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Being an anecdotal case with extenuating circumstances does not invalidate the criticism of an overall societal trend.
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You are not being an absentee father. You are actively trying to be a part of your children's lives. This trend does not describe you.
It is best not to borrow offense when it isn't aimed in your direction. It's better overall for your mental health and allows you to understand better other points of veiw without unnecessarily feeling attacked.