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[–] 120 points 1 month ago (6 children)

The world would be better if a bunch of people could just admit they are into mental BDSM and they are subs

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  • [–] 25 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Right-wing values can be summarized in one word: Hierarchy.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    That also happens to be the literal definition. Surprisingly few people know that the political left and right correspond to equality and hierarchy respectively.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago

    Right and left wing are historical terms stemming from the literal left and right halves of a physical building. If you're not referring to the revolution era french national assembly, you have to accept that since other connotations may have snuck in along the way.

    Even at the time the terms came with complex meanings.

    Boiling it down at any time merely to equality versus hierarchy is only something you'd do if you want to misrepresent people by oversimplification.

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  • [–] 22 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Eh, I think it's oversimplification to attribute it to a single motivation. There are definitely people like OP is describing, but there are also definitely the 'temporarily embarrassed millionaire' types. And honestly I think a damn big percentage is just plain ol' fear of change wrapped in several layers of rationalization.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Another reason: it's really easy for unimaginative people to sound smart with cynicism. They'd rather be superior than be right.

    "Look at that crash! I told you that flying machines can't work."

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago

    Oo yeah, for real. I kind of stumbled upon this in my teens (maybe everyone does), but luckily was able to snap out of it, woke up, and realised I could form flexible informed opinions that define my whole personality

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  • [–] 80 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    As I heard someone else say recently, everything with conservatives is either team sports or cuck porn and it really seems that's true.

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  • [–] 16 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    What I don't understand is why is it the stupidest people getting put on that pedestal.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago

    Stupid and confident is a dangerous combination. Add arrogant, charismatic or attractive, and you get weaponised incompetence.

    Weak people love confidence and will tolerate arrogance. Once a confident person starts observing those around them agreeing, following, defending them, they start to believe their own bullshit, and they learn through reward feedback that if they do anything with confidence and arrogance, even when they are wrong, weaker people will agree with them.

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  • [–] 16 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    Every time I've had an honest, constructive conversation with a conservative, I've found the root of their beliefs is fear, whether they are conscious of it or not.

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  • [–] 15 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    I sort of disagree, it's that they want to feel safe and taken care of. They've made Trump their Jesus, literally. He is their shepherd and will only do well for them.

    That's why the gas and inflation going in the wrong direction after 2 years is fucking with their heads. If he's wrong about one thing, and god can't be wrong, then maybe he isn't a god.

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  • [–] 14 points 1 month ago

    I saw an interview with a lady comparing Trump to megachurch preacher and it made perfect sense. You have these people giving their last dollars to a guy living in a mansion and flying in a private jet because that's what god wants. They are conditioned since childhood to just accept that some people are there to exploit them and their purpose is to be exploited by them. Having leader like Trump makes perfect sense to them. It's just conservative brain doing its usual thing.

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  • [–] 25 points 1 month ago

    It's really true.

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  • Eh, I don't think that is universally true.

    There was an article about one of those "tradwife" influencers who got a divorce recently after realizing that she hated the very idea, but only after she was engulfed in the life.

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  • [–] 22 points 1 month ago (22 children)

    These heirarchies caused or exaserbated just about every major tragedy in history - war, genocide, slavery, rape, empire, colonialism, capitalism, etc.

    But depending on how you look at it, 25-40% of humans just like heirarchies and want them, despite the misery they cause for both the empowered and disempowered.

    That's a huge problem - fascism will likely always have a base of supporters to come back from no matter how many times we defeat it, and you just can't imprison/disenfranchise/exile that high a % of people for a wide variety of obvious reasons.

    I fear this is a "this is who we are as an organism" problem that will follow our species wherever we go.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    I wonder how many people think that their place in society would be a lot lower if it was based on competition, so it is better to preserve the system that keeps them where they are at.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Well, there are people that believe their position would be higher if the 'others' wouldn't have taken that spot.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    That's literally true though? If it's hard to see, take it to the extreme: If you were the only person in a place, you'd be the most important one by default?

    They wouldn't do a good job, but they'd have the job since, you know, there is less competition.

    I did work and travel in USA, and they were paying us peanuts due to some law shenanigans (they had to pay overtime for Americans, not us.) Wouldn't they have to hire a native instead of me if I wasn't allowed to work there?

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago

    Same reasons cults work. They want someone else doing the thinking and leading for them, and surrender responsibility and blame to someone else. It's never their own fault, so they want a system where they don't have to be responsible or feel at fault.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago

    But depending on how you look at it, 25-40% of humans just like heirarchies and want them, despite the misery they cause for both the empowered and disempowered.

    Get them into kink.

