Thanks!

What you need is a Friend With Benefits, a Fuck Buddy. No serious relationship, but also not a stranger.

Aroo indeed.

For me I did things that were physically active. I might just be weird but I think since we evolved to be hunter gatherers our bodies probably equate most physical exercise to libido on some level. Like, if you run really hard and use your hand-eye coordination then Grug will let you smash.

I've heard creatives describe their work as libidinous too though, but in more abstract ways like using art to capture the sensuality of something like the ocean. I can't attest to that personally but I definitely can feel it in music composition.

Do something physical to distract yourself, like go to the gym, or play a musical instrument, or write a book, etc. anything that draws your mind into something else. Back in the 80s, my Dad quit smoking with a Rubik's Cube, picking it up whenever he had a craving.

Picking up a musical instrument, working on a book chapter, studying a language, etc., all require deep focus and concentration, and will push the temptations from your mind.

Arnold Schwarzenegger compares going to the gym with sex: "It's like I'm coming day and night!"

Learn to play the flute?

I think it comes down to finding the specific activities that allow you actually channel this, which are likely different between folks.

I mostly hear about it in terms of physical exertion (working really hard at the gym, sporting particularly hard, whatever) or artistic expression. Dunno that cleaning your house does it for most people (though it might for some, particularly if you go hard and fast enough that it meets the physical exertion criteria).

Trying to find stuff like that for myself - not because there's anything wrong with a daily jork, but because a weekly to bi-weekly jork is fucking awesome.

To each their own, quite certainly.

I focus more on being regular than being highly productive, to be honest so what follows may not apply to everyone. I consider writing a good page every single day of the year, all year long without exception, will get me a lot farther than, say, writing a chunk of those pages here and there when I feel like it or when I have a bon... furious desire to write them (I seldom have any 'furious' anything regarding writing or anything creative, but I have the habit of doing it every day). That single daily page, most of the time, will also require a lot less editing afterward (not even mentioning the dreaded complete rewrite when they're complete garbage)—lazy-me talking, here.

What I wanted to say was that this energy trapped in (sexual) frustration one can learn to use it, but this really needs to be learned as it won't happen out of the blue, as a a real fuel tank/battery one can use everyday to do actual (creative) work on the long run. Not to burst out some piece of art in an intense moment of... exaltation ;)