No one in the world who would do any of those things has ever worried that he was being creepy in a non-sexual situation. Meanwhile the whole point of the worry that you're being creepy in a non-sexual situation is that stuff you would comfortably say to another man might sound weird to a woman.
I wouldn't do any of those things to Dave, but is it really a test if I also just don't do them ever?
In fact I don't even consider these things "creepy" - they're all WAAAY beyond creepy.
If Dave and I were friends, it would be utterly disrespectful to not do this to Dave.
I mean, the dude just got his bald patch sprayed, came in with all the confidence, who the faq do I think I am to not acknowledge his high!!!
The thing is, it's not being creepy that I'm worried about. I know I'm not being creepy. I care about making people uncomfortable and I don't need to be creepy to make women uncomfortable. I'm a 6ft dude built like a shit brick house who also has acquired a bad habit of walking silently due to years of working nightshift and having roommates. There is no way for me to be anywhere in the vacinity of an otherwise lone woman without her likely being uncomfortable regardless of what I'm doing. I don't like feeling like I'm making someone uncomfortable so I tend to just avoid being around or interacting with women. Not sure what else I can do about it.
Who is that guy with dave
I mean, I know this isn't the point, but I would say all those things to Dave. I'm not even into dudes, but they deserve to be flirted with too. As a straight man, I flirt more aggressively with other straight men than with women.
People have covered the hypothetical Dave well enough, I'm more concerned about the freaky hat-washing author here. Real Americans wear their hats until they are lost or destroyed in industrial accidents, and the only patriotic way to acquire a replacement is free with the purchase of tools or equipment. Mine says "Yamaha" and came with an outboard motor in 1999, waterproofing it with locally sourced skull oil was the work of years
those crossed the border between creepy and sexual harrassment tbh
What's this about washing hats?
I think this post completely mosunderstands that people who are overtly creepy like this are completely aware of it and do it on purpose.
This would be more impactful if it were less creepy. No one does any of those things accidentally.
Yes. Dave is really looking good this week.
Do people regularly wash their baseball caps?
Dave is out there babysitting and spraying in his bald spot feeling confident. I am happy for him, invested even. What else does he get up to? :D
Holy rage bait.
Dangerous game, these would all be hilarious to do to Dave and I'm 1000x more likely to than a woman, he'll probably get a good laugh out of it and we'll carry on, especially in the ones above where Dave and I could plausibly be friends.
But also I would then never get closer than drinking buddies with anyone, because I'm not going to ask Dave out even if he's giving me signals, never going to fall in love with Dave, yadda yadda. At some point it becomes necessary to express romantic interest in people even if I wouldn't express romantic interest in Dave because I don't like him like that.
#1 and #2 definitely. #5 obviously not. I’d stroke his arm and call him hotstuff.
bold of you to assume I have self-esteem
let alone others-esteem
Absolutely 100% would do #1
I am a onion ring slut and want in on the action
This is a true test for some people and also sometimes they vote
I wouldn’t be taking out a loan if I weren’t desperate.
I’d invite Dave up if his ball cap matched the same team I root for. Drinking alone can be boring
This doesn't help.
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