    Seriously though, you can have consensual hierarchical structures that provide an outlet for those desires to the degree that they are innate. Is the desire to force everyone in the world to be a part of your hierarchy really part of that innate desire? Or is it more that some people feel more comfortable when they have a clearly defined status?

    And it doesn't have to be confined to kink, for example, in a community for a competitive sport or game, there can be a bit of an implicit social hierarchy based on skill.

    Those kinds of hierarchies are a lot closer to the hierarchies that humans evolved with, applying to an immediate social group, within "Dunbar's number." There was never a long period of time (from an evolutionary standpoint) where state-wide or globe-spanning hierarchies were selected for, so it doesn't really make sense that those would be innate and unavoidable desires.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    The thing is, tree structures are very good ways to scale interconnected systems. Ask any computer scientist or computer networker about it.

    This applies to societal systems as well. A bronze age society that has a feudal structure can manage a much larger area than a flat society. Armies can be coordinated that would be an ineffective mob otherwise.

    That doesn't make hierarchies nice for the people living in them, any more than the industrial revolution was actually nice for the people living through it. But they are an enabling technology, and societies that did not have hierarchy were eventually overwhelmed until almost every living human is living that way.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago*

    For sure it's more effective with entreched heirarchies, bit i think it's possible to use that organisational structure without it metastisizing into a perminant heirarchy. Anarchist federations do this, sortition is useful, turn-taking etc.

    societies that did not have hierarchy

    I don't believe such a thing ever existed. Other mammals display heirarchies so it was probably present in a distant ancestor, predating humans and our societies.

    It's the nature, duration and intensity of heirarchy that has changed so remarkably in the last 15k odd years.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (4 children)

    The desire for hierarchy and order isn't an inherently bad one. A highly authoritarian individual will be the first to volunteer when someone needs to run into a burning building to save someone. They will be the first to volunteer to defend the community. They will also be the people that organize trash pickups, because littering is bad.

    However, they can also be easily weaponized against others. Just like littering is against the natural order of things, and they will go out of their way to pick up litter, they can be convinced that other people are also against the natural order of things....with significantly more horrific outcomes.

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    A highly authoritarian individual will be the first to volunteer when someone needs to run into a burning building to save someone. They will be the first to volunteer to defend the community. They will also be the people that organize trash pickups, because littering is bad.

    I don't think this is necessarily true. A person can just as easily be motivated to do these from a sense of solidarity and mutual responsibility than a desire for hierarchies. (Ursula le Guin's The Dispossessed explores the various aspects of how a society could be built on such principles.)

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago* (2 children)

    hierarchy and order

    I don't believe these two go together, heirarchies tend to be characterised by tension and discord.

    highly authoritarian individual will be the first to volunteer when someone needs to run into a burning building to save someone ... to volunteer ... to organize

    It's actually the exact opposite! The phenomenon of Elite Panic is well established and included in disaster planning.

    During an emergency, most people exhibit "spontaneous self organisation" - bucket lines, food distribution, search parties, etc. Whereas people with authority are much more likely to freak out, to fail to understand that the situation is different, to enforce detrimental rules, to feel threatened, to generally act badly.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago* (1 child)

    huh?

    people with authority

    Oh, you misunderstand. I'm talking about authoritarians. You seem to have done some reading in the past. Do some more. theauthoritarians.org

    The people that form those bucket lines and search parties would, ironically, be more likely to be authoritarian in worldview, and therefore have the greatest psychological need to fix the problem.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    This touches the terrain of leadership and motivation, and I'd argue that authoritarianism is accidental here. Sure, here and there leaders with authoritarian views rise (e.g. Mussolini), but also people who do not believe in it so much (e.g. Che Guevara). There have been studies about the psychology of leaders and motivators, and they seem to be driven by a lot of energy and often certainty at least in some core ideas. There are books like A First-Rate Madness: Uncovering the Links Between Leadership and Mental Illness that go as far as to suggest these traits border the unhealthy in many notorious and strong cases.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago (2 children)

    I'd like to see how you got to "hierarchies = fascism". I also think that the people who want hierarchies are much higher than 25-40%.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child)

    Belief that heirarchies are natural and desirable because some people are better than others is the worldview required to be vulnerable to the lie of fascism, it's the precursor to all supremacist thinking.

    If you look at opinion polling across countries, die-hard support for supremacist candidates hovers around 25-40%. Die hard as in will support those candidates no matter how poorly they're doing. Support levels wax and wane as anxiety goes up and down, or as supremacist candidates tend to be winning or losing, but the core support base for authoritarian ideals routinely comes out around 25-40% across most western countries.

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  • [–] 1 point 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    Belief that heirarchies are natural and desirable because some people are better than others is the worldview required to be vulnerable to the lie of fascism, it’s the precursor to all supremacist thinking.

