is viable

    Not that I'm suggesting it's easy or that corpo culture isn't broken. Just my personal best answer

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    what about stuff like cooking, cleaning, laundry? Also in-person appointments like doctor, dentist, vets (if you have pets), car maintenance, etc? Banking and scheduling these appts you can do completely remotely but everything else requires being in-person

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  • [–] 2 points 5 months ago*

    Cooking, cleaning, etc has always been on people's own time. For appointments and errands they try to use their lunch hour or request off-time, go in extra early and leave early, whatever - depends on the job. One of the benefits of most WFH jobs is being able to schedule your own time.

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  • [–] 1 point 5 months ago

    It doesn't take that much longer to cook multiple meals than it does just one. So do that and use your microwave oven.

    Laundry is easy, program your machine to be done just about when you get back from work.

    Cleaning is a non issue if you clean as you go. It should not take a significant amount of your free time. A robovacuum helps.

    We live in a world of automation. Use it to make your life better.

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  • [–] 16 points 5 months ago (2 children)

    I hate it.

    Luckily I work a 4x10 right now. But I'm sure somebody somewhere in my company's management has noticed I am just slightly less miserable than I could be.

    I would legitimately work a 2x20 if I could.

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  • [–] [S] 7 points 5 months ago (1 child)

    2x20 sounds like a recipe for disaster, but I know 3x12 / paid for 40 is pretty common in a lot of fields.

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  • [–] 6 points 5 months ago

    I do 3x12s with a floating wednesday for the long weeks to hit 80 hours for the pay cycle. The only reason im not a basket case is that one of those days is a weekend and there is noone around to break anything. Thankfully the shift-dif and easy OT have not been ratcheted back. Otherwise im leaving at 80 and they can deal with the fallout.

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  • [–] 16 points 5 months ago*

    Sometimes it’s using PTO or sick time (normally I’ve been able to take the time in 2 hour blocks), sometimes I’ve just been able to arrange with my supervisor for an extended lunch break, or just taking an unpaid break during the day and making up the hours later in the day or the week so that I’m not hitting my income or not completing my work.

    Also, there’s reasons dentist offices often open early, or work on the weekends. Other necessary services like that may offer extended hours on certain days of the week.

    EDIT: And things like chaperoning the kid’s field trip? Yeah, you’ll just have to use PTO or not do it. There’s a reason schools usually don’t have many parents volunteer for field trips; most parents can’t get the time off work.

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  • [–] 32 points 5 months ago (5 children)

    The concept of burning vacation / sick time for a doctor's appointment is weird to me (canada). I just say "hey boss, doc appointment this day" and he says "okay".

    I feel like it depends on the company here, but I don't think I'd stay long if they made me use my time off for that.

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  • [–] 17 points 5 months ago (3 children)

    Same thing here in Europe. You can then get a special permit from the doctor to show your employer that you were actually at a medical appointment and not smoking weed

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  • [–] 9 points 5 months ago

    In United States of Shit, you can get a doctor's note to show employers. Most times I'll make an appointment and get the date on a doctors card and show my manager. All unpaid of course

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  • [–] 3 points 5 months ago

    The concept of burning vacation / sick time for a doctor’s appointment is weird to me (canada). I just say “hey boss, doc appointment this day” and he says “okay”.

    Look, I get that you live in a civilized country, but stop gloating.

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  • [–] 15 points 5 months ago

    Doctor's appointments are considered as showing up to work in my country so people don't go undiagnosed for years before it gets worse. Anyways I don't have a life as well. I just do things that are possible to do in the evening (gym, studying, meeting friends). Weekends are for errands. Fuck life

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