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itll make a turd, as someone once told me. the only thing you need to be careful of with MREs is that theyre usually very lacking in fiber, so they can give you pretty bad constipation if you arent supplementing with some other fiber source and drinking enough water. i definitely got some constipation that summer i worked as a wildland firefighter. there were a lot of weeks where most of the food i ate was MREs, and it was fine other than that.

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    im becoming progressively more fatigued by the presence of someone in my main friend group, and i dont know what to do about it. its not that shes a bad person or anything, but shes careless of my personal space even though she knows i dont want her to touch me and she oscillates between being extremely quiet and way overly apologetic about shit that doesnt matter and being excessively loud and overexcited. as a neurodivergent person i understand where shes coming from. part of whats making her grate on me is that i used to be more like that and its kind of uncomfortable being around someone dealing with emotional issues ive worked past, but a lot of it is its just... as much as it pains me to say it, annoying. i find her annoying. ugh i hate feeling that way about someone. i kind of want to stop being around her but we're in the same friend group so i cant really avoid her entirely, and i dont see confronting her about her behavior being productive. so yeah idk what to do about it so im just ruminating on it, probably pointlessly.

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  • [–] 4 points 7 hours ago

    what a braindead take. you actually just skipped history entirely didnt you? look up prohibition for a summary of what happens when you try to make anything people are motivated to do illegal. literally all it accomplishes is wasting a fuck load of government money, handing money and power to drug dealers, and getting a ton of people hurt. the harder you try to enforce it the more money and power you hand to people willing to break the law to meet the demand and the more money and effort you waste.

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  • [–] 9 points 14 hours ago (1 child)

    obviously this would cause major problems irl, but it would be interesting to know what the actual effects would be, like environmentally. the gravity of the moon would be unaffected, but never getting light from the moon might fuck up a lot of the night time activities of animals.

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  • [–] 5 points 1 day ago

    i definitely had a lot of sexual dysphoria without realizing it when i was an egg. i had pretty much every symptom a "man" would feel bad about; difficulty getting erections, difficulty maintaining erections, difficulty achieving orgasm with a partner, etc. during sex i would feel good initially but eventually my dick would get numb and i literally couldnt feel it at all no matter what i did. it really fucked me up for a long time because i didnt know what was wrong or what to do about it, and some partners took it personally. turns out i just didnt like fucking as a man at all and would dissociate from my dick more the more masculine i felt. being on hormones for a while that has thankfully stopped. i can even top without going numb now, but im realizing im much more of a subby bottom. it gets easier over time, and its a journey for all of us.

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    its not too bad. depending on the laser unit and settings it might not hurt at all, but will probably hurt some. personally i find the magnitude of the pain isnt very high but its very sudden when the laser pulses. the suddenness is worse for me than drawn out pain for some reason, even if the pain has the same peak. regardless the first time is the worst and the pain lessens with every treatment as the hairs are damaged.

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  • [–] 25 points 2 days ago (2 children)

    apparently an unpopular opinion here but bare vaginas are my favorite. not shaved necessarily because shaving is kinda the worst way to remove any hair but especially in such a sensitive area. it usually results in razor bumps, ingrown hairs, and pokey stubble no matter how well you shave. anyway my reasons are a little atypical since its not really about aesthetics for me. being gay i like to do lots of things with vaginas, and being autistic i find i have some sensory issues around hair, especially in my mouth. sooo i tend to prefer bare vaginas. as for myself im lasering my pubes off and it would be fantastic if shaving became unnecessary at some point.

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    ive been having kind of a hard time the past few weeks, unrelated to personal life stuff ive been dealing with. ive just been feeling kind of depressed and unmotivated, and having a really hard time making myself take my prog. i didnt really connect it with how i was feeling. well the last few days ive actually been taking it and wouldnt you know it ive been feeling much better lol. its kinda crazy how big of a difference it makes. like the sort of dark sucking emotional void in my chest switched to a warm little glow, which is so much better. take your prog (up the butt) girlies.

     

    dont know how to feel about it tbh. i was hoping for a clean resolution one way or the other, but life is never that easy. they basically said they dont agree with what im doing (transitioning) but that they want me in their life and love me and im still their child and nothing is going to change that. which sounds kinda like what i would want them to say, but i asked if they would use she/her pronouns for me and my dad responded by asking why it matters and trying to dodge giving a straight answer, and eventually said they wouldnt. of course they had to bring God^TM^ into it a couple times. i said they could try or they would never see me again and i guess that had some impact because they didnt actually say they would try but i got the impression i got through to them a little. they want to talk again in a couple weeks.

    i guess its progress. idk i just feel like im doing all of this wrong. this whole thing has made me feel so alone. i wish theyd have been horrible bigots it would make this easier.