    It isn't because "some people are better than others", it's because some people are better than others at leading. Leadership is a skill, and it can be learned and practiced just like any other skill. You could say, "Hey, Mary is good at fixing things, let's put her in charge of repairs. Margaret is good at planning projects and organizing people, let's put her in leadership."

    And no, it doesn't imply that the person leading should have total control over everything or that they can't be held accountable.

    If you look at opinion polling across countries, die-hard support for supremacist candidates hovers around 25-40%.

    You said "humans who want hierarchies" and you're equating that with "support for supremacist candidates". Does that mean that if I support a centrist or a left-wing candidate, then I don't want hierarchies? I can tell you, there are certainly not that many anarchists in the world. 60-75% of the population?

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  • [–] 0 points 1 month ago (5 children)

    Definitely.

    It seems that populism/fascism is 'ingrained' in our simple minds. But that begs the question, why do some of us reject it? Random chance, empathy, or education?

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  • [–] 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    I don't think it's ingrained and then rejected, i think it's present in some % of humans because heirarchic organisation is useful in limited, temporary contexts.

    Pirate ships were feircely egalitarian until a target was sighted, then the captain is a dictator until the loot was secure. Some hunter-gatherers had a season of authoritarianism (say, hunting season) in between seasons of different social organisation.

    So like how sickle cell anemia is debilitating but grants near immunity to malaria, heirarchophilia has just enough limited benefits that it remains as a variant within the population.

    Or that's how i think about it.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 child)

    Because I was taught as an American that I should be a rugged individual, which is incompatible with fascism. I also do not really enjoy much sports so this tribalism blah blah just doesn't do it for me. I also don't much like circuses and spectacles; fairs, to me, are just meh.

    And I could probably ignore it when it's benevolent, but it's often malicious like germ warfare.

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  • [–] 11 points 1 month ago

    See also: British people who are weirdly pro-monarchy.

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  • [–] 39 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (7 children)

    Conservatives are naturally a servile people. They desire to be ruled. They want a daddy.

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  • [–] 16 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

    Yeah, they want a pyramid shape to the world.

    They want a single big daddy on top of them, and then an enormous pile of other people below them to be a big daddy to.

    As long as they are not at the bottom of the pile, they're happy.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    They have been told that their sky daddy will actively judge their lives and they will get what sky daddy thinks they deserve. They have been told this so often and in so many ways that they now worship money. Money becomes the way for them to tell how sky daddy judges their lives. Obviously, this means that those who have more money are more beloved by sky daddy and therefore should be listened to and obeyed.

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  • [–] 10 points 1 month ago

    Its a lot of just world fallacy too

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  • [–] 19 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

    Sort of? This is giving way to much logic to an emotional situation. The reason fanboys choose Musk isn't because he has leadership or patriarchal qualities, he just has money which they think is the same thing as being smart. They can project themselves on to him and experience his wealth or veneer of expertise vicariously through a fantasy.

    This still is the relationship men have with patriarchs. It's just obfuscated by the fact that Piss-odor guy isn't competent in the ways associated with rulership

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  • [–] 24 points 1 month ago

    I think your interpretation is still too cerebral. People don't follow money because it's money. Money has become essential to our individual survival, so success with money is essentially conquering the threats to individual survival, and I think that is why people revere him and other billionaires.

    At the end of the day, we're all shit scared of our own end, and we've been tricked into believing that money is our way out of that inevitability. Money is God, so those with lots of money are closer to God, if not a god themselves.

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  • [–] 9 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    No kink shaming the subbies.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    This, but unironically. As a sub who is anti-Trump, it becomes a bit uncomfortable when the conversation turns into "Conservatives are just subs who want to be dominated!" Yeah, okay, maybe there's some truth to that. The problem is that there isn't any safeword I can use on Trump.

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  • [–] 25 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    This is a mistake that many leftists do, thinking that people don't like authoritarianism. A lot of people crave for it

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    In theory, a benevolent dictatorship is a good system, that can cut through a lot of bureaucracy and enact good changes in a timely fashion. The obvious problems are who gets to be dictator and how do you keep the dictatorship benevolent.

    If I could unilaterally make somebody a dictator and believed they would do what's best, I'd do it. But I don't know if there is such a person. To me it just seems like people believe in and trust certain public figures to agree with them, and enact the same changes they'd want.

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  • [–] 8 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    Our first mistake as a nation was not kicking out the royalists.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    She ain't wrong

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    Maybe is we glaze the rich enough, they'll give some of their wealth to us.

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  • [–] 6 points 1 month ago

    This makes me realize that if you have a feudalism, master-slave kind of dynamic thing that you want for your life, feel free. I'm not one to judge.

