They don't work together anymore. So….he has a friend?
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Book the dinner. Spill the tea. Crack the plates.
That's what Bilbo Baggins hates!
I don't know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve.
This insult has the highest ratio of courtesy and eloquence to psychosocial damage in the history of insults.
I’ve never gotten it as an effective insult, tbh. It boils down to:
I wish I knew half of you better, and I’m a crab about some of you
No? If he doesn’t like them as well as they deserve, then the “problem” is with him, not them. It’s definitely not welcoming, but it’s not exactly insulting if I’m reading it right.
Assuming he’s not cheating with her (emotionally or physically), this is called having a friend.
"Cheating emotionally"? What is that?
like if buddy here was behaving romantically towards his 'work wife' without the consent of his actual wife.
What does "behaving romantically" mean, though? Can they go see a movie together? People become emotionally intimate with their friends, and it seems pretty fucked up to claim that's cheating.
It probably depends on the person/couple. But if he were being emotionally intimate with the work colleague in a way he wasn't with his actual spouse that could be problematic.
If your wife/husband would love someone else, but didn't act on it, would you be fine with that? If not, then you understand emotionally cheating because that is why you don't like it.
That's reductive and throws away most of the meaning. A cell mate is not just someone you live with.
The term "work wife" is so gross.
She was a colleague, and now she's a friend. It's fine to have colleague's and friends but when you start referring to them as some kind of pseudo romantic but professional counterpart it's just weird.
I just assume they are cheating on any actual spouse either one has.
Yeah any time I've heard the term work wife/husband, it was implied they were hooking up.
I’ve had a “work wife” who was a guy and later one who was a girl. I guarantee in both cases I was not hooking up with either one.
Yea every so often one of you shows up to provide cover for the cheaters.
Work wife refers to more than just a colleague. Friend or bestie would fit, however. Work wife describes a particular type of friendship that is quite common for people working closely together who don't get romantic.
This is an argument in semantics.
Perhaps you define this relationship as platonic, but a non-zero portion of the public think it implies something else.
You can tell by the fact that straight men never have a "work husband"
I'm a straight guy with a work husband?
Asked him and a few other work colleagues, but they agree work husband is accurate. Although we technically use a non-english word, work husband is the best english translation.
Maybe it's an english speaking hangup. I say this as a person who english is thier first language.
I'm in the latter category. "Wife" of any kind involves close emotional connection and probably sexy times.
You can say that a work wife doesn't include sexy times, and maybe that's true for almost everyone using the term. But close emotional connection?
Friends are fine. Close friends even. But if you're relying on anyone besides your wife/spouse for close emotional connection/support, you're begging for trouble.
How did your wife become your wife in the first place? Likely your emotional connection started first, then the sexual. The same thing can happen with your "work wife". It's a risk I'm not willing to take.
Maybe none of this is true for people using the term, maybe they just mean a good friend at work who they click with and can therefore get a lot of work done efficiently together. Ok good, great even, but I recommend using a different word to describe it, because "work wife" implies something else to most people.
Or at least that's how I feel about all that 🤷♂️
Don’t get romantic (usually, but would if they could) fixed it for you ;).
How about work mommy? I've had bosses who basically treated me like one of their kids.
Work wife.

And ... does he have a home wife? A weekend wife? A holiday wife? A doctor's waiting room wife? A golf course wife?
... Oh honey, don't you? My waiting room husband has some availability; I'll put you two in touch.
When you get older your coworkers are work son and work daughter. I’m their work uncle.
Wait until you discover the "regular wife" that keeps being your wife even outside work.
Not in the employees code of conduct. Report that to HR
The guy probably has a regular husband, which is why he felt comfortable posting this.
Take a work wife (which is already a psychotic term), remove the "work" part, and act like you invented this new type of relationship...
What are you even talking about!?
Tech morons are always acting like they've just discovered fundamental features of the human experience for the very first time.
My work wife was a tiny Sicilian guy named Bruno. He doesn't work for us any more, but I still miss our walks into town to get lunch.
I mean you can just call her a "very good friend"? Or "one of my best friends". I am sure this will have a positive impact on your real wive's psychology too if you are married.
The expression “Bestie” is pretty weird in Germany, as it is pronounced besty-uh and literally translates to “wild animal” or “monster”. “Larissa was a real “Bestie” in bed last night; I’m completely bruised and scratched all over. Glad I have my work wife!”
Absolutely detested the only place I've worked at that I ever heard this term being used
I'm sure his SO doesn't see her as an emotional affair threat.
You know what, seal Hormuz up again.
i have great news
You could not pay me enough money to admit something like this publicly, yet bro just did it for free. Lmao.
Semantics aside, I wonder how she would describe the same relationship and what prompted him to post this in the first place.
most of my colleagues are women, I get along with them great. We occasionally socialize a couple of times a year outside work. I would be mortified for anyone to think they were anything more than purely colleagues.
like I wouldn't really be happy to think of them as friends - not that they're not lovely people, just that I have my friends who are friends, and these are nice people I work with.
I'm bald so I don't remember ... is that what hair is supposed to look like?
Intersting the way people assume "wife" means sex, and not the more likely analogy that she does all the shitty work to aid his career.
Wife implies sex. The whole thing is usually “we would be fucking if we weren’t married to other people”. They can deny it all they want, but it’s mostly true.
I've had a "work wife" or two at every job I've had. Most of them were married, and I never hooked up with them. One of them told me she loved me, and divorced her husband because she wanted someone like me, even though we never so much as kissed. Two of them (single) became girlfriends, so not really "work wives." I had two bosses' wives hit on me, which I avoided. I haven't kept in touch with any of them.
There are a lot of women in the art and design field.

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