     

    hey yall. thanks to everybody who responded for the feedback on my last post. just wanted to give a little update on what i decided, and yeah i decided to come out to them after all. after thinking about it for a while i decided that if i do go no contact with them i would prefer that it be a clean break, rather than just ghosting them and having to wonder how they would have responded if i told them. now i get to know and if it does end up going predictably bad at least it will be over.

    i sent the text id been sitting on for months to my whole immediate family in the family group text, like 20 minutes ago. no one has said anything, and its a few hours later where they are so they might not see it tonight, but i sent it and thats enough for now. i immediately blocked both my parents so i dont have to worry about dodging their texts or calls until im ready to look at what they say. im hoping my younger sister will be supportive at least, and i know my older sister is because i came out to her a while ago.

    anyway thats all. thanks again for everything you said. it helped a lot. i might have another update before too long lol.

    edit: the text i sent is copied below if anyone is curious to read it

    Hey everybody,

    Got some big news to share. It's been difficult to figure out how to say it and I'm pretty worried about your reactions, especially with politics the way they are these days, but I have to eventually so here we are. I'm a trans woman. I've been going by NAME and using she/her pronouns. I'm sure you've heard a lot of lies about people like me on the news, and you probably have a lot of questions. The short story is I realized a couple years ago, but a part of me has known my whole life. I worked so hard to deny it and hide it for way too long but I can't anymore. I started hormonal transition a little more than a year ago, and it makes me happier than I ever thought I could be. I'm going to continue with it but beyond that I don't have concrete plans.

    I'm hoping you can come to accept me as I am. I wont be receptive to any attempts to convince me to change my mind, so please don't try. It would only hurt me and push me away. I'm telling you who I am so that you know, and hopefully so I can finally be my real self around you. You may be surprised to learn that I haven't been for a very long time. I realize this might be a lot for you to take in. Please take a few days to process before you try to contact me so we can talk calmly.

    Sorry to do this over text, but I couldn't bring myself to say the words to you out loud.

    Your daughter/sister, NAME

     

    i cracked my egg a couple years ago and have been on hormones for over a year now, but i still havent been able to come out to my parents. ive had a coming out text saved in my phone for months at this point but i havent been able to send it. every time i think about trying i get this horrible sinking feeling like no matter how well i write it, how clear i am, how gently i tell them, no matter what its going to go badly.

    as for why, theres lots of reasons. theyre republicans and religious, while im pretty far left and an anti-religion atheist. they were authoritarian when i was growing up and loved to use shame and punishment (both physical and emotional) to pressure me into doing what they wanted. they never listened to me when i was a kid and treated me like i was their property rather than a person who they were responsible for caring for. it always felt like they just wanted me to be a perfect little emotionless robot who did whatever they wanted. im not doing the pain of being their child justice here at all. its honestly hard to describe how bad it was, just like a constant low level psychological torture. after i moved out i got a girlfriend and brought her to visit for the holidays a couple times, but they wouldnt even let us sleep in the same room even though we were living together... like they couldnt even accept premarital sex from their (presumed) neurotypical cishet son, how tf are they going to accept a trans fem poly lesbian neurodivergent daughter? they acted so disappointed and concerned when i showed up with a couple piercings... wtf are they going to do when i show up with boobs?

    im really worried that even if i can bring myself to tell them theyll use the same tactics they did when i was a kid. more than anything i dont want to suffer their attempts to talk me out of it, to suggest theres something wrong with me, to suggest im somehow wrong or brainwashed or something. i worry theyll parrot fox news talking points at me which amount to transphobic propaganda. theyve done that for years on other topics like climate change. i doubt even if i can get past all that theyll ever gender me correctly or call me by my chosen name if i ever decide to change it.

    so yeah im thinking about going no contact, just cutting them off entirely. i kept thinking i should at least try to come out to them, give them one final chance to show me they arent the horrible people they showed me they were my whole life, but over the months of trying to work myself up to telling them ive come to the conclusion it might not even be worth the attempt. we barely have a relationship at all right now, just one or two short phone calls a year i kinda just suffer through. its coming up on two years since i visited them, and they live literally thousands of miles away. it would be so easy to just never see or talk to them again and theres literally nothing i want from them at this point.

    i guess this is more of a rambling vent post than anything. maybe part of me wants someone to give me permission to finally be done with them, but i know i only need my own permission. something keeps holding me back. i guess the societal conditioning runs deep... ugh anyway thanks for coming to my ted talk.

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