Although having "female" parts and hormones is honestly way better IMHO, it doesn't have downsides in terms of sexuality. It takes a lot more time to be fully satisfied, and the majority of men don't have the patience or care to help you get off or they think the first time you have a little contraction that you're done. It's no wonder so many women fake it, though I wish more would communicate instead, though I know that can be risky with a subset of men so it's often not worth the risk. And female parts require more maintenance and decent bras are super expensive. And emotions are definitely different with estrogen dominance, so you have to develop some new skills, but I prefer the deeper experience of sadness over the stronger feeling of anger (part of that is hormone driven and part is cultural allowances).

Anyway, just generalizing here, but there are some disadvantages. I'm mostly lesbian, so a lot of that is mitigated since we both understand the logistics and most feel more comfortable communicating. Most sex I've had with people with vaginas and estrogen dominance is often a multiple hour long adventure rather than just a few minutes, which can be good or bad, lol. And it does mean relationships require more emotional maintenance (though honestly it's dumb that many cis-het and gay men relationships don't have that).

Anyway, I'm happy to clarify if anyone is interested and respectful. There are pluses and minuses, but for me the pluses greatly outweigh the minuses. And I've felt so much more comfortable in my body since I had genital dysphoria and "phantom genital" issues most of my life, even if I didn't understand that was what was up for most of it. 🙂

Yeah I mean, I think that is a very important thing to explore if you're in a safe mental space to do so; it can be surprisingly grievous in my experience.

Like you, I never really complained about having a penis, and since I was always kind of annoyed with having one, I thought everyone elso also simply tolerated their penises. I've always felt like it gets in the way, gets uncomfortable, annoying to piss with (seriously, why tf do we still let men piss standing up in any other place than a public urinal?). So, it came as a bit of a surprise to me when I heard that men actually enjoyed having one, especially after the insane shit I could see cis women do for sexual pleasure, like you mentioned above.

I didn't mind topping, I didn't mind being the one that leads during sex, or takes on more aggressive/dominant, masculinized roles, but never once did I feel fulfilled by that. Obviously, penetrative sex can still feel very good strictly in terms of physical sensation, but yeah, it's nothing I go for except for exceptionally rare cases.

The reason why I said "grievous," is because this realization actually hurt a lot when it came to me. It wasn't that I was just exceptionally sexually deviant, or desensitized by porn and sexual violence, I just had an entire lifetime of sexual understanding and fulfillment kept from me. It honestly gets deeper down into your psyche than you realize.

I completely get the kinks (I seriously don't think piss counts as weird or gross, especially for people who may have very deeply rooted discomfort with anything associated with their genitals). But yeah, I discovered that a lot of my own sexual tastes were rooted in a fundamental dissatisfaction and neglect, and even though I may enjoy many of the same kinks, the way I used to enjoy them more closely resembled self-harm than sexual pleasure; which comes with its own sort of grieving.

This isn't to say you're engaging in self-harm yourself, but just to put it out there if you're worried that this may be the case. It's completely normal to question your enjoyment of "male-"coded sexual acts, and you may even continue to enjoy them once you understand how they relate to yourself rather than what you've been socialized to use a penis for.

Can we please stop talking about how "women" feel as if they are like something different than us (trans) women. You all seem to be mostly fine talking about penises why cant you talk urethras vulvas, vaginas, labias... Everything else will just result in (accidental) transphobia

This post has a content warning as well but my comment has some pretty sexual content so I'm spoilering it.

So I have a similar kind of envy for the type of pleasure it seems women get out of sex. The thing that has recently been working for me has been nipple play/stimulation.  My nipples were never super sensitive, but I started doing suctioning on them just with some homemade 10cc syringes with the ends cut off.  This causes the nipples to get very puffy and engorged and much more similar to the size and presumably the sensitivity of female nipples.  I've found that after doing this, with just gentle stimulation I can get waves of pleasure radiating through my body with the lightest touch.  Lightly brushing/circling the nipples with my fingertips has even brought me remarkably close to orgasm.  I think I could actually orgasm from it with enough patience and the right mindset, but I usually end up getting too worked up and going back to the usual method, but combined with one hand still playing with my nipples the orgasm is incredibly intense and much more drawn out, very similar to what it seems women experience.  Sometimes I even visualize and imagine as my fingertips are circling the way women play with their clits. It's only been a few weeks but holy fuck the orgasms are unbelievable, and it makes me feel incredibly sexy when my nipples are all puffy and sensitive. Using the suction occasionally (once or twice a week) has also made them much more sensitive just in general though as well, which is pretty great. I haven't experimented with any of this with any partners yet, it's been a solo journey so far, but I thought I'd share because it's honestly been mindblowing. 

Edit* I don't know why but the spoiler tag isn't working unless I do it like this and I'm too tired to figure it out right now

I'm cis and male but i feel the same about my body in many ways.

I know that envy is kind of an unfortunate reaction but I indeed am envious of the female body.

My male organs seem way too focused on finishing rather than enjoying and I've always been kinda sad about that. From what I've read, prostate Os are the closest to what women feel, but I've yet to figure that out... And my body doesn't seem very sensitive in general...