All those people also seem to forget that you can also adopt a kid if you cannot make one btw

It’s always old people being pushy about it. Even after I tell them I’m not traditional like that. Like I want no kids, no marriage, just a low responsibility lifestyle. Some of em wanna lecture like you need guidance. Or the most offensive is when they respond with pity, like oh you poor thing. So fuckin weird and nosy. Like I would never do the same vice versa, wtf?

Very sorry for the fascists and A holes that keep on butting into your lives. 🥺🫂

But I have just gotts ask , where in the world did you meet your partner? Like dating to me feels like a diamond mine to me, I have not found anybody who wants me at all in my 7 years of asking people. But then on top of that dating as a childfree person is like like trying to find anti-matter diamonds in a diamond mine. But then on top of that dating as a childfree person who is accepting of NB gender expressions and sexuality is like trying to find ...uh.... anti-anti-matter diamonds in a mine.

Oh don’t forget the “you’ll die alone” guilt trip.

Lmao good, I hope it’s quiet.

The worst part is that most people dont have reliable access to abortion, sterilizations, birth controls or good sex education so to them it may be a 'Milestone' that they have no other choice but to do.

Had to break up with a couple people who wanted kids, finally met someone else who doesn't want them at all either and it's been great

I agree, and I’ve never met anyone trying to convince me to not have a kid.

We constantly get questioned/pressured/guilted about having kids that we’ve never wanted.

It’s just like religion, nobody is putting up billboards about atheism. It’s always the people in the group foisting their beliefs onto people outside the norm.

I think both desires (wanting kids, not wanting kids) should be considered equally valid, and both should be respected, without people trying to convince you out of your preference.

100% on board. In practice, however, you'll find that one side is a hell of a lot more pushy than the other...

I also saw this while browsing all, and don't subscribe to these kinds of communities.

However, in a world on the verge of literal destruction due to climate change, I can't help but think it's unethical to bring children into it.

This analogy doesn't really work for me, because I don't really see any benefits at all to having children.

With exercise, it's pretty obvious why you'd do it, but with kids? Honestly, I just see downsides that lead to more downsides.

To me, there is no "greater good" to having children. From where I'm standing all you guys are doing is repeatedly dropping a rock on your feet and going "see this is so much fun, you should do it too!"

No thank you. I'm glad this brings you joy or whatever, but I do in fact value my own comfort and joy and peace of mind quite highly and so I will not be doing that.

I don’t entirely disagree with you, but that is like saying people who are childfree don’t contribute to “the greater good”. I happily pay my taxes for other people’s children to be educated, I chat with the parents and kids in my neighborhood frequently, I support their school fundraisers, I helped hide a bicycle that the neighbor kid was getting for Christmas gift so it would be a surprise etc. Just because I do not have children, does not mean I do not contribute to the greater good. I push myself in other ways, I don’t need kids to push me out of my comfort zone. It’s ok that you do, but not everyone needs that

It gets incredibly tiring to be constantly told I’m not a real woman^tm^ because I don’t want children. Or that I’m going to regret it. Or that I’m not going to have anyone to take care of me when I’m old. It’s near constant up to a certain age for women to be harassed about having children from everyone when people should just mind their own business.

What’s really funny is that I live in a very family centered neighborhood with 30+ children in my cul de sac and not one of those parents have harassed me about having kids. They ask if it’s in the plans and when I say I don’t want them, they just say “that’s cool” and the conversation moves on. They are all super chill about it.

And all of my comments are from the perspective of a woman who would have very much kept and loved the child I miscarried, the child I never even knew I was pregnant with before I was miscarrying on a public restroom floor. But that was before pregnancy would have impacted my spinal fusion.

I'm still waiting for the "feel good" part of exercising to kick in. Been doing it for years, managed to lose nearly 100 pounds, and still feel like shit whenever I do it and afterwards. I'm at my happiest during the days I don't do any exercise on my days off of work. My therapist doesn't really think much of it since I get enjoyment from other things like frequent theater trips and talking to friends. Like if I could lose weight another way without paying a fuckton for surgery I'd rather do that so I can stay away from the depressed feelings.

I’m doing it for let’s say “a greater good”

If i didnt think that was batshit insane delusion i might consider having kids lmao

Idk i guess i dont want anyone to take care of me when im too old to take care of myself. And yes i yearn for the days i can chill in senior housing and nobody bothers me lol

...uhhh ....well...

If youre an EC educator or a babysitter for literal babeis youll DEFINITELY find out whst its like to have kids...

(Heads up, Ive found that theyre too destructive and expensive for my liking. Others may discover the same...)

edit: I would say the only part you dont get to experience is the birthing process.

Everything after thst the birth is the boring , expensive, 'gotdamn kid wont listen to me even though Im tryna give him life advice' part lol

Well, I know what it's like to not have them, so I'm perfectly okay with never finding out what it's like to have them.

I know what it's like to not have them, and I enjoy that feeling far too much to be bothered to find out what it's like to have them.

I choose redneck fun uncle who will help the kids bury a body.

you will know the pain it is to do not have them.

What the hell are you on about?

So when nerds are excited about something they won't shut up? We'll instead of a gameshow, programming paradigm, current research, global event

I'm a consummate nerd. We have a turn of phrase for the kind of person you're describing who constantly talks at people who don't share their interests, and cannot take a hint: we call them "insufferable assholes"^*^

^*unless they're neurodivergent and/or the thing they're talking about is actually critically important^

As a child free married person, you might need to describe the misery you are referring to.