Counterpoint: your coworker is attractive and they don't need to be a goddess among trolls to be worthy of interest.

Instructions unclear, dated attractive co-worker in 2007. She farted on our first date, loud enough to be heard over the music and loud drunks at a steakhouse.

We've been married 17 years.

How I met my wife.

And how she met the guy she divorced me for.

Speak for yourself. My bosses are all 50 plus year old perverts, so they're only hiring incredibly attractive women.

Sometimes going into work sucks for me the way it might feel for a goblin sewer cleaner to walk out into the city.

Counterpoint: my place of business hired a person who was a regular customer that I found distressingly attractive, like "Oh no, that hot customer is back, okay don't be weird, give them their space."

Once I worked with them for a few months I found out they were a total space cadet. I didn't suddenly find them un-attractive, but I definitely revised my estimation such that their presence was no longer a problem.

I find the inverse true. I work at a place that has a few women I thought were very attractive. Now that I've worked with them for years, I'm over it

If I spend 40 hours a week with someone and still I'm attracted to them then they're attractive and probably a nice person.

One of my coworkers is physically extremely attractive but to be honest I would quite like to have her beaten to death with a mallet. No amount of attractiveness can overcome her lazy petty vindictiveness.

This explains why my wife-to-be showed any interest at all in me at first.

Isn’t that what they call an “office 8”?

You also get to walk away from your coworker and not think about them every day at the same time, which luxury is no longer available when you become a couple.

OOP's statement still holds up for some of us who work alone.

Don't insult my mom like that

Almost seems backwards. If you’re spending that much time in close proximity to a person and you are finding them attractive, that would seem to be a good sign.

Oh god. It went from threads to reddit to lemmy. I want to hurl.

My coworker IS attractive. My coworker is also my spouse.

As the Sapnish saying goes "el roce hace el cariño", that roughly translates as "you get fond of the people you spend time with"

That is why I know they are attractive, both inside and out.

This is so fucking stupid I can't every single time I see it.

Every situation is different.

I've been married to a former coworker for 10 years. She's incredible.

Generalizations are stupid

What if you thought they were hot as soon as you started? It has happened to me and I am pretty sure they were attractive.

Isnt it reasonable? that the people you spend so much time with would build trust?

I wish. Couple of newly added women that are annoyingly attractive. I don't work closely enough with them for the 10 ft thing to apply, but I work in a big city so these things happen. Still not gonna be a creep tho.

The Propinquity Effect: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-you-and-me/202203/the-role-of-familiarity-in-attraction

Actually there's a woman at my company who I see about once a month. No idea what her name is or what building/team she works in. She's one of the most attractive women I've ever seen. Like, I can count on my fingers how many times I've seen a woman that attractive in my whole life.

Lies, lies, lies. I'm gonna ask her out and she how my life will end. Rejected and fired for sexual harassment? Or blackmailed after the first hot night? /joke

Hey, I can be two things 😢