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[–] 73 points 4 months ago* (7 children)

Maturity is realising there is no such thing as an adult but still behaving like one at specific times because you understand that that is the better way to get things done in that setting.

Everyone grows up, many people can behave in an adult way (including children), but actually maturity often still feels rare.

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  • [–] 11 points 4 months ago* (1 child)

    Counterpoint: Noone grows up, some people are just better at hiding it. (Or activly choose not to)

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  • [–] 9 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    I tried out the whole traditional adult thing, and honestly, I'm a lot happier watching cartoons and playing video games.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago*

    I haven't watched cartoons in a long time and now I want to see Wiley Coyote running off a cliff with a bomb...

    ... while drinking beer.

    edit: I'm drinking the beer not Wiley... or the Road Runner.

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  • [–] 4 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    I’m not even sure there is such a thing as behaving in an adult way. Everyone above us does not act “adult” so if we do that hurts us. If you’re expected to act civil all of the time while the president gets to be that then it becomes a class separation and we lose.

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  • [–] 21 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    A lot of people never grow out of high school, that's why socially things tend to be so shitty.

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  • [–] 7 points 4 months ago (3 children)

    And why the thread about cooking for one's self is full of people that think cooking food is a fancy, out of reach dream only for wealthy land owners or something, and that ordering Door Dash chicken tendies is a good use of money that only the most clever Poors know about.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    With depression it can be hard to work up the will to cook sometimes. But when I do, I make a significant batch of food that's tastier and more nutritious than what I can order out. As well people seem to over estimate the cost of produce though I know some live in food deserts who don't have a lot of access to it.

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  • [–] 36 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    Most don't have spatial awareness at all though...

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  • [–] 21 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    That is true.

    Source: I've been to Costco.

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  • [–] 9 points 4 months ago

    You could just say you've been out in public at any point in your life.

    But also the airport would have worked. I fucking hate people at the airport. As soon as they get off the plane, if there's ever more than two people in a group, they'll immediately spread out and take up an entire goddamn hallway as they walk should-to-shoulder to their next gate; and they make sure to go slow and randomly stop to check their phones.

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  • [–] 8 points 4 months ago

    last week in the subway, there were two people chatting right at the base of the escalator, other passengers were awkwardly shoving past them.

    When I got to them I said "you are going to take the escalator or not?" they didn't reply, but quickly jump into the escalator, then they got out they just stood there continuing talking, at the top. I naturally got shoved into them and told me to look where I was going.

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  • [–] 17 points 4 months ago

    Everyone is just winging it, power is given to those who are the best at convincingly promising things.

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  • [–] 30 points 4 months ago (5 children)

    Plenty of adults lack spatial awareness

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  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago (2 children)

    It's actually crazy to see someone hike who has spent their entire life on flat surfaces. It's like you have to coach them through rough rocky sections.

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago (1 child)

    Have they never seen staircases? Lol

    Rocky inclines are just less consistent staircases

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago

    That's exactly it, when you never have to think about where your foot needs to go, it's overwhelming when every step requires a decision.

    Like I've ran a trail race with an injury so I was mostly walking or slow jogging. People would be faster than me on roads connecting the mountains, but I would pass them on the trails just by virtue of being good at running on rocks and uneven ground.

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  • [–] 3 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    Adult basically means being able to reproduce offspring. Not intelligence related, thats being able to graduate in school.

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  • [–] 12 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

    I finally felt like a grown-up when I realized I don't know what I'm doing, I never will, and neither does anyone else.

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  • [–] 10 points 4 months ago (4 children)

    I never had a moment where I suddenly felt like an adult, but at some point all the adults in my life stopped feeling like superiors and started feeling more like peers. So by then I guess I was one of them.

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  • [–] 5 points 4 months ago

    I can look back on different ages and see how much more adulty I am today. I thought I was smart and mostly an adult at 18, but I remember thinking people in the low 20s were notably older than me. Then when I was in my upper 20s, I realized just how wrong I was. I feel the upper 20s was a bit of a turning point for me but mostly because I got married which is a major adult life event. Now in my upper 30s, I can see how yound I was in my upper 20s.

    I 100% agree, with that feeling of older people just being my peers. Hitting the workforce full-time and working with other adults that have been doing it for decades really opens your eyes a bit. Now I have a boss 10 years younger than me and a new guy in my team 10 years older. Other than the older guy and me getting each other's dated references, were all pretty much the same socially. I usually forget there's an age gap unless I specifically point it out.

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  • [–] 6 points 4 months ago (1 child)

    I never got the better spatial awareness. Still stepping on cats, whacking my elbows on door handles and knocking things off counters.

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    I'm a late 40's child with more money for more expensive toys.

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  • [–] 2 points 4 months ago

    Most adults are big children.

    FTFY

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    Seems a monotheistic idea. What if we’re all old, but we just return to our age as we age?

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  • [–] 1 point 4 months ago

    From our perspective yes. When we look at our younger selves we see naivete and such and a lack of experienced wisdom. Fact is though that at any particular point in time we think of everyone as being like where we are at. Sure you think someone is older or younger but when working in a peer group we are all pretty much the same for the task we are doing only being differentiated by the ability we have for the task.

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