I got kind of the opposite of that at the hands of a male doctor. "You can't have Long Covid, only women get it."

But the female doctor I got after that wasn't much better. Third female one is at least taking me seriously.

To have the fun of experiencing what doctors are like when you have a chronic illness play You're Just Imagining It.

I had a female doctor, when told my joints hurt so much I couldn’t use my hands for basic tasks, say to me “Well what do you want ME to do about it??”

I had a female doctor who loved to tell me I was too young to be experiencing the things I was experiencing. Like I had neck pain from an incident at work (which has been ongoing for like 10 years now) and she said "oh young people just look at their phones too much". I also had a reaction to a piercing and she was insistent that the problem was "piercings and tattoos are bad for you", yet when I swapped the ring out for a hypoallergenic one (no thanks to anything she had to say to me), it cleared up extremely quickly.

But anyway, she was at least able to diagnose my PCOS, which a male doctor had prematurely diagnosed as "pregnant" so that was nice.

Women doctors have NEVER given me real pain control for endometriosis pain, even in the ER. After my surgery (which I woke up during and literally it was as painful as the periods I'd been having), I was given 3 days of opiates and then nothing (took 2 months to fully heal, was extremely painful for 2 weeks).

Meanwhile, one male ER doctor DID give me Robaxin one time as a muscle relaxer, and it was AMAZING. It took off that sharp edge of pain. I think he was very concerned about undoing stereotypes of male doctors and women's health. Love him, he is a good guy

That seems strange, although depending on how tall she was weight diffentials get pretty small. Like if you are 5'5 or below the difference between obese and normal is under 25 pounds (small window for overweight) It's only 40 pounds at 6'5. People are always built differently though so it's weird. When I was in my best shape I was always considered overweight according to the BMI chart because I was between 5'10/5'11 and was always around 187 pounds. No doctor would have called me fat at that time because I ran 5-10 miles a day and could dunk a basketball with both hands, I was lean but density was just high. I don't know anything about surgeries but I would figure they have to do with blood pressure and clotting habits maybe? The doctor likely was just an ass, hopefully her hand healed up well. Pain in the ass medical field we have here.

Know why I'm good at tech support? I quickly gauge my audience's level of understanding and speak to it. Once you get a doctor that can do that, hang onto 'em tight!

My doc rarely sees me, but after a minute or two she's dialed in to me personally. Best part? Old lady isn't afraid to give me her "stupid look" when I ask a dumb question. "Yeah, thought that's how it was."

Had a young doc at CVS one day. Once he figured out I wasn't a dumbass redneck, merely a redneck, we had a 45-minute bullshit session where I learned quite a bit. Left me angry that we can't ALL sit down with a professional like that.

anti-science garbage

Got so frustrated taking my ex-wife to doctors for her first pregnancy, seeing all the vaccination posters and being harped on about shots and breastfeeding, finally popped on a nurse:

"Look. We're not retarded. She's breastfeeding as long as possible and hit the kid with whatever vaccines are called for at whatever age. Just do it."

Look on her face was like Will Smith seeing that alien's head grow back. I felt bad, but my frustration that they have to even talk that way! And fuck me, all the talk I hear now days about "evidence based" treatments. "Yeah! That's how medicine works! I got it!"

Right on. Legit complaints are drowned by the "it's not the fat" crowd.

Didn't say it was proper practice, said I understood it.

Exactly this

Regardless of gender, this is where doctors go if you are obese, because most of the time, it's because you are obese.

Then of the patients that insist the obesity has nothing to do with it, some of them are right but the majority of those skeptics are wrong and just won't do the diet and exercise. It's hard if you try to take every one of those doubts seriously at first only to ultimately confirm the initial diagnosis over and over again in the patients they give a benefit of the doubt to.

Body positivity was a warranted reaction to the drive to be underweight, but obesity is too far the other way. Being a touch 'overweight' while also being reasonably active seems to be the sweet spot health wise, but obesity can produce just all sorts of health issues that people don't want to admit are related.

Being fat is a risk factor and a complicating for an alarming number of considering ailments. There's a reason why fat people get hammered at the doctors office about losing weight.

HOWEVER, the obesity epidemic in the US and other Western countries is a result of a fucked-up food system and an urban planning system that encourages a sedentary lifestyle. Like, individuals can choose to be less fat on their own, yes, but we're not going to make progress on this issue as a society unless we agree to change the fundamentals causing the problem.

I had doctors tell me to lose weight and eat more fiber - I was literally hypocalcemic and dying of celiac. They wouldn't address the celiac/conditions I was there for because I was obese (because I was starving from being severely malnourished from vitamin deficiencies due to malabsorption). I was shitting ONCE A MONTH on 10-20 fiber pills a DAY. I had microcytic anemia for years at this point. I had very low blood pressure (nurses ask me if I'm about to pass out). I was sleeping 18-23 hours a day. My normal body temperature was 93-95F (93F is hypothermia fyi), incl an episode on a hot day in the south inside my car in full sun with the heat on and me shivering.

They kept telling me it was weight and needing to eat more fiber and exercise. I was, prior to this, someone who jogged every day and ate healthy btw and a normal BMI.

I ended up getting my own genetic tests and diagnosing myself, later confirmed by a gastroenterologist. They use "you're fat" so they don't have to do their jobs and think further.

Now at a normal BMI, I get simultaneously "You're too young for this," and "you're too old for this," and "You look too healthy for this," and still they do not give a FUCK about my celiac and barely understand it.

To be fair, poor diet can contribute to hair loss.

I was just saying that telling someone to stop eating only liver and kidneys and instead eat something green to cure their gout would likely get you labeled a witch.