It worked for me :) Found my awesome husband there. Agreed though, there are definitely women who expect to be pursued.

I get called sexist for this, but I think this is basically the reason catfish scams work so easily on older women. When a man comes out of nowhere acting interested in you its just normal. Been a bit rare lately, but it doesnt immediately invoke suspicion.

When i get a message on any platform from a woman, especially unprompted, I immediately ignore it. So often now to the point that they're as invisible as popup ads.

Look at it from the other side: it worked for people who wanted the kind of relationship where women aren't the ones being chased and set a more even ground.
The problem is that it is a for profit business and the proportion of such relationship seekers is small. More women just like being chased... Bumbe is still around, they didn't fail, but they had to let this model go, because they wanted more profit.

Out of curiosity, what do you mean with failed? Isn't it around and kicking?

4 comments to misogyny, y'all giving reddit a run for their money.

What's a gae lic?

True, but even in dating apps where you can easily access individuals in this demographic, they still struggle. Women in general are just extremely more selective than men. Gay men, for example, don't have this issue.

In my experience, it depends on if they genuinely hate all men or not. When you see the opposite gender as an enemy you need to defeat, you stop seeing them as people. From there, it's easy to apply that toxicity to other people of your gender that you see as traitors to your cause. You start to judge everyone by their adherence to gender roles, even if you see yourself as smarter than others who uphold the patriarchy. That is the nature of an incel regardless of if their gender.

That said, I anecdotally find that sapphics are rarely incels, even if they get no bitches. It's easier to not be consumed by your resentment of men when you don't even need date them (note, that this is distinctly different from political lesbians who are only sapphic for ideological reasons; those people are trash). Even if one casually thinks all men are trash, they aren't forced into conflict with men unless those men approach them first. I suspect it's the same with gay men who are lonely; even when they are misogynistic, it's not as much of a problem.

It’s a very mixed bag from funny trolling to completely unacceptable and debilitating misandry.

They often are