    Just don't bring me into your weird little fucking kink.

    Let me make my own fucking choices.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (3 children)

    20% of people are wired this way and will seek hierarchy no matter what. Those 20% convince the morons to vote with them. That's where we're at.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    To believe someone is hard-wired a certain way is to deny their humanity. I think you should reconsider your beliefs.

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    I don't know, I would consider our hard-wiring to seek out social relationships or to love our children to be a part of what makes us human. (As part of a basket, in the sense that having four legs is part of what makes a dog a dog, but not all dogs have four legs.)

    Recognizing our wiring puts us in the best position to strategize how to work around it, if we want to. Like trying to not eat cookies from the pantry via willpower will always ultimately fail, but not having any cookies in the pantry has a good chance of preventing excessive cookie eating.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    It’s also “don’t rock the boat.” Because if society decides that rich people don’t get to be filthy rich, the rich peoppe will take it out on the peasants so they can stay as rich as possible. IOW if we don’t leave the rich people alone they’ll be mean to us and take even more.

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  • [–] 7 points 1 month ago

    The thread is so lost anymore it doesn’t even matter. In America it is just survival as America becomes Russia. You can’t defend anyone when you can’t even get your doctor visit or medication to live if you even try to rock the boat for more than 3 days. If that. Modern feudalism.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago

    They see people like Musk, and they see strength, if only because of their economic capabilities. They want a society of strength. A society where people hoard around the few to lift them up. A society that enables greatness. Somebody who can look mortality in the eyes and reject it. To bring us into the future with vitality.

    What they fail to see is that by turning the mighty into gods, we turn ourselves into coggs. In the pursuit of lifting them up, we alienate ourselves from the meaningful. Makes us sacrifice for the superficial. We become lifeless and in fear of the meaningful.

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  • [–] 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    We all have our heroes that we look up to. We all think that the other's heroes are stupid and bad and our heroes are geniuses and good.

    We all get disappointed with our heroes and inevitably find out that they were stupid and bad, too. So, we stop reading, and take a nap from noon to two a.m. Then we all get up and we are all sad

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  • [–] 4 points 1 month ago

    Musk fanboys aren’t the only ones who love hierarchy. Just about everyone will agree with the phrase “someone needs to be in charge” regardless of politics.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago

    Or they are just brainwashed, and can't fathom another type of society after ~500 years of capitalism.

    I've known far more Musk fanboys than I would have liked to, and I wouldn't say they see him or other genocidal pedophiles as gods or anything.

    In fact, it's quite difficult to describe it or compare it to anything, because that sort of blind admiration just plain doesn't make any sense, and usually contradicts their other beliefs. Which is a big sign of being affected by propaganda.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

    What's under that though? Is it another belief? Such as; some jobs are so horrible people must be forced into them? Or perhaps; life being told what to do is easier than having to decide? Or simply; I'd prefer to be cog in a great machine? Part of a team?

    Or maybe just, some jobs bad and good, only a few people are suited for them? Is it false meritocracy to hide the shame of having accepted plutocracy? Or perhaps an earnest acceptance of the game of Capital. Acceptance that ones own position must be due to ones own mistakes, and ergo, a superiors is due to their good choices? That kind of justice?

    What is it, and can we change their underlying belief?

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    I hate it, but also think it is true. A slave does not want to be free and all that - it does explain so many things

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  • [–] 11 points 1 month ago (1 child)

    My mother, and one of my nieces, think this way.

    They do a ton of work for a man they think should tell them how to live life. Even how to vote. They gladly abdicate their agency as a human so they "don't have to think about silly things like politics."

    The irony is my mother is an incredibly strong woman. But it's religion that makes her think this way. My nice is just very much a people pleaser, and her fiance is just the baby of the family, so he makes demands and expects everyone else to clean up after him.

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  • [–] 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

    Nobody inherently believes anything. They observe the world as they grow up, they listen to the things their parents and friends say, they listen to music and the media. We all are influenced by the environment around us and then we have the balls to say "I'm an independent thinker".

    I think listening to whatever someone tells you they believe is a waste of time. They don't hold fast to principles. It's some combination of regurgitating the environment back and reinforcing pleasurable experiences and removing painful experiences.

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    This is why I belive listening to what someone tells you they believe is not a waste of time, because you can then convince them otherwise.

    Ok but like.... How many people will actually change their mind?

    I've resorted to understanding their psychology. Like what assumptions are they not communicating when they share opinions? What life events pushed them to have a fearful/optimistic outlook? And then I tell them "it makes sense why you would feel this way" which sorta invites them to reconsider without being like "hey why do you think dumb things?"

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