Yeah, I don't think Lemmy is in any way toxic. It's a great place! If you found out (hypothetically) that you were the reason people were being scared away from a platform as awesome as this, I feel like you'd temper your responses. That level of antisocial behaviour is toxic, and worth talking about, even if there's worse out there, and we're not "as bad" as some spaces. Even if we're better, we can still strive to be better still. Evolution or personal growth, shouldn't stagnate or plateau. And your personal growth shouldn't be measured against and only a modicum above the worst out there.

It's not about being better than them. It's about personal growth, bringing people in, building a place where we're all included and inclusivity is a priority, they don't exist in that measure. They (the worst out there) have no relevance against it. We should all be striving to be better versions of ourselves, regardless of what's happening in the world. Learning, growing, being able to rethink your beliefs entirely, that's true wisdom. None of us want to be emotionally immature elders, that's not a good look.

I'm not really referring to the specific topics mentioned, because it'll be something different next week. Don't yuck someone else's yum. You don't have to snuff out their conversation with negativity, you can let it die in obscurity, scroll past, or post about other topics.

I absolutely believe everyone should have exposure to the information behind the evil JK Rowling. Personally I can't engage with those conversations in good faith.

And it's not that you can't say it, it's in how you say it. For instance, your mate Bobbo comes over and he's super excited to tell you about a new thing he's found he's in love with, he doesn't know the controversy around it that you do know about. You wouldn't trounce him. You couldn't look into Bobbos soft excited brown eyes and crush his hopes and dreams, and if you fell for a trap similarly, you would want to be told kindly. You might say, something like "oh man, I'm so sorry to tell you....(insert info here)" that's kindness, and you've still said the thing. Just imagine these people are your naive friend Bobbo and try not to crush his hopes and dreams, let him down easy!

It's so easy to incrementally backslide and become all sharp edges. It needs to be a continually moving machine, so if you're ever on the other side of it, you're brought back in with kindness. Kindness is a fucking power they can't take from us. Those running the corporation machines know squeezing us causes us to be cruel to each other. Kindness in the face of that wish, is rebellion!

Because yeah, we're fucking awesome here! I'm so proud, and grateful to be a part of this place. Let's keep working to build a better version of this place for others and reap the benefits of the better person that helps us, as individuals become, along the way.

Thanks! I use qobuz and have since the ai drone weaponry investing thing. There's so many other things too. I miss those neat info graphics with bad guys / alternatives for everything.

I really want to replace youtube next or at least figure out a fluid way to stream without adds. My grandson uses it and without it to calm him, here and there he can get a bit destructive / distressed.

Yeah! Weird! Almost like they think society has become restrictive and hostile towards them, as a whole. I don't get it /s

Rosie looks very well loved, she's adorable! Holy cow the devil on my shoulder would have me making so many sheep joke references to her during any given day, though. I feel like it's ok to joke with your pets, even at their expense, they don't understand the references, they never get hurt feelings, and they love the attention, and it brings them joy to see you happy and laughing, just don't ask my fluff boulder of a cat what we talk about...

There was someone who was sharing alternative options for the usual, does anyone know where they went, or which sub they post to? I was too unfamiliar with Lemmy to make note of it. I wish you could follow people.

This is the stuff we need to support to take the big evils down.

That's what I see, like a steel grey with ice blue undertones and silver highlights.

Yeah, I could absolutely understand that being super annoying, maybe the answer is to just change the subject or make a post talking about something else to redirect the conversation?

I have kids with autism, they info dump incessantly, if someone is excited to talk about something, it's rare for me to want to silence them and I'm super used to sitting through subjects I'm not really super interested in hearing about for the 2 millionth time, but I can't kill people's joy. I usually try asking questions to redirect to things about it I would like to hear, or ask about something else totally random that's a bit of a brain scratcher.

Gta 6 is big, it's been a long road for a lot of people too, so they might really be struggling and have been hanging out for this. We might just have to let them chat among themselves for a bit, if we don't have anything positive to add.

This is a really good question. With everything that's currently going on, it can be easy to get stuck in fight or flight and be stuck in a doom loop that this is all there is, and ever will be. But that's not how it goes. Already worldwide people are rejecting AI, and it's crashing to the ground. Also worldwide, Right wing politicians are predominantly being voted down into obscurity. People are hacking hardware they own but have been locked out of, to allow free use. This is a created space away from the corporate ownership that plugs us in for battery powered add revenue. We are quietly saying, what do we want, and how can we build it ourselves. I feel like green spaces are going to make a comeback, places to go that don't require spending money, places to gather together and exercise, to spite the predatory gym industry or just enjoy nature. Sharing resources in spite of the finite resources being treated as infinite by corporations, builds spaces to gather and trade. An absolute rejection and demystifying of "needing the new fangled thing", creates workshops for how to build with what you have. And sharing skills. What about bringing back computer rooms to gather together and game or learn. Whatever we imagine we can build, and if all other avenues have been eradicated, we will just build these. Just to shove it back in their faces.

Probably also they've had to speed run emotional maturity for survival sake.

These guys are all such comical level evil. I keep imagining them going home finally being able to dress up like the sith lords they are.

We can absolutely express those views with kindness and inclusivity, too, though. It's all in how you say it. Bring a friend into knowledge with you, rather than berate a stranger for getting it wrong and not knowing. You can say anything with kindness. And kindness comes back at you when you do.