Even the idea of "raising a child by themselves" is variable. Separated parents often collaborate very well in raising children "together".

The term "single mother" (or single father) doesn't even really indicate custody. It's a hangup on not being in committed a relationship.

one of my mother's more unhinged rant topics was women intentionally keeping children away from their fathers as revenge for him breaking up with her and that if they don't have the maturity to get married and stay married then they shouldn't have children etc etc. She also talked mad shit about people who take government assistance to care for their children when my disabled sister has always been on as many benefits as my mother could get approved (she had good reasons though, unlike those lazy "other" people... 🤔)

ime I have seen mothers use their child coercively but it's not usually by keeping them from the father, at least not successfully. It turns out family court actually favors fathers if they bother to pursue custody, which few do without a strong reason, either good or bad. It's usually been women using the children to coerce family, friends, or a new partner into staying by getting them to bond with the child then being able to actually remove the child from them since they have no legal rights to the child. And I think the only reason I haven't seen fathers do it more is because, as stated previously, many don't pursue custody due to either internal or external expectations that childcare is the mother's job.

I've seen single mother used in negative ways, mostly in conjunction with welfare.

Thank you

That's AI.

You wouldn't?

Oh, I thought it was someone making out with an anthropomorphic frog.

You also can't assume why the father is out of the picture. Sometimes, the father could be falsely imprisoned or even passed away.

It's because of fucking Reagan. He's the dipshit who coined the term welfare Queen. Which painted a picture of single mothers that both Republicans and Democrats have held in their minds for the last 40 fucking years.

My first thought too. I mean it is true society has a fucked up stigma about single mothers, but the blame lies with society not the term single mother.

On the flip side you hear single father, and society's immediate response is "aww, that brave man!" That is not to say being a single dad doesn't actually come with its own set of weird societal day to day problems and prejudices, but the broad surface level response to the terms "single dad" vs "single mom" certainly seems to trend towards "what an upstanding man" vs "what an irresponsible ho."

Thank you! Glad to see I'm not the only one in between all these comments praising this nonsense.

I feel like it would be about 5 minutes before someone decides that emphasizing the father's role in the family (ie, absent) and ignoring the mother's role is just another way for the patriarchy to erase women.

You’d think so, but a lot of women are still looked down on for it.

I have heard it. Some people feel better about themselves by looking down on others.

I genuinely don't know anyone that uses it as a pejorative.

That's entirely his fault though.

/S

Politics. That's when. Like I'm happy for you you've never heard it used that way but in politics it is almost always comes with blame attached to it. Particularly the last 40 years.

Since never.

This is not an issue, never has been. This is just people virtue signalling.

Me too

It’s AI slop. Look at the belt buckle.

yeah I thought "single mother" was already a supposedly better replacement for "fatherless", for exactly the reason you stated

Looks like an ostomy bag, oddly enough. Seems oddly specific (a win for diversity?) but that does make me wonder if this is some specific public figure / personality being depicted.

Also the bracelet and rings. There's a lot of fashion happening here.

"mothers of children of absentee fathers"

Deadbeat Dads

Ikr? I had to fight tooth and just so I didn't have to see my son in front of a government official.

Why? Because she was pissed at me for going to my exam during university.

1. Being an anecdotal case with extenuating circumstances does not invalidate the criticism of an overall societal trend.

2. You are not being an absentee father. You are actively trying to be a part of your children's lives. This trend does not describe you.

It is best not to borrow offense when it isn't aimed in your direction. It's better overall for your mental health and allows you to understand better other points of veiw without unnecessarily feeling attacked.

Interesting! I've never heard the male form used except specifically when talking about a male person. I'd guess it's a regional thing again (die/das Nutella anyone?).

But for the single mom/dad I've not heard that as a derogative in daily speech.

For me it makes sense to talk about a situation from the perspective of the people in the situation and not some circumstance.

“Single Mom” has become some kind of slur, understanding that correct?

Honestly it entirely depends on the context. Some see single parents as incredible superheros for how much they manage to balance everything and keep it all stable for their kids who are too young to be left alone. But also some use it as a put down, whether as slut-shaming, part of anti-poor rhetoric or there's the infamous "but where are the fathers?!" racial dogwhistle. Basically single parents are a convenient block of people to paint all sorts of different pictures of to push whatever narrative one might be trying to push

It’s an extra syllable. Sorry if we’re wasting all your precious time with a single mouth sound.

You mean that we can only have a discussion with you if everyone agrees with you?

Because yeah, that's going to be a very short discussion and people like that are better off gone.

If you don't mean that, then what do you mean? If you call anyone with a differing opinion a brigader then you're literally no different (on that subject) than trump and his cronies who do the exact fucking same all day long

I'm just amazed reading comments down here saying that this indeed is a "good cause"..... WHAT CAUSE?! There is no problem here, except for the one you're trying to create. Its the same with homeless, which now we need to call "unhoused" because reasons? I fucking guarantee you that 10-20 years from now, "unhoused" will suddenly be deemed insulting, and we'll again make up new words for it because again, reasons. Can we just keep the words and actually focus on resolving the problem instead of finding prettier words to describe it?

I get that totally, I've been thinking about doing the same thing. I don't want to desert the cause though!

Notice the posts about witch stuff are largely ignored...

Why dont you contact the artist and discussing your your concerns with her?